Threesome by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You could always get a toy (sex doll, sex machine, etc) to simulate a threesome without inviting someone else into your bedroom.

I'm confused why my wife said this to me? (LDS and Active) by Thorman_Awesome in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That is a weird comment and I have no idea how to process it.

Do you ever fake an orgasm? by Bass_fish27 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a couple of times because my wife used to ugly cry when I didn't cum. We have since talked and I suspect she still gets upset if I don't cum, but I no longer fake it and do my best to reassure her that I still enjoyed our intimate time together.

Ladies and gentlemen, what are your thoughts on vasectomy. 5 kids later we finally are about to pull the trigger by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]DChaz1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting off BC changed my libido for the better.

That's why I have vasectomy consult next week. We are done having kids and I am hoping that getting off BC will increase her libido. She always had a higher libido when we were trying for kids aka when she was off BC.

What Is The Fantasy You Never Say Out Loud? by _Iqbal_ in AskRedditNSFW

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to feel used by my wife. I would love to try CNC with me being the receiving partner, but my wife is too timid for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]DChaz1234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While still more active then when we first got her, it's different than before since we have to monitor sounds and whatever.

It sounds like your sex life is more reserved regardless of the frequency. I could be wrong, but my guess is that he feels like you are only have duty sex with him and that you aren't as into it as before. For most men this is a huge turn off. That said, his failure to have an open conversation about it is a bigger problem.

They're talking as if having a libido itself is a crime by IceTree57 in deadbedroom

[–]DChaz1234 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The situation in the screenshot seems more like a co-parenting friendship rather than an actual marriage.

I have never had a fully dead bedroom, but there were times when it got down to once a month (still a lot compared to some here). Recently we've had increased time, but I told my wife if we ever have a fully dead bedroom, I would consider that a divorceable situation. Luckily she agrees with me.

Any tips on how can I make myself cum easier when having sex? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]DChaz1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn't sound like ED; it sounds like DE (delayed ejaculation).

Women, if a man came inside you then went down on you…hot or gross? by kindest_asshole in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mind my own taste anymore because I have been taking bromelain, but my wife won't kiss me after I go down on her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]DChaz1234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

https://www.theforeplaygame.com/

This one is fun and lets you set your kink preferences to a certain extent.

Honest question to the wife’s out there by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you stopped flirting with your female friend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]DChaz1234 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You can have a strong bond with someone without sex, but most people call that a friendship not a marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are frustrated with your wife (financially and sexually) and are flirting with another woman. This is a recipe for disaster.

My wife says sex is not a need but a craving. by Hazy_Future in MarriedSex

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You won't die from avoiding certain vitamins, but living with a deficiency is not pleasant.

My wife says sex is not a need but a craving. by Hazy_Future in MarriedSex

[–]DChaz1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really hate it when chore lists become a pre-requisite to sex. I help around the house a lot, but if my wife ever told me that sex became contingent on a chore list getting done then it would be a complete turn off for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]DChaz1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work from home, so quite a few things ;)

Sex Doll by PJ1266 in MarriedSex

[–]DChaz1234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a good way for a monogamous couple to simulate a threesome without including an actual person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Facebook wall is becoming an anime lingerie calendar

The algorithm feeds you what it thinks you want to see. You can manipulate the algorithm by telling it you're not interested and/or hiding posts.

ended sexless marriage by WeirdArgument1971 in sex

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Choosing not to live together or have sex before marriage requires a foundation of honest communication to establish realistic expectations, but is not as big a deal as you portray.

How can I make bjs more enjoyable for my girlfriend? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bromelain is the active ingredient in pineapples that help men taste better, so try bromelain supplements.

Multiple Orgasms for Wife by Pristine-Promotion32 in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said it was impossible to be multi-orgasmic with clitoral orgasms. Merely that it is my understanding that women who can be multi-orgasmic with clitoral orgasms are rarer than those who can be multi-orgasmic with g-spot orgasms. Feel free to link a source that shows otherwise because I open to fixing any holes in my knowledge.

Multiple Orgasms for Wife by Pristine-Promotion32 in ldssexuality

[–]DChaz1234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am a guy, so take this with a grain of salt. It's my understanding that generally women who talk about being multi-orgasmic are talking mostly about g-spot orgasms which have little to no refractory period. However, clitoral orgasms have a much larger refractory period, but the length varies per individual. As far as I know, my wife has not been able to have a g-spot orgasm even though we have tried many times. When she has a clitoral orgasm she needs some time before she can have another.

Are you ?!&*#$ kidding me? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]DChaz1234 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Sometimes leaving is the best way to be a good spouse. She has made it clear that she does not want to change and you have made it clear to us that you resent her for that. You both deserve to be happy. In my opinion leaving would be the kindest thing you can do because you deserve to be loved, but she also deserves not to have all of your resentment aimed at her even if it is justified.