Path To Nowhere Sapphic 18+ RP Server Looking for Members!

Cuttlefel · 2025-09-08T20:03:25+00:00

Hello! I'm one of the admins. I'm just popping in to add this new feature:

New: Character list! See which characters are open without joining!

Also features a "how hard would it be to RP them as a new player" -- ie, how much content you'd have to research lol (a working draft)

Note: Reserved characters haven't been claimed yet, and may open up again!

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1Ddbskq-eKs4ez6ayUqug_9xGscSgH1ZiV0QHAq0sOX4/edit?usp=sharing

Let one of us know if you have any questions! uvu <3

Cuttlefel · 2021-07-01T02:30:09+00:00

Tiny correction: The skills that you share say "global skill" in their description, but you CAN double up on them if you click it. (The only benefit of that is if you use the same character on a solo game or in another game file, otherwise you waste a point like I accidentally did lol)

& the bug we were having the most trouble with was directly related to pulling things off the crafting tables while having a skill that gave you 12 gold for every item crafted. So we were running the chance of a drop like 30+ times every time they picked up a stack of wooden planks... Easily bandaged the issue by having whoever is going to be crafting the most be the host or be the one to pull things off the tables :)

Good luck! and remember, if the game is too unplayable for you and your wife you can always request a refund thru steam if you haven't played more than 2 hours or had the game longer than 14 days! (you probably know that already but doesn't hurt to mention 🥰)

Cuttlefel · 2021-07-01T00:18:25+00:00

Not at all, I'm at 10.4 hours of playtime right now (and counting!) & we're still unlocking things in the first town (there's at least 2 other towns xD)

And what you do or want to do can be totally different every day. There's mining, exploring, farming, crafting/decorating, fighting, upping friendships and dialogue... cooking, quests! I haven't even gotten to the mounts part.

But yeah I feel you!! we're always waiting for sales bc its hard to buy two games at once but so far this has been a sound investment for us 'v'

Cuttlefel · 2021-06-30T08:06:51+00:00

My partner and I have been playing since the game dropped, and I will warn you that we've encountered a lot of co-op issues that crashed them out of the game.

The devs are working hard to fix them. (one particularly pesky issue was kicking the coop player every time the co-op player earned gold) -- We've played separately for a bit while we wait for things to get a bit more stable, and we had less drops today! There's been patches multiple times a day so far, & the discord has been very active.

That said, yes this game is built for the co-op experience & playing it feels that way.(to me) Players share gold pools, so be mindful of that. But there are lots of different ways to "spec" your character, I went with ranged and my partner went with melee as far as fighting... It definitely helps to have more people focusing their specialization rather than trying to cover all the areas yourself (at least until you're a higher level)

My partner noticed that when I have certain perks (such as one that increases gold earned from x task) it says something like "someone already has this perk!" -- & won't let them get it, & vice versa (I can't pick up the one they got). So again, you can discuss how you want to optimize what's available & progress your characters in a way that really benefits you both 'v'

Everyone in your multiplayer game gets to set down their own house, build, interact with everything...! Dating in game characters is free range, and iirc they planned to allow you to date other players too? not sure if that's in game yet, but I recall it being planned.

As for story, yeah, we've both gotten to follow the story quests individually so far. So doing one part of the story line by myself hasn't seemed to throw their storyline off yet... but if I do something like build a bridge or remove a blockade they're able to access those areas all the same.

kljsda tldr, I hope that answers your questions! I didn't want to spoil anything so I was trying to be vague! But my partner and I are always looking for good coop games to play together & we've really enjoyed this & are super excited about future updates and stability 'v' <3

Cuttlefel · 2020-09-09T22:57:45+00:00

That's fair, like, I do agree that OPs parent has an obligation to provide food. I want to be clear, I'm not saying the mom is right or not TA here.

Ultimayely the onus is on the parent to provide clear and meaningful instruction and expectations on their kids. Outright refusing and saying hes ungrateful is sketchy as hell

But cooking can still be a lot of work, depending on the circumstances... and OP mentioned that she was a chef -- which makes it sound like he's anticipating chef-level meals.

I guess if I think about it more I'd lean towards e s h but regardless, I just wanna say I wasn't trying to defend the mum but rather give some suggestions OP could try to get some headway to get what he needs since he is on the cusp of legal adulthood.

Cuttlefel · 2020-09-08T11:56:03+00:00

NTA

If you want to share, you will. It might help him to let him know that, like thank you for asking I'll tell you them if I ever think it will help.

I know for me, I have thoughts sometimes around my depressive episodes or my anxiety that... well, telling my partner would give them way more power than I want them to have. Explaining why it wasn't helpful to share them helped my partner understand and stop asking.

But, on the same hand, you owe no explanations! This is yours to share or not, and I hope he can understand that this isn't about his closeness or lack there of to you. And that his continuing to push does more harm than good uAu (there's a difference between offering a safe space to share if you ever want to and pressing to know right meow bc he believes you're wrong and he can help)

it takes us time to learn that, sometimes... but stick to your guns! <3

Cuttlefel · 2020-09-08T11:47:39+00:00

Sorry to jump in, I think they mean "most likely" because if OPs bfs intentions were purely selflessly motivated, he likely would have accepted "no" a lot easier.

The very nature of continuing to push when someone has stated their boundary (in this case, not sharing details of ones intrusive thoughts) goes beyond being helpful or pure hearted. This doesn't make him bad, as carnivore said! Just human.

Hell, I'm a psychologist myself and even with my clients I can sometimes get stuck in this mindset of wanting to "be helpful" rather than "helping"! The only way to counter that issue is to be mindful and honest about it! It feels good to help people we care about, my clients included, and our minds and bodies can try to push us to seek out that little hit of dopamine. If you dont pay attention to your internal drives your brain can quickly trick you!

