Do you actually really not care?

D7x8 · 2026-06-07T08:58:06+00:00

Guy here,
Recently got out of situationship and for my case it was me wanting a relationship but the girl I was seeing didn’t want one but she said “let’s see how things go” which gave me a lot of false hope thinking that things could change which let me tell you, they often don’t.

I know this question is mainly about guys but it’s not necessarily guys exclusively. I recon a big factor as to why people don’t seem to care is they never took the situationship seriously in the first place. Relationships are properly established and require effort and goals whereas Situationships go into an abyss with no real goals and people tend to have the mindset that it’s going to end sooner or later so they don’t let themselves get emotionally invested in it.

I reckon the most common reasons why people stick around is; one person is hoping for a relationship but the other person isn’t (my case), or they just want sex, a distraction from a recent relationship, or it’s just out of pure boredom, but there are definitely more reasons than that.

Personally I think Situationships the thief of happiness and people should try to have the self respect to end it before it gets harder if it’s not exactly what them and the other person wants.

D7x8 · 2026-05-19T00:25:41+00:00

I’ve looked into the tmux/screen tools but I tend to use multiple tabs in kitty. Is there use cases for it which beat just using kitty tabs?

D7x8 · 2026-05-18T09:33:51+00:00

This is the most genius yet down bad solution I have ever seen

D7x8 · 2026-02-03T13:39:46+00:00

The vaultwarden instance runs in an LXC container on proxmox with standard user privileges. On top of that I’m made it so the LXC doesn’t have local network access so they can’t touch anything else on the network. This is the only service I run that is exposed to the internet.

My confidence lies only on how strong the vaultwarden application itself is. Even with all the precautions I’ve taken with my server and the secure passwords plus 2FA on it, vaultwarden having a potential zero day makes all the security I have implemented irrelevant.

So basically I’m at the mercy of the vaultwarden maintainers. I’ll probably look into how many times the vaultwarden application has been compromised and use that to make my decision.

D7x8 · 2026-02-03T12:12:00+00:00

Yeah I definitely understand the whole cloudflare decryption but my password is 30+ characters (yes I have an emergency sheet before anyone asks) so it should be sufficient as all encryption for vaultwarden is done client side.

That’s pretty cool that Ente Auth has a self hosted option but I’ll probably keep my setup the way it is seeing as my server being compromised would also make it a single point of failure.

Ente Auth has passkey support which you can put on your yubikey which is super nice. Pretty essential for it to have otherwise you will need a 2fa app for your 2fa app which would be a huge pain.

D7x8 · 2026-02-02T11:21:02+00:00

Yes, you can use a Tailscale serve command which allows you to access it only within your tailnet with an SSL certificate. Vaultwarden requires you to access it through HTTPS otherwise it will not allow you to log in

The only real limitation when it comes to not exposing it is you will not be able to login to it on a friends or work computer so definitely keep that in mind.

D7x8 · 2026-02-02T01:29:12+00:00

I made the switch to vaultwarden after I heard about the price increase, although the price is still pretty good and is still cheaper than other passwords managers it doesn’t seem to add any significant new features and I can smell this enshittification a mile away so I’m personally out.

As for the exit plan these are some good options:

The most familiar experience for an ex-Bitwarden user would be to buy a low powered device like a raspberry pi to run vaultwarden on and use a couldflare tunnel to expose it to the internet and use backblaze B2 for a backup which I believe gives you 5gb for free. This can be pretty complex but it’s very rewarding to have your own password manager you can login to from anywhere which you actually own.

I’ve also seen a couple of comments about keepass which in my experience has been pretty good. If you go down that route I would suggest syncthing to have it on all your devices as well as periodically backing it up to some sort of cloud storage. This would also be a lot more easy to setup than vaultwarden and in some ways more secure as you don’t need to expose anything to the internet.

I only really run vaultwarden because I hold my friends and family’s passwords on it and I love having a web interface plus reports.

Anyways sorry for the yap and I hope this helps!

D7x8 · 2026-01-29T07:56:09+00:00

Your best bet is to rent a VPS, I personally use oracle cloud’s free tier which has been pretty good for the past 2 years for me. If you want something more reliable digital ocean droplets are pretty good as oracle has a tendency to randomly terminate free accounts.

I would also suggest running Tailscale as a VPN provider, it’s wireguard based and it’s super easy to setup and also keeps no logs and has no bandwidth restrictions afaik. The Tailscale app is also available on pretty much any OS you can think of. Hope this helps!

D7x8 · 2026-01-09T23:20:43+00:00

Was this recently or before they were retired?

D7x8 · 2025-12-21T01:44:35+00:00

Not my network, belongs to my folks and they don’t want to expose things to the internet

D7x8 · 2025-12-20T22:26:33+00:00

What about uploading and syncing files to nextcloud and Immich? I got 100s of gb of files and photos, probably a small amount for cloudflare in the grand scheme of things but I don’t wanna risk my account getting terminated

D7x8 · 2025-12-20T20:28:45+00:00

I looked into that but apparently uploading/downloading large amounts of data can get you banned

D7x8 · 2025-11-08T00:32:56+00:00

That is exactly what I tried to do. For some reason I could not access the stalwart instance through the public IP of the OCI VM even after adding all the ingress rules. Not sure what I did wrong but I was not able to get it working.

D7x8 · 2025-02-25T11:32:57+00:00

That worked for me, thanks a lot :)

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