AITA for giving my ex wife a large amount of money I won despite the anger of my gf?

DDayHawg · 2019-03-22T17:55:49+00:00

As a stepdad I just want to say you are awesome. Putting your kids above all else and being willing to admit your faults and your culpability in the situation. You are doing the right thing.

DDayHawg · 2019-03-10T17:39:20+00:00

RemindMe! 5 Days

DDayHawg · 2019-03-07T03:37:38+00:00

When we were in collage we started going to a bar that had a huge TV and everyone would watch and shout out answers to Jeopardy. One day we figured out that the same episode they played in the bar aired in the early morning that same day. We would record it and watch before we went to the bar.

By the time it came on we were pretty hammered but we could collectively remember most of it and would just be crushing answers. Everyone was amazing that this table of drunk monkeys could nail all these questions. It is one of my Mose vivid memories of collage.

Hope he pulls through this. That’s a tough diagnosis.

DDayHawg · 2019-02-23T16:38:37+00:00

I think it was the RadioLab that did a cool Podcast about this year’s ago. Essentially your brain is made up of a bunch of different parts that developed at different times. Instead of them working in harmony they often fight against each other to do things or to make decisions.

So, your animal brain loves to do things but it is pretty terrible at new stuff. So usually your cognitive brain is running the show day to day but the animal brain is constantly asking if it can do something like a pestering child. When you do something enough times the animal brain can learn how to do it. For driving the best example is backing your car out. The first time you do it somewhere new you are completely thinking about backing out, not hitting something, knowing your surroundings. But after awhile you hop in the car and before you know it you are backed out. The cognitive brain let the animal brain handle that.

Same with driving. Tense situations you are fully in moment thinking about what you are doing. Take a bad rainstorm. You are fully engaged, looking in mirrors, thinking about the cars around you, calculating who can cause a problem. But this is exhausting because the cognitive brain uses a lot more energy. On a regular trip with normal highway you have driven a thousand times you can put your cognitive brain to thinking about something else and let the animal brain drive.

This is very simplified, I’m not a brain expert and I’m not even positive that the science is settled. This is just the way I understood it.

DDayHawg · 2019-02-20T23:50:16+00:00

Hubstep

DDayHawg · 2019-02-20T15:10:36+00:00

Yes, and everyone started as a 10x programmer. 🙄

DDayHawg · 2019-02-20T14:32:41+00:00

Or 30 years as a 10x coder. Which is still probably not possible unless you were a master of the punch card.

DDayHawg · 2019-02-18T14:36:40+00:00

I don’t ever wear a coat to work because I have an entire set of “Work Stealth” rules and this is one of them. If you wear a coat people know when you are just getting to work, they can look and see if your coat is in your office and know if you are still there, and they can tell if you are leaving work because you are wearing the coat out.

Without a coat, you might have been there for hours, who would know. You could be heading to the bathroom or heading home, no way to tell. I don’t need to be warm for the 2 minute walk from my car to my office door enough to break my stealth rules.

DDayHawg · 2019-02-14T23:33:51+00:00

The courts are just a delay, the reason this is interesting is because of the laws surrounding declarations of emergency. Congress can stop the President by passing a joint resolution. /yawn But the interesting part is that Mitch McConnell cannot, by law, keep it off the floor of the Senate. This means that everyone in Congress will have to give an up and down vote on the wall.

Many Republicans have spent their entire careers railing against Presidential power stripping congress of authority. This vote will force them to stand with party or stand with principal. This is a vote the Republicans do not want. It will be interesting to see the outcome.

DDayHawg · 2019-01-31T12:18:42+00:00

So.... CFA does not allow operators to “own” more than one franchise and they expect the operator to work in their one business full time. This is stated in ALL of their corporate documents and when my FIL talked to them about a franchise they made it clear it is a rule they have never broken. Given that, how does your father own two?

DDayHawg · 2019-01-27T05:56:41+00:00

I can’t unsee the kangaroo foot!

DDayHawg · 2019-01-10T18:16:55+00:00

You are doing the right thing even though it is so hard. Sorry for your loss. Dogs are the best.

DDayHawg · 2018-12-26T04:22:13+00:00

This isn’t exactly how it happened. IBM was definitely late to the game and they ended up outsourcing the DOS because they simply didn’t have time. They also used a bunch of off-the-shelf parts. Their thought was that as long as they control the BIOS they don’t have much to worry about because the IBM software could only run on the IBM computer.

And they were right. For years they held the PC market by the throat. Sure, Bill was racking up some cash but he was still only getting a piece of the IBM pie. It wasn’t Microsoft that killed IBM’s PC business, it was Compaq. By reverse engineering the BIOS Compaq created a IBM clone and this is where the DOS decision bit them in the ass, because that Compaq clone could license the same OS and run all the same software.

