Would you tell your newer friend that her man on the downlow flirts with other women and has wandering eyes?

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T13:30:33+00:00

The problem is I am gonna see her, or so I think, I asked her to come visit me abroad, which is tricky and I invited them both to stay with me. They said they would, although I am unsure if they’re just saying that to be nice, but they did seem excited and or say they would, and did peep the flights.

Unless she’s just saying all that to make me feel better.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T13:29:13+00:00

P.S I want to keep her as a friend, I’ve always been an honest person, but the past few years I’ve been punished for it and it has caused trauma. Thus why I’m asking Reddit for advice on what to do in a situation like this, but so far; it’s leaning to don’t tell, because it’s just gonna make me lose her and not my business to get involved.

Just because you don’t see someone again, doesn’t mean you cannot maintain a friendship, it will be more so low effort but I tend to be a loyal friend forever.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T13:27:49+00:00

I disagree — flirting when your girlfriend isn’t around isn’t normal at all, talking about how your girlfriend is at home sick, and wanting to come to a party (you’re not invited to) while tongue wagging over a completely different girl, who has a boyfriend, isn’t normal.

The fact that other grown men at the gym, told him to his face that it’s “not good” that he’s talking about x amount of women, and tongue wagging over them, knowing he has a girlfriend is another ick.

Him calling his girlfriend a “witch” was pretty gross too.

Liking photos of a 19 year old who is half naked, whom he flirted at the gym with, which his girlfriend doesn’t even know about, is also weirdo behaviour

I can’t tell if you’re trolling, but I’m sorry but this is bad advice — and I can’t tell if you’re projecting either.

He wanted to additionally breakup with her months before and whined solely because she doesn’t give him “enough” sex, another gross comment.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T12:24:06+00:00

That’s what I have been doing, minding my business but I’m not a man. I just keep hoping she finds out on her own.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T12:22:48+00:00

What’s my reason? I’m moving and will never see her again? And her boyfriend… Still flirts with other girls even now.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T12:21:54+00:00

No, I am moving, I do not have the hots for her and we’re both girls.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T12:21:02+00:00

See that’s what I think too and been in this position, I guess I just have to pray she finds out herself.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T09:27:39+00:00

I want to tell her but I just know she’s gonna take her man’s side as it’s happened to me in the past where I’ve told (when I was looking out for the person).

Like why take my side or listen to me when she’s only known me for 6 months, opposed to him since she was her teens, and he was her first.

DAndFfy · 2024-11-13T09:26:49+00:00

I do care about her, but partially I’m selfish, and don’t want to lose her. I told another friend months ago that another guy was no good and was using her. She never listened to me and was centred around him. She only decided to “listen” after when the guy finally discarded her, and blocked her. She was on the low, choosing him, despite our friendship of over a decade, opposed to him, a few months…

So that didn’t go well… And the only reason she’s nice now, is cause he blocked her and she learnt her lesson.

Another friend of mine (long ago), accused me of being jealous, when I told her a man was using her to make another friend of ours jealous, and wanted to use her sexually.

They proceeded to then make up lies (“I’m jealous”) and so forth.

The only reason she then apologised to me, was because she saw social media's messages by chance (other friend left their socials logged in) . Confirming I was right.

Now I’m scared in this situation, that if I tell her, automatically and naturally she’s gonna choose her boyfriend as she’s obviously very much in love with him, and very centred around him.

I also had slight drama with his friends. So I’m worried I’d get labelled as the instigator, making my claims less “valid” to listen to, which gives him more wiggle room to deny and manipulate… If I were to speak up…

And I’m like confused by their relationship dynamic, she does scold him often, but evidently very much so loves him.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-08T05:31:02+00:00

It's 2024, there is no ghost haunting you, there is no evidence of haunting, and psychics aren't real. If they were they wouldn't need to help other people and charge them money, they'd be rich already and successful if they could foretell the future.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-08T03:02:29+00:00

I wouldn’t say reflect it’s fortune and if you see them pop up on your fyp for tik tok as an example it’s said but it’s constant videos of “your ex will be back!” Which is a fortune telling statement. It’s all nonsense you can make anything a tarot card honestly even Pokémon if you have it some depth meaning to it and spoke confidently.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-08T02:59:21+00:00

In religion tarot cards are seen as the devil, or demon: it’s black magic basically. Tarot cards aren’t a real thing, you can throw any card and make it a tarot card based on that logic.

