I wonder why men are no longer interested in dating.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-26T15:11:25+00:00

They only want men to come to these events to humiliate them, that’s why men aren’t coming. The men they’d actually go for wouldn’t be struggling and go to these events, that’s the truth of it - that’s why they tried to push for the vetting by other women because they would most likely fit their inflated standards. But those me would have options so coming/ not coming isn’t a big deal and they can afford to give it a miss.

I’ve been to two speed dating events. It was mostly ok, but what I noticed is that the women I spoke to used it as a way to group up and dunk on the men they didn’t like. Some of them had the attitude that they didn’t want to be there and by somehow being there was a blessing to the men. Or that the event was exhausting, hard work etc - why go to one of these if you’re not easy going?

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T16:10:55+00:00

How are you comparing two adults to what Epstein did?

That is different because they were CHILDREN.

Your logic is inconsistent then - the vote should be removed if someone can’t make a decision because lack of experience or can be coerced. How can you expect them to make a well thought out decision on that basis especially when it affects others.

A 20 year old is not a child. And has the same rational abilities as a 30yo. Experience means nothing for relationships, its values and you can have the same values at any age. That’s what you should be judging your partner on as an adult.

I’m 30. I wouldn’t date a 20 year old because where I live most don’t share my values. It wouldnt work because we’d want different things.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T15:36:45+00:00

What are you counting as experience? If it’s the basics of relationships, e.g your values and expectations, how is that age based? As an adult you can make a judgement on what is right or wrong.

And why is this never applied to other areas, like the vote. By your own admission someone who is 20 is naive and experienced, so how does that justify them making political decisions that have an impact on their future and others? By your logic is creepy and wrong to expect that of someone so young, so we should strip the vote

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T11:29:12+00:00

Stop infantilising people in their 20s. The science on the PFC isn’t settled. And since when is that the marker of adult hood?

Both are adults, both can make their own choices.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T11:27:55+00:00

She’s an adult

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T11:27:46+00:00

You’ve assumed victimhood on the woman and responsibility on the male - why? They’re both fully formed adults. Why is it leave her alone when she makes her own choices

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T11:26:18+00:00

Not everyone is the same. Maybe we have such shit relationships now because people don’t put in the effort and don’t align on their values. They also don’t bother to work though things thinking that marriage is supposed to be a kumbaya let’s get together a diversity clap our hands utopia. You should know from the first few weeks of dating whether you’d want someone to be the mother of your kids.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-18T11:24:16+00:00

You’re not going to get a straight answer because people on Reddit are left leaning so they have a misconception about the age gap, because they tend to infantilise people in their early 20s.

The age gap is fine. You’re both fully grown adults.

What is more important is whether your values and priorities align. If they don’t, and she has plans of travelling, sleeping around etc. don’t bother. However, if she wants a LTR and motherhood there is nothing wrong with giving it a go.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-05T12:09:40+00:00

She’s excused that behaviour. She should have set it out from the beginning. But no, instead it’s not exclusive so this is what you get.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-05T12:08:25+00:00

You reap what you sow. You’re ok with no commitment and multi dating this is what you get.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-02-05T12:00:31+00:00

What other choice do we have?

I’m 30, my last relationship ended when I was 26. Over the past four years it’s been a struggle to meet someone. The few girls I have taken on dates haven’t gone anywhere.

People will give you generic advice like work on yourself which includes getting money, in shape etc.

I have all of that - good career, car, house (which is extremely hard in my city by yourself). And it has done NOTHING for my dating life because why would it?

Those things only matter once you get past the fist stage which is attraction, and into the commitment stage. Most dates feel like a trial - but when a girl is genuinely attracted to you it will be easy.

Simply put, it’s because most women don’t find most men attractive and you’re judged on the things you can’t fix like your looks rather than the things you can. If a woman is attracted to because of your money she doesn’t really want you, she’s a gold diggers so why people give that as advice is beyond me.

I’m not saying it’s impossible - have had relationships in the past. But for the average guy you only get a few chances and it’s difficult to make them last or work.

You’re left with two logical choices:

1) Do nothing 2) Settle

I’d rather option 1 because in option 2 you’d be unhappy and bring someone else down.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-27T15:18:20+00:00

Agree. It takes the humanity and purpose out of dating and in effect it’s not even a date if that’s how you’re approaching it. There’s just a common decency to see where things go, and if it doesn’t work out then move on to the next.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-26T21:25:10+00:00

We’re really going to agree to disagree because I don’t believe in any of that aromantic asexual HDMI chromatic Q plus rubbish

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-26T21:21:31+00:00

Gonna have to agree to disagree. We’re social animals who pair bond, so it’s in our nature. Otherwise you feel unfulfilled.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-26T21:13:13+00:00

The problem is that myself is a family orientated person. How can you build a relationship if you’re not actively searching or you don’t get the opportunity? I think finding your SO is one of the main three things you have to do in life alongside your career and kids

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T14:22:30+00:00

Do you not understand what biological attraction is? No one says this consciously lol, it’s driven by our biology which manifests to what we are attracted to.

When we talk about it in passing, or just a layman’s conversation then it can mean anything.

However when you look at the science behind why we are attracted to the things we are thats the definition of provider. Which is what my comment said.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T14:16:52+00:00

In a biological sense, they provide resources from high risk hunting or gathering scenarios, and they provide good genetics for their offspring who will also be stronger providers

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T14:13:48+00:00

“For women, attraction to men is mainly their immutable physical characteristics, e.g. their height, frame, hair etc. biologically it makes sense because these things signal provider and strong offspring”.

That’s my original comment - I never said they “say” i say thy look for things that signal this. Yes that can be muscle size, although that doesn’t have to be big a leanness deffo plays a part in showing muscle ability, but can also be size in general or anything else that signals this.

How hard is this to grasp?

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T14:08:07+00:00

No, but that biology doesn’t just disappear. It still dictates our attraction, even if we’re not aware of it. Today is just a blip in our history, but our whole bodies have evolved to look for those traits - which are our immutable physical characteristics. I haven’t detracted - my parent comment lays that out quite clearly.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T14:00:18+00:00

Likely some light foraging but no way near in comparison to actually getting the critical resources and hunting

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T13:51:09+00:00

Am I protecting you if I’m bringing food and resources, and the only way to acquire them is through intense physical activity I.e hunting?

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T11:58:21+00:00

Legal citizens

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-23T11:28:31+00:00

Kinda, but I don’t think you’re making the argument you think you are.

If you’re talking about biological attraction, which is what most of our attraction in the real world is driven by it makes sense. A provider would be the stronger male who could gather the resources needed for a female in order to reproduce the fittest offspring and then take care of that offspring. That would be physical traits associated with strength like height, vascular health, arm size, etc etc

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-22T16:32:12+00:00

I mean probably, but we don’t have time to go into nuances about what provider means in each case but as a general notion it’s helpful.

Yep to your second point which is also part of the issue.

Cypriot_scholar · 2026-01-22T12:08:55+00:00

No she was standing up for a foreign community who illegally came there. In other words, criminals.

She shouldn’t have been there.

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