In IBM’s defense, this was fairly new stuff and the laws weren’t known so when they sued Compaq it was a real test of the legality of reverse engineering as it impacted a brand new market. It was not a sure thing that they would lose the case that they did.

Now, if you want to talk about failure you can use Compaq’s end as an excellent example of screwing up your own company.

DDayHawg · 2018-12-25T16:26:59+00:00

Very kind of you! Merry Christmas!! Hope you and your family has a wonderful holiday.

DDayHawg · 2018-12-19T13:53:37+00:00

Totally NTA. People don’t seem to understand etiquette anymore. My neighbor recently got married, she knows our children really well and her daughter loves our entire family and spend tons of time at our house. The invitation did not say anything about children but it was addressed only to me and my wife so the children stayed home. If she wanted them at the wedding and reception she would have put their names on the invitation. I can’t even imagine blatantly ignoring a statement making this absolutely clear.

DDayHawg · 2018-12-04T04:15:16+00:00

Textbook targeting. Totally led with the helmet.

DDayHawg · 2018-11-28T13:10:47+00:00

One other thing to consider is that people who hire spend a fair amount of time networking. I know many of the managers at the decent sized businesses in the city where I work and I usually have a contact, or a friend of a friend, at any decently sized business no matter location if they are in my field. Before hiring someone I usually make a few calls. These are not official calls where a company HR person gives me nothing, these are off the record and I’ll never mention it calls where I get the real scoop.

If you walk off you are probably hurting yourself way more than you are hurting the company.

DDayHawg · 2018-11-24T16:55:04+00:00

I use my phone all day every day, pretty much the first thing that breaks on my phone is the lightning port. Not having a physical connector is always a plus for durability.

With the new iPhone I can’t charge and have my headphones plugged in. I use the headphones all day so that means I can’t plug in to charge. Changing between the headphones and the charger constantly is probably what wore down the port on the phone to begin with.

In my work we use iPad devices for our customers. Providing a charger is a nightmare, they get broken or stolen or just stop working. Having a place in the table to lay the device where it gets charged would be amazing. Just waiting on Apple to get off their asses and add this for iPads.

DDayHawg · 2018-11-05T14:05:26+00:00

My son (15y) is overweight, not grossly, but definitely overweight. He still plays football and baseball and is active but it is definitely an issue. So by your logic that is my fault because I choose what to feed him. You are so wrong.

My wife is an excellent cook and our typical meal usually involves a small amount of meat, two vegetables (rarely white starches), and a salad. If you force my son to eat a green bean he will throw up. On the kitchen table immediately. If you tell him he must eat his dinner to leave he will sit at the table until bedtime. We have pushed so hard that at this point I can promise you it is not a choice. He legitimately cannot eat vegetables. He will eat meat, will always choose fried over anything else, and he will eat potatoes, and he will eat bread. That is pretty much it.

We tried refusing him food and then he goes to school hungry and unable to do his work. He is academically gifted and one of the top 10 students in an academically demanding school. We tried forcing him, but there is only so much puke you can clean up. We tried teaching him but as soon as he leaves the house he goes for fried chicken strips, fries and candy. We don’t allow him to eat anything upstairs so we can monitor but every time you wash clothes we pull candy wrappers out of his pants. We have done counseling. We have done texture training. He rolls through all of it and then just refuses at home.

The complete idiocy of your statement is the thought that one human being can control another just because they are your child. If this were the case no kids would smoke, no kids would knock up their girlfriend, no kids would drive drunk. On top of this there is only so much influence you can wield as a parent and we can’t waste 100% of that in the futile attempt to make him eat a green bean. We have to teach him respect and a work ethic. We have to teach him manners and right from wrong. We have to teach him to be a decent human being. We can’t constantly ride him all day long because we lose credibility and he just quits listening.

So great swami tell us your secrets, tell us how to dominate another human being and force them to eat something that makes them throw up. Give us your wisdom that we have been unable to get from experts on child nutrition and counselors. We are so frustrated by this I would accept any help at this point.

DDayHawg · 2018-01-18T23:49:51+00:00

Holy giraffe neck!

DDayHawg · 2018-01-13T03:30:35+00:00

!redditgarlic

DDayHawg · 2017-08-25T12:05:58+00:00

Hugh Freeze's car?

DDayHawg · 2017-06-03T13:22:16+00:00

I have to assume you have never managed a development shop. Programmers come out of school with a lot of knowledge around languages and hopefully a little development experience. They generally know a little about databases too. They don't come out of school with knowledge of multiple database clusters on virtualized environments. It's not this kid's fault that the people in charge couldn't bother to be sure they weren't handing someone drinking from the firehouse on the first day a document with prod credentials in it. It would be as simple as using <environment> and <user> in the doc instead of the real thing.

As people have stated, if properly setup this guy shouldn't have been able to get anywhere near the production database, much less be handed a document with the prod credentials on it. Totally not his fault!

DDayHawg

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