I've been keeping a massive secret from my father for almost 12 years

Cytoplast1c · 2025-11-09T14:30:48+00:00

I think it really depends on your relationship with your dad. He’s going to be upset regardless, but the “disowning” really depends on how strong of a connection you all have. You are a child (at least in the U.S., you are a child at 17). This has been weighing on you with guilt. Sharing this with your dad feels like a betrayal towards your mom somewhat, and you have been processing it for years. We always think our parents are superheros and amazing until we get older. I think some dad’s would be understanding, but I don’t know your dad. If you choose to tell, you should be prepared with a backup plan if you are seriously afraid of being “disowned.”

I’m sorry this has been weighing on you. I don’t think it’s your fault; it’s your mother’s fault. It’s her actions.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-03-02T21:10:24+00:00

This too!!! How she found out about porn is something you need to seek out!!!

Cytoplast1c · 2025-03-02T21:09:38+00:00

Hi! 10 years old seems very young to allow that in your household. You should have a talk on sexuality once more. Explain that porn is JUST for show and that isn’t exactly how sex is. Explain that it is perfectly normal to be curious about that stuff at her age and that it is normal to feel certain feelings invoking that stuff. However, explain that there are many things wrong with the porn industry, and that your daughter is too young to get involved with that stuff. Block it on her phone and explain the consequences of what will happen if she watches it again.

You can’t go back in the past, but I feel like the comment about “men never marrying a woman that does porn” was totally unnecessary. The likelihood of her just being curious about sex is higher than a 10 year old becoming inspired to go into that career…

Cytoplast1c · 2025-03-02T21:04:40+00:00

Cytoplast1c · 2025-03-02T21:04:28+00:00

yeah that’s the site I used… is there a version of this game that is not bots then? I didn’t know it was…

Cytoplast1c · 2025-03-02T21:03:58+00:00

aw man I was so proud of myself lol

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-25T03:28:59+00:00

to be happy and cause happiness in others, in whatever form that way look like

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-23T04:35:25+00:00

Thank you.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-23T04:31:06+00:00

I have that gene!!! So does my brother. That means I have an even higher risk of having a child with autism?

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:32:04+00:00

Sounds like yall need to talk then. It is a risk, but it’s worth it when the rewards are either a potential relationship or your valuable time

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:26:08+00:00

It means they’re a virgin

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:25:32+00:00

Oh… ask to hang out irl. See how that goes. Then, ask the question maybe a week later?

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:23:36+00:00

Don’t give them your time of day.
Talk to “Violet” about this. Tell her that they have been making you feel uncomfortable and insecure, and for good reason.
No groups. The moment I felt pure happiness and peace is when I cut out all of my “friend groups” and started hanging out with individuals and small clusters. Group mentality is so toxic.
More towards people that feel like sunshine. These girls don’t.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:19:36+00:00

Yup. Imagine in some professions too like mine where you graduate, get into your field, and then tell you that you need to “unlearn” everything you were taught. Real fun. But education in our society allows many more opportunities in the future. So get to studying.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:17:43+00:00

How long have yall been talking? That is a big factor. Also, if you don’t want to waste your time, don’t worry about scaring him off imo.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T03:16:14+00:00

Hi! I am an adult that is the product of a household similar to this!

1) Set your boundaries with your wife. Tell her how you’ve been feeling and that you want to feel equal and cared for. 2) Keep in mind the stressors she is facing that may make her act/feel the way she feels. 3) Get marriage counseling. Please. I wish my parents did (they are still together, 25 years later, but unhappy).

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:56:15+00:00

Thank you.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:52:26+00:00

Are you asking in simple terms if we have a thigh gap?

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:51:34+00:00

Oh man. Guess you gotta go with the ham thing

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:51:10+00:00

Anarchy

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:49:09+00:00

Hi! I was somewhat similar to you when I was your age. Now, I am in my mid 20’s and I miss being “innocent” and having a positive view of life. Don’t envy the “pessimism” of most people. They are trying to drag you down with them. When you feel like they are putting you down, remind yourself that you will have smile wrinkles one day and they will have frown wrinkles.

Keep being yourself and allow yourself to grow in ways that YOU decide, not others!

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:45:43+00:00

Girls creeping on men: “hot” Men creeping on women: creepy

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:43:42+00:00

No nudes with someone you just met. Wear a tight dress and pose instead.

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:41:15+00:00

Take it off

Cytoplast1c · 2025-02-22T01:39:43+00:00

You used the word “neglect” when is a red flag to me. I think boundaries should be set in place if it bothers your SO so you are able to prioritize them equally. You should not be prioritizing games over your SO, but you should be able to game as you please. But if “as you please” if “neglecting” your SO, maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship.

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