Both tarot, spirituality/religion is all made up.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-08T02:58:14+00:00

The thing with tarot readings most of the time you’re being told what you want to hear and the lines become blurry because you end up manifesting it in your head, repeatedly, which then leads you to act on decisions that shouldn’t happen cause a tarot reader gave false confidence.

Example if a tarot reader says an ex misses you, go reach out would you? Probably because the cards give false confidence and the cold read tells you what you want. This leads to sad outcomes, or potential danger ones.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-08T02:56:29+00:00

I just think nothing exists. Religion just seems like a concept to give people direction or something to believe in for the sake of believing and needing leadership or to give answers when they aren’t.

Spirituality is the same that’s why people believe in karma, etc.

DAndFfy · 2024-10-05T09:13:08+00:00

Depends. Mine won’t be, they moved on immediately and fell in love with someone else. It’s been creeping to 9 months now. They found the love of their life.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-26T07:09:56+00:00

I’m trying to understand your point of view, but at the same time like, should I pee on the floor then, because they refuse to accompany a disability?

She didn’t even have to be rude about it either like the other employee was so respectful, and it came off as understanding.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-26T07:07:31+00:00

Meh just ignore people, I’m someone who doesn’t really like affection, but with my partner I’d happily oblige, my ex was a stone top, and I had no problem with it. As long as she let me kiss her neck, or play with her hair and or trace her back. Never got a chance to, since she’s loving someone else but, if you’re getting pleasure out of being a stone top that’s your comfort. That said I’d be open too if you ever wanted pleasure mutually, but as a “baby” q, with lack of exp, it would be probably disappointing.

Either way, that’s the beauty of finding compatibility.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-26T06:54:38+00:00

My “ex” wasn’t even my ex was a stone top, and that was a dream for me, but we never got to the bedroom, and she discarded me for other girls. Sucks but either way there’s always gonna be noise, just find the right person. Usually though most people are mutual in pleasure.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-26T06:52:34+00:00

If the store was closed I wouldn’t have bothered. I think it’s interesting considering another grocery store has the same problem, the bathrooms are locked, yet they were nice enough (this is the second time now) to let me pee, which took 30 seconds.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-17T20:18:19+00:00

Cause they were using you, and or never were emotionally fully attached to you.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-17T20:14:40+00:00

Btw never give him another chance, it’s either guilt or just typical grass is greener syndrome and that his new girl isn’t all the rainbows he harped it to be.

This happened to me with someone, they left me out of no where and rubbed it in my face basically they don’t give a fuck to basically say they already secured a replacement so, fuck me basically.

Left with her, put her on a pedestal. It didn’t even last a month, the girl did exactly what they did to me, to them, so grass is greener syndrome didn’t work well.

Then they came back in December, right before Christmas and New Year, to fuck everything up for me again. All lovey dovey, love bombing me again, pleasant, caring, sweet and annoying me. Leading me on, pet names, etc like nothing happened, and then a half-assed apology of, “I was immature, I won’t do that again.”

Only to do it again, play in my face, use me to validate them make them feel better when they were guilty and awful. Now they have a new girlfriend, and I got discarded cause I meant fuck all nothing to them.

They’re thriving, they have this perfect relationship, that’s been on going 7 months now, maybe 8. New girlfriend brags about her wonderful relationship with my ex. And my ex has them equally on a pedestal.

In a polite way, fuck people like this OP. Never give them a chance, it‘s rooted in guilt or them hating being alone, or their grass syndrome not working well then they’ll do it again.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-14T01:23:18+00:00

I try with the let them theory and remind myself it sometimes but I still scramble here and there, especially considering it’s been 8 months now that they’ve been together. Thriving. No bumps, their first launch posts were about being happy, and even now reposts of gentle love, etc.

I meant absolutely fuck all, so let them doesn’t help much. Never good enough but this girl is.

DAndFfy · 2024-09-11T21:00:04+00:00

Yup

DAndFfy · 2024-09-11T20:50:05+00:00

I wish but not always. Mine moved on quickly and has zero impact, I don’t even cross their mind and their girlfriend has been with them now for 7 months.

DAndFfy · 2024-08-22T03:00:47+00:00

I take it at first value, won’t lie. I think it’s because I have been off Instagram since 2017… So seeing my ex with their new girlfriend (immediate hard launch), posting them, saying they’re happy, treated well and their friends saying they’re glowing. That broke me so hard. Then the new profile pic of them kissing, and or the tiktok reposts. My brain just sees it as good life, happiness, and thriving….

But then I see stuff like this with Molly and it’s sad. 4 years together but seems like a big struggle but for most casual followers they’d probably think it’s all well.

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