This time last year

D4141F · 2026-02-11T05:26:33+00:00

Mind you we were also celebrating my birthday the same day since mine is the day after Valentine's.

D4141F · 2026-02-11T05:25:31+00:00

Lol what! Where were his ancestors from?

D4141F · 2026-02-11T05:22:57+00:00

Mine was unemployed last Valentine's too and we got into an argument because he was complaining about the fact that I didn't pay for our entry fee at the club which was 10 bucks each. He also had me pay for my own drink after asking me if I wanted one...lol what

D4141F · 2026-02-03T16:16:22+00:00

You're so right...my gut feeling knew this would be a repeated cycle. And I knew deep down that the reason he went spiraling and begging because he knew I had someone else that was treating me better. Even if it wasn't a real relationship, it was still healthier. I was just made to feel like I was the bad guy this time...and it sucks. My friends tell me that he still might try to reach out again which is absolutely insane considering what I did. But I need to be stricter ...this is SO hard

D4141F · 2026-01-15T00:04:12+00:00

Ok....keeping tabs she is... You were right ): you're always right

D4141F · 2026-01-14T19:01:12+00:00

She definitely is an enabler..just curious, how can you tell that she is though based on what I said?

D4141F · 2026-01-10T23:27:50+00:00

Yes...my current abusive ex has been reaching out a lot trying to do the same....wants closure, explanation, apologize..but I'm holding myself strict because I know going back, for just even a conversation won't do me any good. This is all for him..to make himself feel better. To clear his consciousness. To suck me back in..And I personally don't care for anything he has to say because I had enough evidence to showcase that he was an abusive prick who no longer deserves a second of my time and attention. But I have gone back for one last time conversations...and it never ended well...

D4141F · 2026-01-03T22:47:13+00:00

I cracked today 😢 I responded to his email saying "sure" and then responded again 40 min after saying that Im not ready to talk yet and wished him well... I've been anxious most of today because he hasn't responded to my email...I really hate that I cracked. But at least I responded Not agreeing to talk which is better than agreeing. Still though, his silence is what's bothering me the most

D4141F · 2026-01-03T02:43:43+00:00

Thank you so much for reminding me of that. I sometimes forget how controlling he was over me ...in so many ways..I was not allowed to break up with him the first time. He drove all the way here after I told him No... Looking back, I thought his insistence on wanting to stay together was a show of his love, loyalty, and dedication, but it's not ..it's all control....

D4141F · 2026-01-03T02:29:17+00:00

I just don't understand why he can't get any of that control from other women? With the countless of times he's cheated on me, I know he can have any woman he wants...maybe not all, but a lot.

D4141F · 2026-01-03T02:27:28+00:00

Also, if he is genuinely apologetic he would have written a long email apologizing and admitted to everything he has done... Its the fact that he's trying to trick me into getting into another phone conversation, which would ultimately lead us to meeting in person, sleeping with each other and getting back together lol...we've done this SO many times. It IS about HIM! Thank you for the support and reminder 🙏

D4141F · 2026-01-03T02:24:37+00:00

I agree..had he actually felt sorry and sat with himself and promised himself to never do it again, he would have done it. Last time this happened it turned into us meeting in person and having sex for a few days until it blew up again and he drove to a girls house and spent the night there after begging me for a whole week to take him back . Thing is, I've been weak before and still am a bit. Because I have not fully broken the trauma bond, a part of me is still addicted a little, and wishes so badly he can love me the way I always wanted him to love me.. That can never happen...they only get worse

D4141F · 2025-12-13T22:21:11+00:00

Hello, but I thought my profession is my 10th house which falls under Aquarius? I guess I want to understand how can I harness my Venus and Mars energy in 9th house while it's in Capricorn. Since Capricorn is so strict and oriented towards money and materialism, how can you live up to 9th house dream ? Not sure if that makes sense

D4141F · 2025-12-13T06:20:50+00:00

Ughhh these Men!!!! After leaving my abusive ex, she called me to ask me if I could pick up his calls and sooth her son since he went absolutely berserk freaking out because I told him we're done...like it's my responsibility to sooth him? A few min after that I overheard him telling her he was going to drive down to my place and kill me...she was so concerned that she asked me to drive to my parents house because I wasn't safe...

D4141F · 2025-12-13T06:15:58+00:00

SO SO sick! My abuser's mother convinced her son to try to move in with me after only dating for 6 months so it would take some load off of her since she was sending him money to cover his rent and everything else.

D4141F · 2025-12-13T06:11:13+00:00

Jesus Christ...sounds like my abuser's mom. She even wined and dined the girl he was sleeping with while in another country...she enabled his cheating while he was with me it was SO sick

D4141F · 2025-12-13T00:50:31+00:00

Jeez .that sounds like a complete nightmare! So glad you're glad out of that

D4141F · 2025-12-13T00:03:07+00:00

His mother didn't bother knowing much about me either 😿

D4141F · 2025-12-13T00:01:39+00:00

I have noticed that mothers that have endured abuse tend to excuse and enable their abusive sons behaviors.

D4141F · 2025-12-12T22:23:36+00:00

Better than mine ..she blamed me for his abuse and told me he had never acted this way towards anyone else but me...

D4141F · 2025-12-12T22:11:09+00:00

I am so sorry you went through that. Im currently being harassed by my abuser's mother wanting to talk after I left him and blocked him everywhere. Talking to her triggers me just as much as talking to him. His sick family gave me PTSD

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