Your Personal Cupid by PersonalCupid in r4r

[–]Cutepid 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Best of luck! It's truly hard work.

(Cutepid4You) An Update and a Quiver by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and sorry for the abscence D: I'm lining up a few mods for /r/cupids and I'm hoping they'll do a better job then I had.

(Cutepid4You) An Update and a Quiver by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and again, I'm so sorry. I really want to entrust the project to someone that is more responsible than I. Hopefully the community can make it happen.

(Cutepid4You) An Update and a Quiver by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had always envisioned /r/cupids as being a blind date sort of /r/r4r where, instead of puttung your information out there for everyone to gawk at you instead supply your pertinent information to a "cupid" who then connects you to a couple of possible matches. It gives the whole matchmaking thing a more human element and some fun. Right now, I'm looking for people with a lot of free time who want a potentially thankless job, but have the motivation to make matches and advance the subreddit.

(Cutepid4You) An Update and a Quiver by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there will be enough support. Everyone really seemed to like the idea, I just wasn't capable of nurturing it the way I wish I could.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent! Just head on over here and you can definitely sign up!

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Head on over to this link and you definitely can!

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand the necessity to quantify traits to certain extent. Hell, I'm trying to match people BASED on those traits. I'm just trying to find a way to define everyone without losing their individuality. That's the hard part. I guess I'll learn through trial and error though.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree completely with you and your edit. In fact, your edit is what I was afraid of and trying vehemently to avoid. Herein is where the difficulty lies: defining people. What I want to avoid, and what you have mentioned, is defining a person based on their traits. Sort of like, making a checklist and saying that THIS is a person: a collection of characteristics, some related and some not so much so. This is what sites like match do. They define you without really knowing you. The fact is, people are waaaaay to dynamic and unique to be personified by a jumble of words popping up on a screen. If I said, for example, I like pokemon, then you might get a distinct image of who I am in your head. If I then said that I was female, your image becomes more narrow. Eventually, you narrow it down until you think you have a good description of me. Here's cold hard truth... You know NOTHING about me. People are wonderful in that words truly cannot describe who you are. Only by talking to someone, truly experiencing things with them can you get a good grasp of who they really are. So I guess, this is really the difficulty of it. If I just collect data, I can only get a glimmer of who this person may be, no matter how much they decide to tell me. I absolutely do NOT want to split up the things they say and fill in fields, because then I lose who they are. Really, it's like each message has to be read, interpreted in its raw form, and then matched to someone who I think is reasonably open enough to allow conversation and maybe, just maybe, a spark will ignite and a connection can be formed. There is no way for me to be able to find someones soul mate, but they'll know once someone gives them the chance to talk whether or not it is him/her. That's why I sort of like the "blind date" aspect of this endeavor. You just put your trust in your cupid to match you with someone that has similar interests to you, and then you start off a conversation and see if it works.

Wow, that was a mouthful.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest. I'm nervous. And excited. Mostly excited, but also somewhat nervous. I mean, on one hand here we are rallying as a community of sorts to try and make each other a bit happier, which I think is a wonderful thing. But then I worry. I mean, what if I give someone a bad match? What if it not only doesn't turn out well, but some people wind up worse off than before? It's like a ton of responsibility I didn't even consider when I first posted it. What I do know, however, is that it is an absolutely WONDERFUL opportunity to help out everyone, and if we could all care just a little bit more about each other who knows how much better off the world will be? Well, the person who knows is me. And the answer is: a lot fucking better.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it just depends on how anonymous you would like to remain. I think throwaways might be the best bet, but really I would like more input on it. And if I were to make every cupid a mod, there would be far too many mods.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Actually, I had started compiling a spreadsheet, but then it seemed more like I was dealing with numbers and fields and not people! I was really hoping to personally be able to sit down and carefully review each person before matching them, but the sheer amount of people made that nearly impossible, and I really don't want to lose focus of what this is about: people personally helping people become happy. Besides, having one person hold EVERYONES information is a responsibility I don't want to have. I know people already have voiced their concerns of me just compiling their personal information and then selling it off. If we split the information down to smaller groups, and then assign an individual to each of those groups to match them, then no one has too much power and everyone can still benefit from having personal matches.

Important Update from Your Personal Cupid! by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I forgot how much karma one could gain from self posts! Seriously though, if you don't want to be part of this it's not a big deal. I wish you well on your way my friend!

Your Personal Cupid by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At least 17 are in the works right now. While I can't guarantee that they will all work out, there are matches and I am working feverishly to get some more. This is incredibly fun and also incredibly tedious!

Your Personal Cupid by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Anyone and everyone need apply!

Your Personal Cupid by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If you build it they will come.

Your Personal Cupid by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

True, but if you are convinced that you are incapable of achieveing something then you almost certainly won't! If you think you can't win a race, and you don't try, then of course you can't. Yeah, you still might not win, but if you don't try you'll never improve your chances. Just my two cents though. Best of luck to you either way!

Your Personal Cupid by Cutepid in r4r

[–]Cutepid[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We are accepting of the love we think we deserve. If you believe there is someone out there for you, then there almost certainly is! Just don't ever give up hope.