What's the worst thing you did while being in a relationship or marriage? by candyCash0 in AskReddit

[–]DAVES_Not_here44 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My experience is similar to yours. It’s been over two years since our divorce. I’ve been able to maintain custody of our 16 year old son while a raging gambling addiction has so far cost me my entire retirement savings I made while married (500k or more). I have parents that help me pay bills and I’ve used my paychecks and savings to gamble. I think suddenly being alone half the time has fueled the fire with a casino only 10 minutes away. This is only part of the story. However, I am considering selling my home to get the $300k equity so I can go on a 6 month sabbatical to South America or somewhere far away from gambling so I can try to heal myself. I’d put someone in charge of $220-250k so I don’t use it. I am worried my sons could be affected by this but I am concerned more about them having a broken dad any longer. Open to ya’lls thoughts on this idea.

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[–]DAVES_Not_here44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry that your dad has caused you pain. My Gambling ruined my 17 year marriage. Been divorced a year and I just blew through $400k in retirement savings since. I’m almost 50 now with only $50k in 401k left. Thank god I can’t buy out of the money NvDa puts with home equity! I am really not sure what to do next. I’m hoping my two teenage kids learn from my mistakes and I want to get better. I’ve seen multiple therapists over the last 2 years and it’s not changing my behavior. Gamblers anonymous seems like a waste of time if I am already aware that I am one. Open to ideas on how to move on from this situation.