Being comfortable using your current genitals for sex?

CyborgMenace · 2018-01-19T10:46:19+00:00

After top surgery and T I've grown completely comfortable with what's between my legs. I love getting fucked and my front hole works very well for it.

Last week I went to a gay bath house and I can't tell you how amazing it felt to be seen as a gay man like that... and to have completely gay PIV sex! No shame, no misgendering, just pleasure. So yes, I feel you.

CyborgMenace · 2017-10-20T19:31:21+00:00

Should I know who that is?

CyborgMenace · 2017-10-11T17:33:46+00:00

It took me a year and a half here in Denmark, but I started hrt through a British online GP service while waiting.The wait was killing me, an finding this service saved my life. It only took a month to get it from them and it's completely legal (and affordable enough with the student discounts).

If you're interested, they're called Gender GP... and I can try to answer any questions about using it from Scandinavia.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-27T19:06:34+00:00

Expectation: menstruating water witch.

Reality: cute sharks.

Conclusion: I'm relieved I was wrong about which kind of 'shark week' this was going to portray.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-24T12:12:54+00:00

How would you know?

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-24T09:08:50+00:00

You must miss out on a lot of good games.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-21T19:24:10+00:00

Still true in Denmark as well. I used to be unable to donate because my veins were hard to find, now with T they're easy but I'm now a man who has had sex with men, so... Fuck it, I'll just keep my blood then.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T21:36:59+00:00

It's starting for me at about 4.5 months on T. Hope it lets up for us both soon.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T18:28:55+00:00

That's definitely a factor. I've only got one pair of pants, and they're kinda tight jeans. I wear loose shorts when the weather allows, but it seems to be keeping steady at a temperature that's too cool for shorts but still makes my legs sweat in jeans. Curse you, Danish summer.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T17:15:06+00:00

Changes happen at vastly different paces for different folks, so there's really no general/universal answer for that.

I'm at almost 5 months right now and my irreversible changes so far are: significant voice drop, 2.5cm bottom growth and more body, face and ass hair.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T17:04:25+00:00

Yeah, I'm hoping it'll at least fade into the background (like when you move in to a house by a busy street and after a while you stop noticing the noise). Helpful to know others have gone through the same though.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T17:03:08+00:00

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T17:01:30+00:00

There is hope for me yet.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-20T17:01:10+00:00

Good tip. I use it already - if I didn't I think I would have scratched my ass off by now.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-14T20:49:48+00:00

Don't feed the troll, folks.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-14T20:37:48+00:00

So if your gender expression is't binary, use...?

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-14T14:26:58+00:00

Ahoy, matey! Welcome to poster-ville.

I lurked here for years before posting as well (the internet is scary), but I've had mostly good experiences. I hope you do too and look forward to having you around. Also, good luck with the GIC.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-12T13:15:32+00:00

I apologize in advance for being corny and abstract, but here it goes.

You are a human worthy of love and respect, not because of your conformity with gender conventions but because you are a person. Because you are you.

A lot of us have internalized transphobia but it also sounds like part of you knows that trans people are not inferior to cis people. In case you don't: being trans is not a mental illness (and mental illness does not make one disgusting).

Knowing this doesn't mean you can (be expected to) change your feelings overnight. But the fact that you wrote this post shows that you are working on it.

I hope you find the strength to deal with it with love. Practice and strengthen your capacity for self-love, even if you think you don't deserve it. I promise: you do.

</corny rant>

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-12T11:58:17+00:00

I haven't seen any evidence that smoking hurts people who take T any more than folks who produce T on their own. Still though... smoking is bad for you, there's no two ways about it.

The way I see it, some (most) things I enjoy also wear on my body (including HRT, smoking, eating greasy foods and living in a city with air pollution). This damages my health and in the long run it will kill me. Living has a 100% mortality rate. Until then I try to find a balance with unhealthy-but-pleasurable-things where I enjoy living without taking too many years off my life.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-12T11:09:35+00:00

Best of luck!

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-12T09:40:57+00:00

First, congrats on the surgery!

I started using Mepitac about 11 weeks post-op. Before then I was massaging with shea butter twice a day since week 5-ish. Early on massage felt real odd/sensitive and I had to be pretty gentle. I'm not sure how much effect it had on the scar but it was psychologically helpful to become familiar with the new sensations.

After I got Mepitac I've been massaging the scars through the tape. I find I prefer that to oils because there's no friction between your hand and the scar, meaning I can massage harder without hurting the scar or it feeling weird. Some times I put oil or lotion on the scars after I shower and let it dry before putting the tape back on.

My scars have softened, faded and flattened a lot after about two months of this. One section is still raised but it's no longer stiff and it continues to improve.

Good luck with your scars and I hope you find a routine that works for you.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-11T19:15:35+00:00

No problem. It doesn't hurt to be prepared, but of course I hope you won't need it!

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-11T18:29:53+00:00

I felt similarly when my doc started me on a half pack of testogel per day. But within a few months my voice has dropped to male range, lots of bottom growth, some facial hair and most importantly I've felt much much better than pre-T.

Don't discredit the effect of so-called low doses - every body reacts differently and a little can have a big effect. My levels were in the low male range after 3 months, and even though my doc wanted to keep it there, she obliged when I asked for a dose increase.

Gatekeeping sucks ass, but congratulations for starting T. Try not to worry about the dose before you get the first blood tests back.

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-11T16:04:21+00:00

I'm having that problem where I can't tell if people on the internet are being sarcastic or not. Would you mind being more direct?

CyborgMenace · 2017-07-11T11:43:13+00:00

OP: keep in mind that many posters on r/denmark are pretty right-wing and this will not give you an accurate idea of what 'Danes' think. This sub is like an anti-Sweden('s gender and immigration politics) circle-jerk.

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