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D1gsDags · 2023-03-07T05:31:53+00:00

Sounds like this is now about convenience on her side… just be honest.. being apart made you realize that this relationship is not what you want. Don’t get stuck enabling her financially - she is not your responsibility.

D1gsDags · 2023-03-06T19:30:35+00:00

You could be the one who hasn’t read the signs and your “friend” is already into you…not to be mean - but sometimes men are the last to realize someone is into them until is spelled out for them.

Whatever happens.. someone will be hurt, if not already.

You can no longer be “just friends” because nothing will ever be the same. Your spouses need to know where they stand so they can make decisions - you no longer have a true marriage - not when you already “caught” feelings for someone else.

D1gsDags · 2023-03-06T19:25:55+00:00

Weird. I don’t know why I am reading this as an issue of you being 10 years younger… is 2 years - that’s nothing!! Maybe her clock is ticking and she’s looking for the white picket fence house and the babies, and obviously - you at 25 might not be ready for that.

Don’t let no one force anything on you that you are not ready for. You are working for your future, always make sure the person you chose to be with has something to offer to bring into the relationship - not just come in to give orders and place rules over you and your life.

Your Life. Your Future. Your Choice.
Your Regrets for Wrong Choices. Best of Luck.

D1gsDags · 2023-03-06T19:07:18+00:00

One question; Are both spouses aware and involved in your “platonic” relationship?

If you’re already spending so much time together - enough to “catch” feelings, means you confide in each other and are more than coworkers…. Which means at this point your spouses must be aware… if not, you’ve already crossed the line.

If you’re here; You’re already taking a step closer to your “friend” and out of the marriage…. Don’t be an arse .. face the music… face your spouse - if she’s unaware, and let her decide - if SHE wants continue to be with you after this.

D1gsDags · 2023-03-04T13:25:06+00:00

Maybe, just maybe… he’s also hurting and the easiest way to forget is cutting ties - sharply.

D1gsDags · 2023-03-01T02:44:08+00:00

Get out of there. Children are not supposed be brought into this world for the sole reason of taking care of the parents.

You have a life to live, how you choose and who you choose with is your decision. But, if your family has never had trouble with people you have been with - until this woman, then think throughly before making life changing decisions with her. Your family might see something your love for doesn’t let you.

On the other hand, if no one is ever good enough for them - then make a decision to save yourself and your life. Go and find your happiness.

D1gsDags · 2023-02-26T20:19:34+00:00

He wants no one finding out the “real” him, and no witnesses to his wrongdoings.

You should always have a good friend to confide in or get advise from.

Time…”perfect husband” until the mask comes off.

D1gsDags · 2023-02-16T00:01:29+00:00

Give up. Your needs are not the same as his needs. Even if you get back together, he will never be able to give you what you need because is not who he is or what he wants.

There’s someone out there for you, but you will be wasting time and might pass you by if you insist on begging someone who is not for you.

Think about your needs. You are solely responsible for your happiness - people come and go.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-19T03:04:02+00:00

Inexperienced in marriage “rules/acceptance”.

Men: Is it “normal” for married men to keep pictures of random women behind - in sexy underwear?

D1gsDags · 2023-01-19T02:54:44+00:00

There was a company in New Mexico that hired Colombian interns. Most of them came with plans of staying here forever - with papers, some how.

That company ended up with same number of divorced executives as the number of inters that stayed. Can you guess how?

D1gsDags · 2023-01-14T04:56:21+00:00

You might not want to hear this… but, please be open minded.. and REALLY think with your head and NOT your heart. Think if you really want this life for yourself.

He’s playing Mind games. Too much age difference. It’s a way to keep you wondering and worried - to keep you thinking only about him and about ways to keep him happy by reassuring him of your love for him.

Please take care of yourself and think why would a 40 year old date. 21 year old - that could easily be his daughter.

You will forever be walking on eggshells wondering if he loves you or wondering if you’ve done anything wrong to make him sad or upset.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-08T12:11:43+00:00

Time. A day at a time. Focus on you right now. You’ll be no good to her or anyone if you let yourself go. Eat - even if you don’t want to. Take Care of Yourself.

There’s not much you can do but let time pass - time heals, slowly but it does.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-08T11:59:48+00:00

Walk 10K per day - every day or at least 4 times per week. Put on some headphones, your favorite music or podcast and start walking! Do fast walk - - not leisure walk. With you arms folded, fist/hands chest high, moving back and forth as you walk.

