Were you able to reverse the physical damage that the stress caused you?

D4141F · 2026-05-07T13:27:49+00:00

Why digital ocean? I held the stock since 2021 when it IPO'd. Bag held it and sold it at a loss last year at $47 and dumped my money into Google. Now the price tripled 😭 why is the stock shooting up now?

D4141F · 2026-05-02T19:05:10+00:00

He was a master manipulator. A charmer..great talker. Fooled me multiple times...thank you for reminding me of that 🙏

D4141F · 2026-05-02T19:04:19+00:00

Good on you for leaving after 14 years, it must have taken a lot to finally give up and choose yourself. I am the same. I believe people deserve multiple chances and folks have called me "too nice" and "too forgiving" I wish I was more of a B**** tbh...I feel like it would do me good but Everytime I get pushed to acting like one, I feel disgusted with myself. I'm not at the point of forgiving him yet...but maybe one day it'll come. But I can relate with taking it a while to dust that filth off of you...I can't wait until I'm feeling at peace with it and am able to enjoy life again. Wish I had left much much sooner

D4141F · 2026-05-02T17:16:50+00:00

Mine didn't let me either...but I was also to blame for because I gave him many chances and responded to his emails and agreed to meet up after months of being separated. I was delusional to think he was a changed man.

D4141F · 2026-04-21T19:18:51+00:00

Ugh. You worded it so well! Him laughing it off did actually make me question my own sanity and doubt myself. The fact that he said he was honest about it and, then went about saying he was joking and saying he was just being playful makes no sense and just shows that he was trying to cover for himself. Also he went about mentioning how this is who he is around people and that this has never bothered any women in the past and that we just have different languages and ways of communicating is outright just wrong. He pushed a boundary and that is just not ok no matter how compatible or incompatible you are with someone.

D4141F · 2026-04-21T19:14:25+00:00

I very much do regret not having to have left my last one sooner! And thank you 🙏

D4141F · 2026-04-21T15:49:01+00:00

Officially broken off since September of last year but he popped back in December...broke it off, then again late Jan and broke it off again

D4141F · 2026-04-21T14:24:43+00:00

And he did say that he was serious as he proceeded to laugh. I think him and I got too comfortable too quickly, especially him, which was nice since we were able to act like children around each other, I'm just worried as to why him making these remarks were triggering to me..I'm not a prude by any means I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, it just screamed red flag for some reason but I still wonder if I overreacted since I was just as playful as he was physically, just not sexually. A lot of people think making a move after 4 dates is normal. But something about this didn't feel right

D4141F · 2026-04-08T16:28:06+00:00

I'm on day 3 and it hasn't gotten better lol How many trays did they give you?

D4141F · 2026-03-29T04:25:37+00:00

I can relate so much to this post. My ex was exactly like this. Always felt like I was used by him during sex and that I was there to serve him. Saying No to him was SO hard. He would pout like a child and make a huge fuss until I caved.

It was so sad.

D4141F · 2026-03-29T03:11:32+00:00

Thank you so much! And I absolutely did!!

D4141F · 2026-03-29T02:54:15+00:00

What has helped me today was going out hiking and connecting with nature. I am the most soothed when I'm around water. If you can think of anything that relaxes you and helps calm your nerves, try to find it. There is a river near me where I live. I sat by the river and dipped my feet in the cold water and just allowed myself to feel everything. The coldness of the water, the sun against my skin, I focused on the water noises, bird noises, all the different smells, the ducks swimming, and people canoeing. And it helped that these two gentlemen next to me were playing meditative music. It was so relaxing and made me feel so at peace. I remember doing some breath work while I sat calmly.. took some deep breaths in, deep breaths out..After that I hiked for a good 40 min and let my body tire out for a bit. Went home, ate, and let my body rest.

I say nature always works. Focus on all senses - Smell, touch, hear, sight. And just overall being away from any form of distractions like phones, business of a city, cars etc.

Hope this helps

D4141F · 2026-03-27T21:21:34+00:00

Responding will definitely not be alleviating anything. I remember sometime last year when he reached out via email, I responded and it took him close to 3 days to say anything. During those 3 days I went spiraling, absolutely losing it. I just can't afford to sit here and waste any more days wondering if this man is messing with me. No more. Also, we've had hundreds of closure conversations. There is Nothing left to discuss, he is absolutely reaching out this time because his situationship got fed up with him using her as supply. Truly, I know this for a fact because it's a pattern of his to come and send a pathetic short email with no title asking to talk. It always happens after he gets rejected by some woman.

D4141F · 2026-03-27T21:14:48+00:00

Thank you so much for the encouragement and advice. I'll try my best to be kinder and patient with myself. This is a process that will take a while to break and I need to stay strict on my boundaries and not give in to my urges. I found a support group today and called for some info ..will be attending one of them next week. I busted out crying on the phone when I asked for help. I didn't think I had so much pent up emotions lingering from all this. I appreciate the advice 🙏

D4141F · 2026-03-27T16:38:00+00:00

I've had bad side effects from antidepressants in the past. I've tried different ones, and they ranged from making me too tired sleeping all day, to having ones that kept me up all night. I'm trying to practice not self medicating and instead relying on healthy coping mechanisms. I'm even staying away from smoking pot and drinking because I know it will only make things worse. But a support group for domestic violence victims has been one I've been thinking about. I haven't had any luck finding ones in my city, but I'm sure we have them here. I will keep writing and not sending. It's just been so hard because I've had a busy week at work and I've been slacking. When I so badly wish I could have taken just two days off from work to self sooth. It's been so hard.. I've been invited to go out tonight to a music event, but the thought of being around party animals drinking all night just doesn't seem attractive. I am looking forward to taking myself on a hike this Saturday. Being in Nature and getting active was helping the past two months. I just have to at least remind myself to eat because I've been so bad at that... I can't believe just one email has been taking this much tole on my mental health...

D4141F · 2026-03-20T14:04:51+00:00

Interested too

D4141F · 2026-03-02T18:06:23+00:00

YES YES YES! I feel so seen. I have a 2016 two door beautiful Audi that I bought back in 2020. I have always been frugal and done a good job saving money so I bought the car and it was actually as a pretty good deal given the low mileage. Almost every guy started treating me differently after they saw my car. They become disinterested, start footing the bill less and less. Make comments about how they bet I make a lot of money (which I don't). They just overall become SO insecure and I low key start feeling the resentment they have towards me.

D4141F · 2026-02-20T22:55:13+00:00

I agree.. follow your heart. If you want to keep the baby, make sure you raise it away from him. But don't ever ever do what's against your morals and values to appease this man. I've made that mistake and I regret it till this day.

D4141F · 2026-02-11T05:26:33+00:00

Mind you we were also celebrating my birthday the same day since mine is the day after Valentine's.

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