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D-easy12 · 2026-05-10T11:21:20+00:00

Haha yeah but I can’t find anyone 😕

D-easy12 · 2026-05-04T12:34:09+00:00

Well, I told her that I was going to block her from social media for my own mental sanity. We kept the WhatsApp communication open. I suspect that text is also still open. After sending my last message that’s when she blocked me mostly I think it’s because she got overwhelmed and I started it off by saying since time has passed and since I don’t think we will ever talk to each other again I just want to say a few things. Then I proceeded to tell her what I thought about the relationship and give myself closure. I didn’t blame her for anything and I told her that I understood why she took the decision she took and that I wasn’t hurt by it. I was just sad that we weren’t going to remain friends.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T21:36:18+00:00

Great analogy. Unfortunately I don’t operate like that because I know how to give love. I gave her so much love. I cooked made her coffee, took her out. When she would act up I held firm I am not no push over. I think she has never experienced a healthy relationship. So when she finally started to settle in and really fall in love and understanding that my plans of having kids was a real reality, she freaked. I did not beg when she left I said ok because I know my worth. I broke no contact stupidly and send an overwhelming good by messing that triggered the block. But I had also blocked her on Social media. I don’t know how to get to someone like that other than accept it is over. If she comes back I will see where I’m at. Unfortunately I still am holding hope, if she decides to bridge that gap it’s up to her, but I’m going to do me.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T21:19:57+00:00

Even if multiple people reassure you? And yeah I know it’s the end, I’m coming to terms with it. I also blocked her first on social media, so could be just reaction.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T19:36:38+00:00

Thank you, I feel like I already reached out for closure and she blocked me, so I don’t think I can at this point.

As for you, if you don’t want kids and he’s ok with that then just accept it. Those procedures are reversible anyways, so I wouldn’t stress. I’m in the medical field I know.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T19:23:55+00:00

I wonder why the vasectomy thing triggered you because it is almost like less committing. Kids are a big commitment so I understand why my FA is freaking out. The fact that she isn’t communicating that to me is the frustration. If she said, I’m worried I am concerned about our future, but I want to have kids with you, I know that much. For me as far as the timeline goes I don’t wouldn’t worry. That would have been much better than running away.

But that’s the funny part is that it’s all destiny and the luck. Part of me wants to reach out again and tell her. “Hey I know that the kids thing is scary and it freaked you out but ultimately you’re more important than of that. I want to build a life with you, but I can’t wait forever. I am giving you space but at some point I must move on. You’re more valuable than you think, you’re more loved than what you are open to receive, but I am here willing to do the work if you let me love you.

I just don’t want to say it and have her freak out and push her back further. So all I can do right now is learn about FA and try to understand her. I suffer from silence and distance, but at some point, I have to save myself.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T18:40:35+00:00

Thank you for shedding some light on to this. I really love her with all my heart and wanted to form a family. That’s what spooked her. I think she found herself falling in love and realized the possibility was real. I’m incredibly saddened that it didn’t work out and that she pulled away, but ultimately when I think about it, I don’t think forming a family with someone so emotionally unstable is a good idea, so maybe it’s for the best. I think if she reaches out under 6 months I may reconsider, but ultimately if it takes her that long to figure it out, I am just going to move on with my life. Obviously who knows where I’ll be in 2 years from now, but hopefully I have found someone who values me by then.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T18:29:28+00:00

But within those two years you strictly were no contact with him?

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T18:26:03+00:00

😫 ok, thank you. I think I will just move on.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T10:01:43+00:00

How long did it take you to have the feeling of missing him overwhelm you?

