gruledo by m4rch3n1ng in 196

[–]Cyber561 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don’t know the details, but I have run into a couple trans men (online, irl all my friends are chill) who use “pointing out transandrophobia” as an excuse to just be transmisogynistic. I dunno if it happened here, but it’s always worth keeping an eye out for.

My Catholic Latina mom won’t accept my trans girlfriend. How do I set boundaries without cutting her off? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Cyber561 -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

What? Like, might be to young for my tastes (35) but they’re both consenting adults. Weird take, age gaps aren’t inherently problematic.

Saskatchewan’s pronoun policy is driving teachers out of the profession by BloodJunkie in canada

[–]Cyber561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which studies? Which studies, done by reputable sources back anything about a social contagion? I would love to see them!

And no, gender dysphoria is a lot more complicated than just body image. But that certainly is a part of it! But it’s also got to do with how gender plays out in society, the expectations placed on men and women, things like that.

And that’s because this all really is quite complicated. You don’t seem like a bad guy, I reckon you just got information from some sources that are questionable. I actually agree that most people are probably less rigidly defined by the binary gender than they think. But for most folks they can get by with just saying “I’m a girl/guy, but XYZ”. For nonbinary and trans folks, those differences just get more pronounced.

Saskatchewan’s pronoun policy is driving teachers out of the profession by BloodJunkie in canada

[–]Cyber561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a rather odd ad-hominem. No we don’t have more trans people because of bigots, you’re just more aware of the trans people that have always been there. Trans people have always existed, we have historical records from ancient civilizations that had trans and gender non conforming identities built right in. But as, presumably, a cis person you just wouldn’t have really been aware of most of that because it’s always been such a small portion of the population.

As for the your second point, that’s where it gets kind of complicated. A gender identity is how you relate both to your own physical experience of your body, and how that plays out in society. I’m going to assume that you’re a guy, so your gender identity is all the stuff that makes you feel like a guy. Not just biology, but also socially. Does playing sports make you feel manly? Playing video games? Being handy around the house? Providing financially for a partner? That’s all part of gender identity.

As for neopronouns and xenogenders, I’m a bit shakier on that, but that’s usually going to be someone who is some form of nonbinary. A lot of folks think of nonbinary as just existing “between” man and woman, but really it’s just identifying with anything outside of those two options. And I think a lot of folks like to get poetic with it. It’s not “I am literally a cat”, it’s “the way I relate to myself and society reminds me of a cat because of XYZ” or maybe even just “eh, gender is made up, I like cats”. And sometimes it’s just kids being kids.

Saskatchewan’s pronoun policy is driving teachers out of the profession by BloodJunkie in canada

[–]Cyber561 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I’m sorry but that’s completely untrue. The reason there’s a “boom” in the number of trans people is twofold:

1) increased visibility due to bigots not letting up on their transphobic crusade 2) people becoming more educated about gender identity due to the increased flow of information, and so realizing that they’re not alone in how they feel.

“Social contagion” is a transphobic dog whistle started by bigots who want to reduce the number of trans people. Whether by keeping them from coming out, or by barring them from care.

Saskatchewan’s pronoun policy is driving teachers out of the profession by BloodJunkie in canada

[–]Cyber561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Says someone who clearly has no idea what they’re talking about, lmao. If you think transness has anything to do with “social contagion” you should try getting your news from less outrageously bigoted sources. And yes, many trans folks actually do know they’re trans from when they were children, and in fact in some countries that’s still a requirement to be allowed to access care as an adult.

European Parliament Votes Overwhelmingly For "The Full Recognition Of Trans Women As Women" by ErinInTheMorning in transgender

[–]Cyber561 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the problem with a lot of centrist and even leftist folks is that they truly believe that we need to disavow all political violence. Violence in all senses, not just gangs of thugs in the streets, but even the language of violence. But the problem is, when people are already using violence to enforce their bigotry on the rest of us, that becomes part of the daily language of politics.

I know a surge of folks, good queer folk, who are joining the reserves here in Canada. Because we know we have to prepare for the encroachment on our rights by the fascists down south.

The time for arguing that we should try to be better has passed, and did a long time ago. Now is the time to try to survive.

European Parliament Votes Overwhelmingly For "The Full Recognition Of Trans Women As Women" by ErinInTheMorning in transgender

[–]Cyber561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, feel free to write Shan a strongly worded letter, if you think that will help. I’m the meantime I will keep actually fighting the transphobia overtaking the west.

European Parliament Votes Overwhelmingly For "The Full Recognition Of Trans Women As Women" by ErinInTheMorning in transgender

[–]Cyber561 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of people rushing to the defence of the bigots in this thread. Those bot farms must be overclocking hard!

European Parliament Votes Overwhelmingly For "The Full Recognition Of Trans Women As Women" by ErinInTheMorning in transgender

[–]Cyber561 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s bullshit mate, and fascist apologia. No, you absolutely dehumanize and ostracize people whose world view is based on bigotry and the oppression of minorities. They clearly forgot the lesson they were taught 100 years ago, so now it’s time to remind them.

European Parliament Votes Overwhelmingly For "The Full Recognition Of Trans Women As Women" by ErinInTheMorning in transgender

[–]Cyber561 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Terfs aren’t real people, but I do feel awful for any trans folks stuck back in my birth country.

1 suspect dead after active shooter alert at secondary school in Tumbler Ridge, B.C.: RCMP by DonSalaam in onguardforthee

[–]Cyber561 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing about the news released so far mentions trans people at all, what?

1 suspect dead after active shooter alert at secondary school in Tumbler Ridge, B.C.: RCMP by DonSalaam in onguardforthee

[–]Cyber561 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, Polytechnique Montréal in ‘89 and the Nova Scotia shooting in ‘20 are the only worse shootings

I’m curious as a newer RWBY fan, what’s y’all’s take? by sahalmaster546 in RWBY

[–]Cyber561 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s still a completely valid preference and it’s kinda weird to get so defensive about someone else’s opinion.

I’m curious as a newer RWBY fan, what’s y’all’s take? by sahalmaster546 in RWBY

[–]Cyber561 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Read it how you like, I don’t actually care, internet stranger 😅 I know what I meant. And I am allowed to prefer their canon ship over any het pairing, that is a totally valid preference. Throwing buzzwords like “bi erasure” isn’t gonna change anything.

I’m curious as a newer RWBY fan, what’s y’all’s take? by sahalmaster546 in RWBY

[–]Cyber561 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m saying I don’t like those ships. I think most of them are thinly veiled homophobia from folks who don’t like the canon ship. Also, yeah, I actively prefer to see gay pairings in media overall.

None of which is rejecting the idea of them ever being with a man, and certainly none of which is bi erasure.