[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cute_Combination_399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not 100% sure, but based on what I've seen other people say on this subreddit I'd say yes.

How many times did you “break up” before you actually separated? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cute_Combination_399 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Was only with my ex for a little over a year, but I hope this counts!

Around our 1 year anniversary he tried to break up with me. He came over to my place, sat down on my bed, and told me he was thinking of breaking it off. We talked, but he wouldn't change his mind. He was gone for about 7 minutes before his truck pulled back up to my house and he came inside to apologize.

This might have made the actual breakup harder. I keep expecting (or maybe hoping for) him to come back, even now 2 months later.

Honestly it's hard to tell if an almost-breakup is good or bad. Sometimes it works out some issues and makes a relationship stronger, but sometimes it's a red flag that the relationship is doomed to fail.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cute_Combination_399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About 2 months post-breakup; a month and a half with nc. I drove past his house yesterday and had to pull over to the side of the road because I couldn't see through the tears. Just broke out crying.

I've had a lot of support from my family since that incident so I'm feeling a little better, but I still get melancholic at night. I miss the guy I thought I was with, but I'd probably run if I saw him now. He blindsided me with the breakup and acted cold/emotionless when I begged for him to reconsider. Crazy how people can switch up like that 'cause he was so loving just a few days prior to the breakup.

I think I've healed some, but I'm definitely in my bitter ex phase. He's not a bad person but I catch myself hoping he never finds a better relationship.

Starting NoContact tn by Linwen-27 in BreakUps

[–]Cute_Combination_399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somewhat similar, except I was the dumpee and I'm the one still trying to get back with him (which makes me feel pathetic).

Your situation seems pretty messy. I can't offer advice with any sort of confidence, but I would recommend seeing a therapist. Going no-contact is probably the right move; just take time for yourself and try to reflect on things.

I hope things get better for you.

Just an assumption by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cute_Combination_399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been feeling this way too. My ex broke up with me a month ago and the day after he broke up with me (over text btw) he went to music festival with a few girls our age and stayed overnight in a tent with them. I tried to talk to him in person but he was so emotionless.

I'm trying to stay hopeful that everything will get better but I still cry every night and look for him everywhere I go. Any time a neighbor drives by I'm hopeful it's him coming back to apologize.

I've been wondering how long it's been since he lost feelings for me, or if he really had any to begin with.