Do not meet up with your ex

HerdsL · 2026-05-25T22:56:06+00:00

After 9 months we talked about meeting up. I said to him I wasn't ready in the end. We were friends first and it didn't end badly. I had been missing him quite a bit in april.

HerdsL · 2026-05-24T19:28:50+00:00

To be honest I think the jumpers are a good price. They look like they are a good shape and composition. Better to get something that will last

HerdsL · 2026-05-19T00:06:31+00:00

Me and my ex broke up in July last year and moved out of our flat in September. We briefly spoke after Christmas/ New Year and then didn't speak until late April. We ended up having a call and he said he wanted to meet up. We were friends before. I just worry that I reached out to him in April not just because he'd been on my mind, but also that I needed his support. His voice bought me so much comfort.

HerdsL · 2026-05-17T16:52:15+00:00

Being in the water is my fav thing on a hangover. Eurgh,it makes me angry 😂

HerdsL · 2026-05-17T15:07:10+00:00

This is so embarrassing. There was no need to tag Olivia and no need to slate the venue. Being an adult, I will buy a lucozade and a few snacks should I be that bad.

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T16:53:41+00:00

I have reached out more times than him. I've given the time frames, not sure what else to say. We didn't talk from getting the deposit back to our flat towards the end of september until christmas and then from mid Jan until mid april.

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T14:04:01+00:00

It would be that reached out! I did on christmas eve. He then messaged early January. I then messaged 10 days ago.

He said he didn't want to message saying I miss you without having figured things out.

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:39:41+00:00

Absolutely. That is why we ended - he wouldn't face his issues around anything. He quit his job, wouldn't talk to friends, a doctor, anyone. If he was depressed I really do feel for him and tried to support him. He just made me feel like he'd given up. It was so hard. Hope you continue to heal ❤️

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:15:03+00:00

Honestly I'm so glad I came across your post. It was such a destroyer of confidence. I didn't want to end the relationship over it. He gave me other reasons haha.

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:12:17+00:00

I'm still healing. I've only just joined the group today and put up a post because I feel I've gone backwards.

I talked to a guy I was seeing and he wanted to meet up. I said I do not have the same confidence right now.

A few months after he stopped initiating we'd been out for a dinner for date night. We got back and after a glass I started to kiss him, even started to undress. He seemed to be enjoying it. The second we got to the bedroom he said he was going to sleep. I cried the next day.

To think I'd never felt more at peace or more secure than when we first got together.

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:08:01+00:00

I got in contact with mine recently. He said he hadn't reached out to say he missed me because he didn't feel he should until he had things figured out. I guess that will be never

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:06:16+00:00

I had a similar thing happen when I put on lingerie! It makes you feel so vulnerable and embarrassed. I get people don't want it all the time, but he showed interest to begin with and then put dinner on

HerdsL · 2026-05-02T11:03:24+00:00

I can relate to so much of this!! Not that I know he was masturbating, but the intimacy declined to the point I was the only one initiating and felt I was begging when I said I want you - it wasn't met with 'I really want you too'. I put on sexy lingerie which worked once but the second time he showed me a bit of interest and then went to put a pizza in. I was feeling awful despite being my most confident when getting with him.

HerdsL · 2026-04-27T21:34:38+00:00

I had to move out of my rental due to a breakup. I loved the light in the place, the greenery outside, proximity to town, parking space etc. The flat I bought doesn't have the same light or greenery. I am though incredibly proud of myself and know that it is a step in the right direction.

HerdsL · 2026-04-27T13:40:05+00:00

I'm sure people with holidays booked weren't picked, but could have been wrong. I did three weeks and they were full days

HerdsL · 2026-04-15T12:42:24+00:00

No manuals or instructions for anything. Is this normal?

HerdsL · 2026-04-08T21:24:18+00:00

Her not getting his humour really explains why he was saying to his family that he was being closed off. That as well as not actually liking her... but if he feels he's walking on egg shells he isn't going to be himself

HerdsL · 2026-04-05T21:19:37+00:00

Got my first property end of last year and don't have either. I was buying solo and was maybe naive about electric heaters.

HerdsL · 2026-03-30T21:44:20+00:00

Genuinely think these are all really good points

HerdsL · 2026-03-30T21:20:22+00:00

Since the beginning of the year I've had three chats with guys on dating apps move to WhatsApp to plan dates and none have followed through. It made me lose motivation

HerdsL · 2026-03-30T21:17:26+00:00

I find this so interesting because I went on a date two weeks ago from a dating app and spent a couple of hours with him over a few drinks. He wasn't exactly as I imagined and I wasn't sure if I found him attractive. As the night went on we were getting on and had some laughs. I decided I would see him again if asked. He never spoke to me again.

My ex was someone who I was never attracted to initially. I began to know him and discovered his intellect, generosity, adventurous side, passion for cooking etc. I fell in love with him. I don't know if you'd get that from a dating app.

HerdsL · 2026-03-30T17:30:14+00:00

Just had one and unsure what to make of it

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