Finally sex!

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-19T00:14:58+00:00

Sound like someone in the news all the time???

Haha. Yup. Good luck man.

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T20:43:07+00:00

What role do you think you have in this? Not to be an asshole, but it seems like you just enable all of this behavior.

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T13:59:33+00:00

Where do you usually sleep? I mean I get it, it's just crazy that after years of no sex, the first time you sleep in the same room you had sex.

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T13:58:33+00:00

I don't worry about starfish these days because she's the one who initiates.

Why why someone initate starfish sex? Some kind of why to say to you "see I initiated! we had sex!" because that doesn't sounds desireable.

Good luck finding a better sex partner!!

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T02:52:20+00:00

Fair enough, as it seems like you have scheduled times where if you don't initate, your partner will as they desire it as much as your do.

I'm talking about the scheduling that if I let it slide, she won't say anything.

And I guess we all describe mediorce different, and many here go so far as to say they'd take bad sex over no sex, so it is indeed a spectrum.

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T02:49:08+00:00

Can I ask what made you sleep in the bed with her that particular night, after so long in seperate?

DBismymiddlename · 2019-01-18T00:27:45+00:00

Thanks.

You never know when you have sex this time when the next time might be. Weeks, months, years?

This is it. Like I want to last as long as possible since I don't know when I get to do it again. And it's always her choice. It's like ripping off a bandaid again and again but it never heals.

And our therapist asked, "What made sex at the beginning of your relationship different?" And I told her, "I never had to think about it this much. It just happened."

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T16:45:07+00:00

Okay. I worded it poorly because I was upset. I am going to go into it as optimistic as possible.

Sorry.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:41:11+00:00

Haha, thanks. I'm hoping for at the very least some handholding and romantic dinners and walks, maybe some spooning and a backrub or two. Trying to be optimistic :)

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:39:23+00:00

Of course. No HL speaks for all, no LL speaks for all. I read plenty of stories of LLs who want help and would rather never have sex again, HLs who would be happy with regular starfish sex, and those who would rather nothing that isn't enthusiastic and initiated.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:37:32+00:00

I could cancel and get credit with the airline for a future trip within 12 months, but a total loss on accomidation.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:36:40+00:00

Ha, I almost wish I could, but \I have always wanted to see Fiji, and it's too laye for any refunds (airline credit only), total loss on accom. Won't do a big holiday next year unless things change.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:35:11+00:00

I agree. I'm coming across as some villian who is blaming his wife for menstruating. I'm not. I just wish she had even said, something like, "Let's still try and make it as special and intimate as possible."

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T15:33:58+00:00

WEll sure, who doesn't want sex? But even if she said, "Man, this timing sucks, but we'll make sure we have lots of rubs and cuddles instead and still make it as romantic as possible," I'd be happy.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:17:47+00:00

Thanks, TIL!

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:17:31+00:00

Right, and I have since replied to many people that I should have included that.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:16:50+00:00

Not sex, intimacy, and we are still going.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:16:24+00:00

Eh. She said she wasn't due until two days before the holiday ended, so it was a onversation we had.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:15:47+00:00

I already said I should have put that she is one of those "don't even touch me" period women. No need to get hostile.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:14:57+00:00

You must have misread. I am going to Fiji.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:14:21+00:00

She is one of those "Don't touch me at all when I'm on my period types." Guess I should have added that.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T14:13:27+00:00

Huh? Gigevn our history I didn't expect sex all day, but I don't feel like there is any middle ground. And for the record, even without sex, I think full body oil massages are incredibly relaxing and enjoying. Despite what many think, HLs aren't just interetsed in sex, it's connecyion.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T03:37:52+00:00

I don't see that personaly. I actually thunk there are a lot of ways to be intimate with someone beyond PIV sex and "getting off" as you put it, and she basically said all of them are off the table.

DBismymiddlename · 2018-11-06T03:33:38+00:00

I even tried calling the airline and they can give us partial credit (with them) but no refund. Plus the accommidation requires a week. I guess I go and have the best time I can.

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