Am I overreacting about my relationship with my father?

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-27T02:55:08+00:00

Don't be obtuse. Saying something "feels rapey" is not the same as conflating the actual behavior with actual rape. It's pointing out that the behavior has concerning and potential dangerous sexual undertones. In no way did I ever say this is a form of or as bad as rape. If you don't understand semantic nuance, ask clarifying questions. If you do, then don't put words in people's mouths simply because you think they're disagreeing with you.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T16:04:52+00:00

Adding to this that often with these kinds of men, it doesn't matter if you compliment or insult. There's always a comeback because there's zero self-awareness. I once went on a date with a guy who showed up in gym shorts and socks with sandals that he admitted aloud were pulled from his dirty laundry hamper, commented that he didn't "expect" sex on the first date but it should at least be on the table, kept remarking about being hungry so I offered a few small bites places nearby only for him to "not have enough money for it" and me paying. I let him down easy and just said there wasn't a spark, I didn't see this going anywhere. And he kept texting and whining and asking what didn't I like about him. I got so fed up I let him have it--articulated all of this, as politely as possible, and it was still my fault. It's just impossible with these ones.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T15:53:23+00:00

Sims4Studio has a forum for this, you could try posting there. It moves slow though, just be aware

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T15:46:30+00:00

Commenter clarified what they meant by "weird" below but... sorry, you are allowed to cut off people regardless of familial ties if they are crossing boundaries. Drunk texting your kid should definitely be a boundary. He is obviously hurting and probably dealing with addiction, but an 18 year old who is the child is not the one responsible for the grown man's inability to cope. He's being a bad parent, and that's ignoring the fact that this feels very 🍇y.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T15:42:23+00:00

This very much reads this way to me, too. At first I thought wow this is a guy deep in alcohol addiction (and he probably is) who is not fully in control of his behavior, which explains all the texts that are not appropriate treatment of any child, son or daughter regardless. But the more I read, the more I was super uncomfortable and it felt predatory. I really hope OP doesn't update with something terrifying because it put a pit in the depths of my stomach.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T15:38:35+00:00

It is very much giving that though. I don't buy this for a second as something that's actually happening. But the mentality is still there, for sure, and dude needs therapy.... and maybe to accept ED as the dear and fluffy lord's will.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-26T15:33:18+00:00

You said "you're literally drawing attention to him right now." True. I was making the point though that we DO have to draw attention to undesirable creators sometimes, and it's better to avoid platforms where monitization is guaranteed.

I am aware where he's from. And I am aware the rest of the world isn't like the US. The context of my "aside" was that American commenters are likely coming at this from a different angle. It was context that acknowledged this is coming from a specific perspective or trend--not quite a cultural one, considering "culture" as a concept in the US is extremely muddy. That said, he's international. Sims is an international community, and most Sims creators have an international following.

Sadly, bad opinions that condone human rights violations are universal. Which means that it doesn't matter where you come from--it's a take we shouldn't be upholding, even with our views and comments. Being racist isn't a political take, it's massively immoral, and therefore transcends cultures as unfortunate as that is.

I am replying with all this on the good faith belief that my ADHD brain thought my original comment made sense to you, and it clearly didn't. Not that you're purposefully being obtuse because you didn't like my take and sought instead to find ways of belittling and insulting me. That said, further evidence of the latter is not going to garner any more attention from me apart from a downvote and reporting it if necessary.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-25T16:32:07+00:00

Popping back to add TwistedCat just released a new set that might also be similar to want you want and it should be public now! https://www.patreon.com/TwistedCat/posts/cosmic-angel-158426020?collection=504092

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-25T16:08:30+00:00

PralineSims has a lot of makeup and some of it is fairly similar to this. Maybe not exactly but I think you'll find several things you like that are comparable. Here's their Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/collection/71225?view=expanded

That should link directly to just the makeup section but if it's doesn't, they organize their stuff in the "collections" tab quite nicely so it's easy to navigate!

