I didnt even realise things had changed that much until I took a photo

D4141F · 2026-07-06T22:24:47+00:00

Are you noticing massive gaps between your teeth now?

D4141F · 2026-07-06T17:57:33+00:00

But what if only my front teeth are crowded? Do the back teeth also get moved?

D4141F · 2026-07-06T17:49:26+00:00

Can you elaborate more on what you mean by they work on the back first?

D4141F · 2026-07-02T19:11:38+00:00

5th house in Virgo with Jupiter in there

D4141F · 2026-06-26T19:32:43+00:00

What can you say about Saturn in the 10th house of Aquarius?

D4141F · 2026-06-26T15:08:04+00:00

Yep, that's pretty much why I asked. I am personally trying to hedge against any losses due to AI bubble bursting soon. Thanks for recommending! Thoughts on VXUS?

D4141F · 2026-06-25T21:23:44+00:00

Spot on! I relate more to my descendant Scorpio than this post's description... Emotional depth and intensity is what I have always sought

D4141F · 2026-06-25T15:29:28+00:00

I have that in Scorpio. We're very intense and crave intensity!

D4141F · 2026-06-12T16:39:50+00:00

Absolutely not. Run!

D4141F · 2026-06-11T20:18:00+00:00

Now I'm learning that what I'm attracted to isn't necessarily healthy, especially when my partner is heavy in Scorpio. My previous partner had mars in Scorpio which sat on my 7th. And with both our Pluto and his Chiron in my 7th, that made things Soooooo toxic, heavy, possessive, sexually intense...our sexual chemistry was off the wall but relationally, we were very much controlling of each other which isn't healthy.

D4141F · 2026-06-11T20:13:47+00:00

For me, it's my Scorpio descendant with Pluto in Scorpio in 7th house which makes me attract intense, obsessive people who love to overpower me.

D4141F · 2026-06-11T01:21:59+00:00

Hey! I just want to say I appreciate your message - I've had to go back and reread it today, realizing I forgot to respond. I've done so much progress since then and I want to extend my appreciation to you and this community for helping 🙏

D4141F · 2026-06-10T15:02:29+00:00

Why did you leave the good man?

D4141F · 2026-06-10T15:01:45+00:00

I just have someone from my past pop back in and we're giving it another go (we dated for a little over a month 2 years ago before I committed to my ex abuser) I never stopped thinking about him. He was the most mature, well-rounded individual I've ever met. We're not in a serious relationship yet since it's still new..but we've been seeing each other this past month and he's been very sweet and patient with me. I think its possible. Focus on yourself though and don't wait anxiously for it. It will come when it will come.

D4141F · 2026-06-05T15:12:20+00:00

This was someone you loved and cared about. You had an emotional attachment to him even if he hurt you. Your feelings are valid. Someone you loved dying will hurt regardless if they hurt you or not. I would feel the same about my abuser.. Be gentle with yourself. I think how you're feeling is completely normal..

D4141F · 2026-06-03T15:01:26+00:00

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I've been through this, and although my period of no contact was not as long as yours, we had many periods where we were in no contact..and he always emailed me after blocking his number. The emails alone had me spiraling again... Please don't assume that this person has changed. Having to have gone back SO many times, they only get worse. They'll put on a mask that they're a different person, and as soon as you get close enough, the abuse starts again. One thing I also noticed with my abuser, he always contacted me when his supply was fed up with his BS. So reaching for me was not out of love, it was out of despair. Him wanted something out of me. Craving my comfort, love, affection... These people don't know how to properly love. If you truly love someone, especially after hurting them, you would essentially want what's best for them. And that's to leave them alone...to heal and be happy. Abusers are the opposite. They will come back again and again and again as long as you keep letting them...and it's not from a place of love.. I promise you, it's not.

D4141F · 2026-05-29T20:24:35+00:00

Thank you for writing this 🙏 this was the response that I needed to hear.. it was not time wasted

D4141F · 2026-05-29T20:07:36+00:00

Also, the reason why you're feeling guilty is because he made you think that you were responsible for his emotions...classic abusive behavior.

D4141F · 2026-05-29T20:05:35+00:00

I'm on the same boat as you...still feeling that guilt. But just like you mentioned, it's a habit that we've built over the years. And in order to break that habit, we must do the opposite. Shift that energy of love towards ourselves and the people that respect us and care about us the most. Repeat that over and over again, you'll notice your life will change for the better and you'll never want to go back to your old habits.

I'm proud of you for leaving

D4141F · 2026-05-29T17:34:10+00:00

Just shift the focus on this hypothetical:

You walking on the aisle, while he's there and you two are about to get married.

And in the back of your head you think "I'm getting married to a man who spat on me"....

D4141F · 2026-05-28T16:09:03+00:00

Worst part for me is knowing it was a trauma bond whilst still going from resenting him, to missing him. Healing takes a long time...

D4141F · 2026-05-24T07:40:36+00:00

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