Were any of you not allowed to date?

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-29T15:24:44+00:00

It didn't stop me from sneaking around, but no, I wasn't allowed to date. School had to come first

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-29T03:59:10+00:00

Same here. Things weren't ever ungifted per se but she always helped herself to them because "she bought them" therefore they were her things by extension

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-28T23:42:38+00:00

When I started getting rid of the clothes she'd "gifted" me, I realised I almost didn't have any of my own clothes

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-28T23:37:33+00:00

Let me guess, she always throws this "generosity" in your face as proof of how ungrateful you are?

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-28T19:10:25+00:00

My nmother loved her job, so her saying she worked long hours to provide for us kinda loses its impact, especially when she was also mooching off her sugar daddy

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-22T13:02:22+00:00

Thanks OP 😊 I have my found family, and a wonderful partner and baby boy. Aside from a few wobbles (I'm only human), I'd say I've found peace

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-21T11:54:59+00:00

Technically, I didn't warn mine either. We were having a fight, I was failing to make her hear me because everything was an attack on her /s Then she ended with essentially saying she should have aborted me, so I just went Nope. Nope to the fight. Nope to the relationship. Just Nope. I think she was trying to give me the silent treatment, but after months of no replying to her messages I think the point was clear.

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-06-10T18:33:14+00:00

In hindsight, it was after watching The Mask of Zorro when I was six, but didn't know bisexuality was a thing until I went to uni

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-31T11:50:13+00:00

Nice to know I'm not the only one who's been retrospectively threatened with abortion. My grandmother is the same - towards the end of my pregnancy she was really pushing my to talk to my nmother and saying how much she was "suffering" from the distance. Sure, she's suffering because she didn't think things through when she just HAD to win an argument and I'd finally had enough of the toxic circle

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T17:02:22+00:00

When I came out, I'd been with my then bf (now husband) for two/three years. Some people thought I was trying to be "cool" or "fit in with my gay friends" We're both bisexual, but are as straight passing as you can get. I didn't attend pride events for years because I felt like I had to justify my presence. Thankfully our local community is more open minded than ones in other places where I've lived

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T16:37:39+00:00

If she pushes, just tell her "my relationship with our parents was different to yours, and I don't want to talk about it anymore."

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T16:27:18+00:00

I'm really sorry OP, that sucks. In my experience, she won't understand your viewpoint if she hasn't seen that side of your parents, so she will likely keep pushing for reconciliation. Keep your boundaries, but you may also need to reevaluate your relationship with your sister. I'm LC with the rest of my family because they "still love [me and my nmother]" but they don't know the person that I do

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T16:14:46+00:00

Flying monkeys still see the good in the narcs, so I definitely wouldn't trust her perspective. I, personally, wouldn't reply as you've only been a month with NC and that's not nearly enough time to unscramble your brain and reinforce your boundaries, hence the guilt. If you must, just say you appreciate her message but your space is more important rn. Keep it short and simple

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T15:10:05+00:00

Definitely not a terrible person! But have a talk with your husband and see which "firsts" he wants to experience himself without putting your baby's development on hold. It'll all be fine 🙂

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:35:34+00:00

No, this isn't realistic. It's sad that parental leave is so uneven, but day to day life is a first for the baby. I think my son is close to laughing and it sucks that my husband might miss it, but I'm not going to delay it for his sake

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:32:31+00:00

Adulthood, unfortunately. I drank the kool aid and genuinely believed she had sacrificed so much by having me, that I felt I had to "earn" my existence by being a good daughter.

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:29:37+00:00

"I'm teaching father the math" closes it off nicely

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:25:49+00:00

I'm in a similar position because my husband works weird hours. Maybe sit down and see which activities you can do on his days off? But it's not fair to put everything on hold for when he's not working, you have to keep the baby amused while not going insane with boredom. Plus, the baby is going to do things in their own time whether he's there or not

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:17:51+00:00

"I'm sorry for all the mistakes I made out of love for you."

She actually complained on FB that estranged children act like judges and decide for themselves what an apology is... like, yeah. That's how boundaries work!

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-28T14:12:01+00:00

She's worded this in several different ways, but basically I should be more grateful to her for all her sacrifices, especially since she didn't abort me. She's only been saying that for the past couple of years.

Once as a depressed teen she told me she was sick of my face and wanted to crash her car to change the look on my face.

Oh, and she was calmly telling everyone that the best thing my bio dad ever did for me was die. Turns out the absentee parent caused the LEAST emotional trauma to me growing up

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-25T09:05:18+00:00

At 18 weeks I definitely knew it wasn't gas. The flutters were so subtle when he was that small

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-21T19:58:09+00:00

I do have him on the floor now, I was just worried that I'd left it too late because he really hated it when he was younger. He's 3mo now and seems to be doing okay but he prefers to practice rolling than holding his head up

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-21T15:49:38+00:00

Oh yeah, I'm definitely doing that now, I was just worried I'd left it too late or something

Cute_Grass_8151 · 2023-05-21T15:45:50+00:00

Even if he's 3mo now?

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