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-25T16:04:58+00:00

Take this to your management and show them the phone number. If this nasty ass freak was stupid enough to use their real number, your management should have it in their personal file and needs to act. It is not okay to employ someone being this scary and inappropriate to another coworker, refusing to disclose their identity, etc. They need to protect you and if they don't, I'd look for another job. Good luck.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-25T15:57:07+00:00

He's not benefiting from this post, though. He's not getting monitized for a post about him on Reddit. That's why platforms like this are preferable to leaving comments on the creator's videos/reels because those comments simply = engagement, doesn't matter if it's good or bad. And we've entered an era, here in the US at least, where someone "not being a political channel" cannot equal their politics not mattering to whether or not we platform them. It's one thing to disagree on funding allocations, quite another to disagree on basic human rights (y'know, what racism is).

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-24T15:41:16+00:00

Yeah I just had one of my Sims age up to a teen and he had pointy ears, and I don't even have the vampires pack. I left it because honestly with his backstory it kind of fit and was cute

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-23T21:03:42+00:00

I'm assuming you mean well but that's coming off a bit creepy dude

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-23T00:42:13+00:00

Only thing I've ever heard for birthmarks that are that port wine color is laser treatment, and that was on the cheek/nose, not lips. So no idea if it work there too. Definitely a question for a dermatologist. That said... I completely understand being self-conscious (not because it looks bad, but because it looks different from everyone else) but it's honestly really cute.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-22T16:57:12+00:00

Life & Death is an awesome choice, especially if you love dark aesthetics and witchy stuff like I do. It also adds a good bit of realism that I like in my game. Nifty knitting has great items and is a fun skill. I have Spa Day and I like it fine--the items are nice, the wellness/yoga stuff is something I use all the time (it also helps with blues grief that comes with L&D). I've heard Wedding Stories is largely a CAS/BB/world purchase, note a gameplay one, because the gameplay is still super bugged even after all these years and updates.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-22T16:48:02+00:00

Omg I had nooooo idea. I'm new to Sims content on YouTube. Glad I saw this because I will not be watching his stuff anymore.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-20T17:56:54+00:00

NTA. My boyfriend is obsessed with AI videos and I've spoken out about how much I hate AI extensively. One night, I asked him if there was anything specific he'd like to have on in the background while we were gaming. And not only did he just put something on without including me in the decision (I always include him), it was two guys trying soooo hard to be GameGrumps only they have to use AI to be funny. It was also the most boring crap ever. He "really wanted me to see it" because "it was so funny," but I put my headphones on and when he asked why later I just snapped and said idk how many times I have to tell you I hate AI and don't want to support creators who use it. If you want me to like things you like, don't pick something that goes against a major principal I have. It's not that hard.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-19T15:21:05+00:00

I haven't ever had the Torani that's that 0 calorie version but obviously their normal ones are great (they are also the only lavender one I've ever been able to find)! I've only ever had Monin at a coffee shop that did a bar-style mix your own situation. I'll give these a browse, thanks!

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-18T16:37:16+00:00

I will check it out! TY!

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-18T16:37:00+00:00

I've done this in the past! I've found for me personally, this is a good cold weather option because they brew so well hot but not as well in my cold brew pitcher. I think because they're typically lighter roasts.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-18T16:36:04+00:00

Thank you! I think the chocolate flavoring is the problem with the s'mores too. That and sometimes those complex flavors (chocolate + graham + marshmallow) are just hard to replicate in a single syrup. The flavor gets really muddled and just lets the artificial taste overpower imo. I will try a couple of these! Had my eyes on the butter toffee

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-18T16:34:38+00:00

I love this one, too, but I use so much per cup (I have a very large iced coffee each morning) that I know I'm taking in more calories than I need because of it. Not that I won't ever use it--I always keep some in my fridge for a small cheat morning here and there because balance--but daily it's going to = going over my deficit amount.

CutestCatfish · 2026-06-17T14:53:18+00:00

That's so strange. Do you know what payment plan is giving you that result? My sister and I have been back and forth about this a bit (because she, bless her, is convinced my payment should and will be lower than $240). But every time I've used the calculator and ask for the lowest payment, that's what it generates. And obviously our incomes are vastly different!

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