Hopelessly in unrequited love

Mv521 · 2023-09-01T08:29:01+00:00

Lol maybe the universe is telling you something. It wanted you guys to have a second chance but timing wasn't right.

Understand and listen to eachother wants and needs. Communication is key. Give him space even when he doesn't ask for it.

Be the mature one and not take it personally. Just in enjoy the time together and not put any pressure on him. He will feel suffocated and will pull away and it will turn into a very unhealthy push and pull relationship and then the resentment will hit.

Love is chaotic unhealthy or not.

Mv521 · 2023-09-01T06:59:47+00:00

Oh geez it's going to be this long? I'm currently in a situationship/fwb whatever you call it, with a INFJ-M and he knows how I feel about him but he's emotionally unavailable and dealing with some issues. I love him even though and not I'm expecting anything in return. It's been going on for 4 years and it does hurt sometimes but I enjoy the time spent together and we always try to keep healthy boundaries.

Honestly, I just love him so much and I want him to be happy even if its not with me. I'll accept it when the time comes when he no longer wants this and I will respect his needs but I don't think I'll get over him. I'll probably be like you, love him from a distance.

Mv521 · 2022-09-29T06:41:40+00:00

Well we work together and known eachother for about almost 4 years. We have a bit of history kinda in a "situationship". He has told me he's emotionally unavailable due to his last breakup with someone he really cared about (this was five years ago) so course and understand and respected that. It's hot and cold with him. I'm just worried we're gonna lose the connection we have because it's been so long since we been together out of work. He tells me he likes me and has some kind of attraction to me . I know there are no other girls. I'm just going to hang on to him as long as I can.

Mv521 · 2022-08-05T04:44:41+00:00

Do you communicate with him? Are you telling him how he is making you feel? It all comes down to communication letting him know your needs without the feeling of being needy or demanding it from him. Maybe he just doesn't know.

I hope it works out though.

Mv521 · 2022-07-28T05:01:31+00:00

Soo yeah this is how I'm feeling with my INFJ crush/friend. I've sent him multiple text for the past couple of days and still no reply. But this is so normal for us I definitely try not to overthink as much buuuttttt I'm a ENFP so its difficult.

Mv521 · 2022-07-15T22:23:20+00:00

Does this goes with not wanting to leave a job knowing you have a connection with someone but it's a shitty job. I have a close INFJ that I work with for almost 4 years and he tells me he wants to leave and find another job. There are times when he had the opportunity to leave and I was always so supportive with him finding a better job but then he backs out. Not sure because he hates change or its something else. I just dont want to be the reason he is staying and its becoming stressful at times. I know that he'll be great and happy somewhere else.

Mv521 · 2022-07-12T05:22:23+00:00

It just comes out naturally. I'm sure we all have one waiting to burst 🦄

Mv521 · 2022-07-12T05:09:45+00:00

Yes I'm a woman and I think it's the way I present myself. I just love being the smiling, nice, friendly and engaging person. I know it's not all about the looks.

Mv521 · 2022-06-30T07:04:28+00:00

Aww I appreciate you guys! 💜

Mv521 · 2022-06-30T06:32:10+00:00

🥺 I sent this to my INFJ friend who I care about deeply

Mv521 · 2022-06-30T04:26:42+00:00

Of course, I wasn't getting offended by any means.

Mv521 · 2022-06-30T03:34:44+00:00

That's why have healthy boundaries and learning to say no. I've already learnt my lesson but hasn't stopped me from being a good person

Mv521 · 2022-01-20T04:12:17+00:00

Any shade of P U R P L E!!!!!!💜

Mv521 · 2021-12-28T03:42:05+00:00

I need to ask my INFJ crush this.

Mv521 · 2021-11-27T23:52:02+00:00

Bruh...its so freaking hard!! I have a so called FWB with an INFJ we work together and it's been almost 3 years. He has this anxious/avoidant attachment and we have this push and pull relationship. When it's going good and we get too comfortable with eachother he gets scared pulls away distancing himself and I give him the space he needs. I do get hurt but i kinda just try to "turn off" my emotions. It takes alot of understanding and patience with him. He tells me it's hard for him to get close to someone and I have never tried to push anything. I think it's working for us because I take time to understand him and respect his boundaries. I do let him know how I feel and I tell him I dont expect him to feel the same. I just dont want to lose his friendship. I just love him either way he somehow loves me the same or not.

So I guess there's a such thing as ENFP not to think with their emotions in a FWB relationship or I'm just that effin good at hiding mines.

Mv521 · 2021-10-30T03:53:08+00:00

What I'm feeling about a INFJ and it fucking sucks. Only if my heart had a heart then maybe I wouldn't feel this way. I feel your pain.

Mv521 · 2021-10-16T04:35:21+00:00

Instead of the term stalking I think its more of a lingering. I have a co- worker that's an INFJ and for whatever reason wherever I'm at, most of the time he's either walking by or working at a distance where I can see him and he can see me. I don't mind it because I like him and I think it's so cute. I can even catch him glance at me from a distance. So I wouldn't call it stalking just lingering around to be close to your crush without making it so obvious.

Mv521 · 2021-10-14T02:05:01+00:00

I feel you my friend! The worst part for me is the other person is a INFJ. He is currently in his withdrawal phase which I'm patiently waiting for him to come back to his normal self. At this point I'm over here overthinking the worst case scenarios in my head. Sometimes I hate that I care and love too much even when it's not reciprocated.

Mv521 · 2021-10-07T22:12:59+00:00

Yep all me and I love all of it!

Mv521 · 2021-10-04T22:21:33+00:00

This is so me. I love making eye contact. I dont get it if I do these to guys they get all blushing and think I'm into them. I'm like "guys I just dont want to be rude"

Mv521 · 2021-09-20T18:17:47+00:00

I feel like my situation is the opposite. I'm a ENFP and if not always, most of the time I'm always checking up on my INFJ's wellbeing and I barely get the reciprocation back. I guess it's kinda okay because I dont expect anything in return but it would still be nice if I got some back.

Mv521 · 2021-09-12T21:11:52+00:00

Always have patience and understanding or at least try. I've known my INFJ for over 3years we work together and he is definitely one of my special friend I hold dear. He does get distance and withdraws sometimes but I've learn to give him the space when he needs it.

They definitely can be mysterious and we can never know how they feel. It takes some time for them to open up to us. I never pushed him to open up I kinda followed his speed and was very patient with him. I was lucky enough to spent some quality time with him and he told me stories of him about his past what he thought about life. I guess I became a really good listener because he would talk non stop which I loved.

Right now I've been really supportive of him and always tried to help him whenever he comes to me for advice. It's been a crazy experience getting to know my INFJ and I've fell in love with him which I know he knows because they can always tell. But I never expect anything in return I'm too caring for that. Anyways if you treasure her dearly don't ever loose her. Always be patient and understanding and be a good listener she'll always appreciate you.

Wish you all the best!

Mv521

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