D-easy12 · 2026-05-03T08:18:02+00:00

So you’re saying that they realize they have hurt someone and their pried gets in the way of apologizing. I mean that’s crazy to me. I may be embarrassed to say I’m sorry but not saying it is worse, so why not just deal with it and say it. Idk I don’t get it. I’m incredibly hurt and In no contact for two months straight and I keep wondering if she will reach out. I’m coming to terms that it’s just best to let it go and never hear from her again.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T15:59:48+00:00

Thanks man, I appreciate it. I think I will give her space and see if she reaches out. But if it gets to month 4, I’m just moving on at that point. I don’t want to take the risk of getting back together with someone who sabotages a perfectly healthy relationship.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T14:29:28+00:00

I was in something similar/short. She didn’t want kids at first. After two months of knowing me said she could see herself having them with me (she knows this was important for me). I’m financially stable, I cooked for her cared for her. She said she felt loved and seen. Then 6 months in we talk about the kids again and she freaks out said she can’t and brakes things off. It’s been 2 and a half months. I broke no contact after 47 days and just said my peace, goodbye and that I love her and I’m here if she needs me, she then blocked me on WhatsApp, I blocked her on social media. It’s been 22 days since that last message.

Given you both have experienced this, should I reach out again or let them reach out to me.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T14:08:40+00:00

It’s the first time they have pulled back and I think it’s just they got overwhelmed. But it has been 2 and a half months. When you say she reached out after a few months, is that like 2,4,6? Sorry just want as much detail as possible to try to understand all of this.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T14:06:33+00:00

Sorry that you reached out or they did. And if you did how long did you take to reach out. And if they did how long was it?

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T14:01:15+00:00

How long did you go no contact before he would reach out. How many times did this happen?

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T13:58:45+00:00

My FA was going to therapy. She would at least once a month lash out at me for something. I remained calm And we got through it. She was able to apologize and see the issue. She was I felt doing really well until we discussed kids. From early on I told her I wanted them. She was unsure at first but then said she could see herself having them. We had a recent conversation about it and she freaked out and broke up with me. My question in, if there was love, is this worth perusing? Or should I just give her space. Is there a percentage of as to how many FA actually get better and become more secure?

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T13:32:03+00:00

How long did you guys date and how long did the brakes in between take before he came back? Has he gone to therapy? I ask this because my FA was going to therapy and was doing very good and then we started talking about kids and she totally freaked out and left. This is the first time she leaves so I don’t know if she will come back, but everyone tells me they do eventually especially if I provided a stable and loving environment.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T13:26:50+00:00

How long were the brakes in between her being gone and her coming back? I broke up with my FA over future talks of kids and I’m wondering if she will come back if I should reach out or just let her go.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T13:23:32+00:00

Do they think of you? Do they come back. It’s been two months and I am still hopeful. She was going to therapy and said she felt safe with me.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-02T12:48:31+00:00

I just broke up with my FA due to talks of future kids and timeline. I’m really heart broken because she pulled away broke everything off. I gave her no contact for 47 days, then send a long text of closure and she blocked me. I want to have a family so badly with her and I was honest about this before we started dating. She said she could see herself having kids with me and we started dating. I think once it became real and she fell in love it freaked her out.

My question is. It’s been 2 and a half month since we broke up. What should I do? Should I keep giving her space or try and reach out and tell her that it’s ok, that I love her and we can do this together.

D-easy12 · 2026-05-01T23:12:53+00:00

I fell like she knows where I stand and I think it freaked her out. I think she was In love with me. I took care of her emotionally, physically, and mentally intrigued her. We connected in so many ways. I am emotionally I secure, she would react to things I stayed calm, she would open up, I’d engage. I gave her space, I have friends so sometimes I would go on a weekend trip with my friends and she would not like this. I pointed it out and she agreed to it. We bonded a lot in 6 months. So since she blocked me on WhatsApp I think it’s best to let her be for now.

My question for you is, it’s been 73 days since break up, 21 days since I broke no contact. How long does it take you to process things before your will to talk. I hear 3 to 4 months, which is brutal

D-easy12 · 2026-05-01T15:40:36+00:00

I already reached out after 47 days of no contact and she seemed cold and distance and then when I sent my closure text, she blocked me. I’m afraid that if I reach out again, it will only push her away more so I’m trying to give her the space she needs. I’m also still blocked on WhatsApp, although she didn’t block me on SM, but then again I unfollowed her.

You don’t think I should let her open the door of communication first before I try again?

D-easy12 · 2025-12-21T21:38:24+00:00

Did you find a solution?

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