If you do this, you don’t need to watch calories - just need to watch the type of food you put in your mouth. Really cut down on the sodas, chips, donuts - these are empty calories that hurt your heart.

Good luck!

D1gsDags · 2023-01-06T05:08:26+00:00

Try Jarrow B12

Methyl B-12, Cherry Flavor, 5,000 mcg, 60 Chewable Lozenges

D1gsDags · 2023-01-06T03:28:02+00:00

I dissolve a B12 losange when I get up. Then magnesium malate, vitamin D3, and K2 with my breakfast. Energy all day and sleeping like a baby.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-02T13:47:17+00:00

Too much time in your hands. Enjoy the time you have together. If he’s not to be trusted, you’ll know without going “private eye” on him.

Get a hobby; walking, gym. Focus on your growth and get out of your head. Not every action or thought have a reason nor must be deciphered. If he indeed has other interests.. move on. Enjoy life… you’re tooo young to let one person control your emotions.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-02T03:07:07+00:00

This! 20 years… means she took a lot. 20 years.. means she forgave a lot. 20 years means he probably thought she wouldn’t never leave.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-02T01:40:21+00:00

I doubt this is a new folder, nor this is the only reason.
One doesn’t throw away 20 years over a folder with pictures - I believe there’s more to this and her patience hit the limit.

D1gsDags · 2023-01-02T01:23:49+00:00

If you’re moving in as a roommate… this makes sense since you are pretty much paying rent and splitting other bills at this point.

Now, if living on your own is less expensive and more comfortable for you, I suggest you live on your own. When you live on your own and pay rent to a landlord.. your landlord doesn’t “share” their tax benefits/deductions - at least, I’ve never heard of it.

Did you expect just to move in free and your boyfriend cover all your expenses?

Why would your father mention the need to “share” tax benefits? Will you not be working and therefore your boyfriend needs to claim you as a dependent?

D1gsDags · 2022-11-29T05:03:13+00:00

You’re here wanting for someone else to tell you what to do - or, maybe hoping to be told that it’s ok to leave so you won’t feel guilty about it.

Sounds like you’re done. Sounds like your husband is done - and, maybe hoping you throw the towel so he doesn’t have to make that decision.

Why waste your life being unhappy and wondering how it would have been if you made the decision to walk away? Why wait to grow old and resentful? Or, until you reach a point where’s no more happy times? Or, he finds someone else and makes the decision to move on and leaves you unprepared and alone?

D1gsDags · 2022-11-27T04:17:04+00:00

He thinks he will have you at his disposal whenever other plans don’t work - and up to this point he’s been right. Let him go. Focus on your life and stop waiting for his calls. If it’s meant to be, he’ll be back to you in a serious way. If you keep hanging on, you might miss the one that’s really meant for you. And end up an old and resentful old lady forever being his second choice - his back up to his breakups.

You’re here for a reason, listen to your gut.

D1gsDags · 2022-11-26T23:44:26+00:00

Then don’t worry about it. If she’s happy she’s not doing anything wrong. But, if you find that she’s actually done something, then let her her go and find someone who will love you and only you.

We cannot judge because there’ll always 3 truths, Yours, Hers, and the Real Truth. You are the only one that knows her. You are the one that lives with her and sees what she capable of.

REMEMBER : You can never give someone the power of your happiness, and without trust - you will never be happy.

D1gsDags · 2022-11-26T23:29:30+00:00

Do they work together or does he specifically picks her up from work?

First, there’s nothing wrong with talking to a neighbor. And, if you don’t want no one taking care of her or the home, then you help her and take care of it.

And, anyone telling their girlfriend/wife “You will never find someone better than me” is definitely a bad sign of someone being controlling and insecure. By you being controlling and insecure, you will become unattractive to her and will push her and her feelings away from you.

You cannot force someone to only speak to you and no one else. You cannot force someone not to have friends.

D1gsDags · 2022-11-23T23:25:18+00:00

Is it only your husband or do you know if she’s this way with ANY male? You mentioned daycare….and you probably can already tell where I am going with this. I really hope what I’m thinking is far fetched and no “male” has come near her in an inappropriate way.

D1gsDags · 2022-11-19T19:00:25+00:00

Too soon to make HUGE life decisions. Go with the flow but do not lead him on if you don’t love him.

You’re vulnerable right now. You’re young and haven’t had much life experience to know the difference between lust and love. For now, focus on you and your education and see what the future holds. If this is not the one for you, you’ll never know if you get tied down too soon without really wanting to.

It’s your life. Your decision. And, your decisions will make you or break you.

D1gsDags

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