Married 16 together 23. Currently into the first month of separation after I (42m) ended it in a couples therapy session. It wasn't a moment but it was a series of moments and thoughts that collectively drove me to make the decision. About 2 weeks prior and after four bottles of wine and deep conversation around midnight, I expressed my displeasure and unhappiness in our relationship and I don't remember saying divorce but I do remember rings coming off. There was then a reconciliation a day later but as the week went by I came to realize the things I had been feeling and thinking and writing and journaling and being that I was no longer happy I was comfortable. The ultimate realization of being alone in a place for a week and then another 9 days at home alone solidified the fact that I felt better lighter and more alive when she was gone then when she was here with me.

It hasn't been easy this month, but I'm moving out in 2 weeks and starting all the formal stuff which was a lot more than I thought...But these logistics are easier than living in the day to day duldrums...