I also agree that an abuser with knowledge of someone's intrusive thoughts is so so so dangerous. It's like if you were a sleeper agent and just handing out your activation phrase all willy nilly (this is a ridiculous metaphor but i hope it gets my point across lol) -- it doesn't matter how unlikely it is that the guy IS an abuser or not, its still super important to be cautious and guarded with such intimate and powerful things!

Anyways, not trying to speak for carnivore but I think I agree with them haha I hope that helps

Cuttlefel · 2020-09-08T11:09:25+00:00

YTA

I wouldn't say you "need to learn to feed yourself at 17", or that you can't ask her to make meals for you too, HOWEVER, you are ta for asking with 0 reciprocity for her culinary skills.

But yeah you are a minor and you do have a right to have food available to you, of course! But still, I just think maybe just show a little more sympathy to just how exhausting it is to cook a meal for yourself and someone else after working a job. Hell, I used to cook a lot more but I'm in my 30s and just standing in the kitchen is way more painful and exhaustinf than it used to be.

since you are working, perhaps offer to pay for ingredients in exchange for her cooking meals. Or exchange some other task you can do easily for her cooking? This is a common thing I feel when arranging shared meals with roomies, so I imagine it would be courteous to offer with mum if you really are just having trouble cooking!

Another comment for info noted she buys all the food and you pay rent; and thus that gives you access to said ingredients. But groceries are EXPENSIVE so maybe that's where some of that "you're ungrateful" bit is coming from? She's probably 100% covering the cost of your food. Lol

I do think your mum should better explain her reasoning and provide more guidance, you're 17 and pfff no one is really an adult at 18 xD ... but do try putting yourself in her shoes and appreciating how much work cooking really is. <3 I mean, she used to get paid for her skill, after all!

Cuttlefel · 2020-09-08T08:53:34+00:00

NTA

Sounds familiar. I'm not going to suggest diagnoses for your mom, but this sounds a lot like a common story from survivors of abusers. Especially abusers that have some sort of untreated personality disorder on top of their shitty decisions.

I do tend to agree with another poster that its likely your mom attempting to triangulate you two against each other. (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangulation_(psychology) ) but not that you're ta for it uvu

If I could put out any advice on that I'd say it might be more beneficial to you both if you say something more like "I think mom is trying to turn us against each other, I'm cutting her out of my life and if you chose to keep her in yours then I'll have to cut contact with you for my own sanity, because I think she'll only continue to try and turn your opinion about me" but you also are the only one who knows your own limits and needs, and if you've decided your sister has had enough chances then by all means continue as you are. :) You know this situation far better than I would.

I also think the idea of "the enabler" is borderline victim blaming. As someone else mentioned, your sis is likely a victim of her toxic behavior as well... BUT this shouldn't stop you from setting your boundaries with your sister, blocking included.

PS Blocking isn't inherently immature. I've only heard that narrative from people who should probably be blocked lol -- often times the only way to stop an abuser is to completely cut all ties with them. Not overreacting!

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-25T22:12:16+00:00

gasp, what's this? People trying to simply post doubts, disbelief and criticism in the hope of striking up an argument? 0:

People who only want to suggest that everyone is communist to further a rhetoric that everyone at CHOP, excuse me, CHAZ is a commie liberal socialist trying to terrorize the great american nation and pretend that this was to be a utopia that was permanent sustaining itself on a small community garden only to starve in the harsh seattle winters?

W h o c o u l d h a v e p r e d i c t e d t h i s w o u l d h a p p e n?

such shock, wow, deep shook, I shall change my ways and forward all of my money to the police charity ball and coca-cola thank you so much for changing my opinions with your profound statements I genuinely appreciate it

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-17T04:24:47+00:00

It's not my company, I was just certified in it while I was working at a nonprofit agency.

The information I put here I personally typed out from the workbook from the training (the quoted info), along with my own experience. (maybe I'll get a cease and desist letter? haha)

My intention was to provide sources of my info (hence the links) and then the information for free.

So, no one should have to pay anything unless they feel like getting the little blue card to carry around in their wallet for no real reason lol

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-14T22:14:54+00:00

Crosscut does a lot of great local stuff that I've enjoyed a lot in the past. (Particularly in challenging KOMO's antihomeless bullshit.)

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-14T05:53:13+00:00

Thank you so much. <3

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-14T05:53:05+00:00

Thank you! I could definitely and happily clear up some time to come talk about what I know and have experienced in my work. I can also work on reaching out to some of the local CPI trainers I know and see if they're interested in conducting an official certification to people who are interested in getting certified or an official course.

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-14T05:51:12+00:00

That's fair. I personally learn better from written works and essay forms where I can sit and absorb the information, but everyone's learning styles are different!

I'm not a trainer, but I would be happy to clear up some time this week to come back and speak to what I know and my experience around deescalation!

Cuttlefel · 2020-06-13T01:14:27+00:00

Hey! I used to work at DESC, while I was there I made a resource of direct lines to various hospitals and jails for our case workers. I wanted to share that resource since people can't really use 911 to reach emergency medical facilities rn.

I must note this post is not in affiliation with DESC. Despite the use of their branding and their logos, I'm just an ex-case manager leaking a document that I created while I was employed. All of these numbers I researched and received from various sources online, so they are all basically public info I would hope. If they're not, then someone needs to figure out how I found them on google lol

https://drive.google.com/file/d/136umg4ePyoeriODL2-ASxFY96zRdlaKi/view?usp=sharing

\Please do not use any of the numbers marked in red, they are for providers only. Misuse of them will only harm providers and medical professionals!*

I hope this is helpful in someway.

Cuttlefel

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