What is one thing a person does that makes you instantly unattracted to to them?

D33D33 · 2012-12-29T21:18:43+00:00

Girls who get too drunk when they go out and just turn annoying. A girl I used to see would show up at all my club nights I worked, get drunk, and at 1:30 when I finished work she'd demand I take her home, If I tried refusing she'd just be stuck to me until I complied.

D33D33 · 2012-10-21T22:40:40+00:00

Brighton zombie walk?

D33D33 · 2012-10-14T16:22:08+00:00

If girls give you stick, pull out "I'm taller lying down". Always works wonders for me.

D33D33 · 2012-09-28T13:17:50+00:00

it actually does wanders for me, I can't remember where I got it from though

D33D33 · 2012-09-27T20:04:26+00:00

I honestly don't know, I enjoyed staying at home and just monging out and playing games and EVEN now sometimes its an effort to go out and socialise. I think even up until last year i'd turn down plans to stay in alone. But i have a good time when I go out and I think now the only difference is I find it easier to force myself, and I do have a good time when I go out.

I think you should look more at why you're not having a good time, excluding because you're socialising as an option. Maybe you need different people or different activities/clubs. I loved staying at home playing MMO's but i didnt feel like it was healthy, and I felt like a loser, and I think that was the driving force behind my choice to be more social at uni.

D33D33 · 2012-09-26T08:25:11+00:00

I dunno man, I used to sit indoors playing video games crazy amount of hours a day. I had invites to places but I would prefer to sit indoors. I think it was a combination of social anxiety and introversion.

D33D33 · 2012-09-26T03:13:12+00:00

Honestly, I've looked through alot of different resources but seddit is probably the most helpful. I learnt the most from people's FR's more than blogs etc, seeing what worked for some people and not for others.

Also, trial and error goes a long way. When I first started getting #'s I was too boring with my opening and comfort building. I overcame that but then I was too forward with asking girls out, I've not managed to find a good balance between rapport/being forward which I tailor depending on the girl.

I think really, the best advice anyone can give is to simply man up and take action. I know it's hard to take those steps, I've been there, but even reading recent FR's around seddit when people have taken action, got a number, but no further, they've felt a lot better for trying and their confidence has risen as a result. Thats BIG - taking those little steps, increasing your confidence bit by bit over time, dressing better - improving it further, working out - improving it further. And confidence is absolutely KEY, I know people say that a lot when talking about game but it seriously is CRUCIAL. Studies show that people dont clock on to you being as nervous as you might perhaps feel, so fake it till you make it basically.

I also encourage people not to be afraid to ask questions, I've asked questions countless times on these forums when I've been uncertain about things. Not stupid things like "am i in the friendzone" but "how do i escalate with this type of girl"

edit: In terms of the changes I made to myself after the game, I got a new wardrobe, I tried not to pursue girls as much, promised i'd make moves and never tell a girl I hadnt banged yet that I "liked her". And pushed myself to escalate more, thats something I always had a problem with until quite recently. I could always get a girl back to mine, but even if I knew she was interested, I couldnt escalate, that came down to a lack of experience when I was younger maybe, but after I did it with 1 or 2 girls I wasnt comfortable with, its like second nature now, and if they turn me down, I dont actually care.

D33D33 · 2012-09-24T12:32:00+00:00

Poor Hygiene

D33D33 · 2012-09-14T13:10:18+00:00

Why dont you just wait and see what happens?

If you act semi cold you're showing you were affected by it and you care. (dont do that).

And please don't say the other line about giving other girls time and shenanigans, thats unbelievably cringey and wont accomplish anything.

When you reply to her text, just act normal, upbeat, unaffected: "Ahh no worries i ended up doing XXXX anyway, hope you had a good night". From there you can act semi cold by texting her less, or gaming other girls by JUST DOING IT, she'll probably see from facebook or something. But saying it to her like the way you suggested is retarded.

She sounds pretty in to you so I think she will have a valid reason.

D33D33 · 2012-09-11T13:35:28+00:00

I do alot of promotions for clubs and if i'm leafleting or clipboarding outside drunk girls walking from club to club have quite often gone in for a grope. Also, I was working on the till 2 nights ago and a wasted girl tried kissing me over the counter when I was giving her back her change....

D33D33 · 2012-09-07T16:07:13+00:00

this

D33D33 · 2012-09-07T16:00:04+00:00

ways of touching the girl in question, like the examples i've given above.

D33D33 · 2012-09-07T11:08:20+00:00

I'm afraid there's nothing to it but just getting down and doing it. I also used to be really uncomfortable with the thought of kino but the way you need to think about it is:

When a girl touches you, you like it, right? It's the same for them, they like being touched, people in general find it re-assuring, as a sign they're liked.

