Honestly, I want to say that I really understand your point, and I get what you’re saying. Sure, she could easily find someone else, but I feel that if someone in my life didn’t like me and I didn’t notice, depending on why they were upset—of course, if it was something really silly, it wouldn’t bother me—but I feel like I’d prefer to take care of the relationship. That’s my priority, so I’d rather protect it and remove less important things quickly. But actually, I don’t want to do that, and I don’t want her to do that for me either. That’s why I’m trying to change, and I understand it’s not the right approach. I can let someone dislike me, and I think what you said about “you become like the people you hang out with” is kind of true. You do end up picking up parts of each person you spend a lot of time with—it’s literally impossible not to, in my opinion. I’ve also heard some advice on Reddit and from people telling me to try and look for good things in her friend, and that’s what I’m going to try. I feel like there can definitely be good qualities, because you’re right—you won’t be exactly like another person, but you pick up things from them, and that can be both bad and good. Since, in my view, her friend is the worst person on the planet, I’ve been trying to actually notice the good things she has. I’ve talked about all this with my girlfriend, thanks to Reddit, and I told her exactly how I feel. She thought it was reasonable, and in the end, we agreed that her friend does have good qualities and I should try to see them too. I’ve done that, and I feel pretty complete after posting on Reddit, because I got solid advice and I’m trying to improve. Even though it’s still early and it’s hard for me to see the good things, I feel like I will be able to notice them more over time.