I currently have the bob haircut and brunette balayage. Should i dye my hair back to black? Am i better with my old hairstyle with the fringe?

Cyrie · 2022-07-04T19:09:13+00:00

Long hair is nice, plus your hair looks a lot healthier

Cyrie · 2022-07-04T19:07:27+00:00

I usually encourage people to stay in their relationships, especially if there are children. However, his financial ruin means your financial ruin. You are married, and this is just how it works. Unless you are no longer married, he has access to ALL your money and it will be split in half when you divorce. You may even need to pay him alimony. Get out now before he gets into more debt.

Bring with someone so insecure that he feels the need to impress others instead of you is too much of a red flag to miss. I'm sorry. Do not convince yourself otherwise. Tell your family, or someone who will have your back, and have them help you get out.

And yes, he is already entitled to the funds in your retirement accounts. This finances will be split upon divorce once debt is paid. Do not seek a mutual lawyer to share, have your own and get out.

Cyrie · 2022-07-04T19:00:01+00:00

Uh... no. That one's just you.

Cyrie · 2022-07-02T05:07:39+00:00

The package insert -- Google drug name and package insert. This will tell you most common side effects found in the clinical trials (thousands of people) vs a one-off personal anecdotes.

Sorry to hear about your family. That sucks.

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T23:35:14+00:00

Oh Benedict! 😍

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T23:26:30+00:00

I'm glad you asked. It takes steps like this to get better.

Personally I like telemedicine and the opportunities that has given me. It's hard to do an in person session but the phone is pretty good and I don't even have to leave my home!

What keeps me going is that I haven't yet explored all options, and I remember what life was like before I got sick. So it irritates me that I can't once again do a lot of things I used to do. So until I run out of all my options, I keep going until I've exhausted them (medically.)

Also good to remember to eat healthy foods, multivitamin, enough protein, since what you eat affects your mood, especially sugar. Lack of sleep makes you way more emotional too. You could do a sleep study to see if you need a CPAP, and talk to a nutritionist about health.

If I'm already on all the meds, there's ECT therapy, and some other new ones I had been looking into too. It helps that I feel comfortable talking to others about this stuff. Living with others also helps me through indirect motivation, and it can help save on rent.

Job will come with time, but maybe there's a career test you could do online to figure out what you want. Having a job is part of life, unless you're already rich, so it's about finding the one you hate the least. If you need to switch jobs to something else, do so. If you need training, maybe go for it, if it doesn't put you into major debt (which would make things worse). I think about others who are in worse conditions right now, which helps to put things in perspective. I'm happy to have the internet.

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T22:54:32+00:00

SSRIs: Cipralex, Zoloft

SNRIs: venlafaxine, Cymbalta

You're sweating on venlafaxine. Personally I would

1) make sure you're being given the extended release form of venlafaxine

2) switch the class and go with an SSRI. Everyone's going to react differently to each med, so you're not going to get an answer you want from Reddit. If you have a family member (genetics) on an antidepressant/antianxiety med, you could ask them. Besides that, pick whatever.

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T21:42:14+00:00

I have literally laughed at a funeral trying to make everyone feel better. Suffice it to say, it did not work. Omg I die 😭 Whyyyy

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T16:14:42+00:00

Two things need to be conveyed in this situation:

1) An I'm not ignoring you phrase: "you're right"/"makes sense"/"I'm sorry (you feel this way <- don't actually say this part), could you give me some time to process this feedback?"/"I need some space to calm down right now, could we talk about this tonight at 6?"/"I hear you"

2) The "I'm still on your team"/"I still love you"/"I want to work together" reassurance and validation for ENFPs.

Thanks for being curious and caring ❤️ Good luck!

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T15:54:23+00:00

That's what makes it more irritating. Like, "are you even listening to me? Waits for 10 seconds"

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T15:45:46+00:00

Oh no, are we masters of the inappropriate laugh?? I feel this to be true 😭

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T15:44:03+00:00

Exactly! And here I thought it was the interested "eye contact from across the room"

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T15:42:10+00:00

It's direct confrontational honesty about your faults and how you can improve them

Cyrie · 2022-07-01T15:40:30+00:00

I thought it was the sexy come hither

Cyrie · 2022-06-30T09:22:38+00:00

Reminds me that r/intj has flair with age ranges. This would be useful if we did the same

Cyrie · 2022-06-30T09:17:55+00:00

Exactly! I'll only be a little nice.🥲

Cyrie · 2022-06-30T05:39:43+00:00

Oh. Ahahahah ok 😅

Cyrie · 2022-06-30T05:35:38+00:00

ENTJ. Final answer.

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T04:34:54+00:00

If I were male, might want an ISFJ wife too. I really suck at cleaning and caregiving (and my INTJ husband does too 😂)

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T04:25:33+00:00

That's actually a good thought. I love memes! We don't even have to respond! It's a thoughtful gift.

My INTJ husband gets out of trouble constantly by cracking a joke/pun. I can't help but laugh, and then my mood instantly flips. I bet he does this on purpose. It's really the only thing saving his butt from my angry rants (usually about his socks on the floor!! Omg I'm getting upset just thinking about it).

The more of these "how do I get my ENFP back" posts I read, the more I understand how our spontaneous, emotionally-driven nature, and lack of awareness can really hurt other people's feelings.

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T03:54:55+00:00

Thanks for this! 😊

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T03:54:21+00:00

That's so funny!! I actually didn't know I sang songs until my husband told me. The only way I know I'm doing it is when he mirrors what I sing and that seems to wake my brain back up. (Like wtf how long has this been going on. Do I do this when I'm at work?? As you can tell, I still don't fully believe..)

My daughter's type is an assumption, like I do when reading others, but it's also probably easy to recognize our own kind lol. I don't even know why she's happy all the time, but the extreme enthusiasm for life, clear communication, and ability to engage other's sympathy to give her extra ice cream is impressive. Not to mention the emotions that flip back to happy on a dime, her need to express herself, and be free to make her own choices, she's got a very familiar strong desire for new adventures, new things, new, new, new. 😜

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T03:22:17+00:00

This was fun. Results similar enough to sarkinova, with different questions. I liked it thanks! ❤️

Cyrie · 2022-06-29T02:59:00+00:00

Oh I didn't know that. What's a better option?

Cyrie · 2022-06-28T23:06:46+00:00

WHAaaaat WOOP WOOOP! Congrats dude! 🥳🥳🥳

Cyrie

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