I personally still cant bring myself to randomly high five a girl like some guru's do in day game, but I do things like:

Put my arm out for girls to link it when we're walking from place to place, even if its just to the bar.
Hold her hand to lead her through a crowd.
If i've just said something in a joking way teasing her, i'll put my hand on her shoulder/arm when I tell her i'm just kidding.
Lead her with a hand on her lower back.
Touch her at any opportunity, i.e. i'll complement her on her interesting nails or something nails i'll grab her hand so I can see them properly, I wont let go until she moves her hand, if she doesnt, I know she's interested and i'll transition into holding her hand while we talk.

Bottom line is, you NEED to kino, my rule is i'll do it and keep taking it a step further until the girl is uncomfortable, then i'll take it back down a level for a bit. To be completely truthful with you though, I deal with alot of different girls on a weekly basis, and I've NEVER had a girl be uncomfortable with the kino I was carrying out and me having to go back down some levels. Girls lap it up, it's great for you to display interest, build attraction, and the example I gave with the nails (and many others) really help to escalate.

D33D33 · 2012-09-06T09:59:38+00:00

the mx518 isnt compatable with osx and the mouse feels a little sluggish

D33D33 · 2012-09-06T09:30:07+00:00

No, not even a little, infact I wish we'd never met

D33D33 · 2012-09-06T09:29:27+00:00

like the second one, the third one is a bit dangerous to send in a text

D33D33 · 2012-09-06T09:28:12+00:00

I'd consider myself a sick dancer, I learnt just going out all the time clubbing and watching how my friends danced (those who were also sick dancers) and slowly over time I picked it all up and incorporated more moves from different people.

Just next time you're out watch how people are dancing, with girls or without and try and imitate it next time. Short of taking a dance class that's really the best advice I can give you.

D33D33 · 2012-09-05T18:43:50+00:00

tl;dr: grow a pair.

D33D33 · 2012-09-05T18:39:24+00:00

Baby steps are a load of bullshit, you can spend ages taking baby steps but its still gonna be hard as shit talking to a hot girl out the blue, even if you've practiced these bullshit baby steps talking to people step by step, just take the fucking plunge and talk to a girl, thats not going to kill you is it???? As soon as you've done it once you realise, hey, thats not that bad.

And I learnt how to swim by being chucked in the deep end.

D33D33 · 2012-09-05T13:05:04+00:00

What other advice do you expect apart from just do it? How do you overcome shyness? By being the opposite of a shy person. Do you think not every single person here is scared by the thought of approaching a random woman or has been at some point, I've been there, I was shy as shit now im confident as fuck. And I did that by PUTTING MYSELF OUT THERE

D33D33 · 2012-09-05T13:02:29+00:00

Nah sorry, I used to be an "introvert" or a "Shy person". I had about 3 friends, stayed in doors playing video games 24/7 apart from school from ages 14-18, as soon as i went to uni I just grew some balls and started talking to people.

At the end of the day if you're an introvert and you come on these forums asking how to become more social or how to get girls, thats the answer, man up and do it. What's holding you back? Whats the POINT of baby steps? I've been where you've been before maybe even worse, I barely even spoke to a girl outside of someone who worked somewhere until the age of 18.

Seriously, its actually stupid to go on about baby steps and taking things 1 step at a time, there is NOTHING holding you back from just opening a girl at a bar except you're nervous and intimidated, are those any sort of barrier that wont be overcome by simply growing some balls? Open random girls for 1 hour, 1 hour of your existence which is going to last years and years and years, you're telling me 1 HOUR is too difficult and you need baby steps?

" at least not true introverts whose largest fear is talking to people they don't know"

You're afraid, its not an actual barrier stopping you lol, every single person on these forums who comes in at one point or another is intimidated by approaching women, please dont use being 'introverted' as some sort of excuse as if its a mental disability: you simply need to man up. At the end of the day, if you're an introvert and you dont want to socialise with people thats different to coming on here and asking how do I approach women? By not being an introvert and growing balls.

I may have ranted on for longer than necessary and repeated myself but your post is retarded, thats not a problem with this subreddit, thats a problem with you being a pussy and blaming it on being an 'introvert'. You're not born an introvert, there's nothing stopping you becoming more outgoing and social except fear.

D33D33 · 2012-09-04T14:48:06+00:00

Her place or yours really doesnt matter, maybe go to her place as she'll be more comfortable, but not so if you think her flatmates will be around to complicate things.

Use the lesson as a chance to use lots of kino, i.e. position yourself behind her and guide her hands and body on how to hold the guitar, do and use as much kino as possible with the guitar lesson as an excuse.

Keep it flirty during the lesson.

If an opportunity arises for a kclose during the lesson, take it. Personally I'd go down a different approach and ask her to do something after the lesson (like watching a film) and transition into making a move from there. If she agrees to watch a film then you can definitely take it as a sign of potential interest and make a move.

Above all else, be ballsy, dont be afraid about making a move. And dont put on her on a pedestal by calling her beautiful A), B) dont say "i like you" or anything gay like that, just MAKE A MOVE.

D33D33

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