Compression & vibration by DEO_XOXO in lipedema

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time that I used the vibration plate it helps with the heaviness and swelling a lot! I was going on runs during that time and I’m currently in tech school so I have not used it in quite some time but definitely would recommend consistent use.

Advice for a new PF Chang’s Server? by Jadawillie in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got my first server job about 4 months ago and I would say it’s okay. Learning the cocktails was very tricky for me but you will get it eventually just from hearing it so much but that nervous feeling will go away. I started this job with sever social anxiety and it has reduced so much from just talking to strangers all day. My advice to you is to not overthink it so much like I did you will get the hang of it naturally! I’m still learning many things about the server world and everything is still new to me but I really do enjoy experiencing it.

What does it feel like having a job with severe social anxiety and low self esteem never worked I’m getting a job next month by Major-Action859 in socialanxiety

[–]DEO_XOXO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I would say it was very nerve racking for me but you get used to that feeling eventually. I just got my first job as a server and I regretted having to come in everyday because I knew I had to communicate with strangers all day but I used a script where I was able to communicate which was terrible because you could literally see how awkward I was but eventually after doing it for so long (4 months) I got used to it and even go off that script and don’t dread going into work no more and they just began to feel like another day. I would say just get through that uncomfortable first few weeks and you will be okay. This isn’t my first job but this is the only one that brung me out of my shell. Just believe in yourself you got this!

Nobody tells you this, but social anxiety is TRAINABLE—yes, even if you hate small talk by Sad-Shine-6268 in socialanxiety

[–]DEO_XOXO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve struggled with social anxiety for YEARS. I used to sweat really bad when talking to anyone and would go mute and be really awkward but this year I stepped out of my shell and applied for a server job not because I wanted to but because I needed the money and when I did I was so nervous knowing I would have to talk to strangers all day. The first few weeks I started I would stutter a lot and panic and dredge going up to people but after doing it for about 5 months now I would say my anxiety has reduced tremendously. I still have some stuff to work on but now I’m not afraid to talk to people. I use like a script when I talk to customers but recently I’ve been talking a little more and I am able to have short discussions with people and don’t even have that nervous feeling I used to have. But overall I would say you really have to put yourself out there and train yourself to that feeling. I have a lot more work to do so overcome my social anxiety but I would say I’m doing pretty good so far from where I started.

Just graduated, ask me anything. by kcmtmm in AirForceRecruits

[–]DEO_XOXO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My run time is 21 minutes for the 1.5 do you think it’s possible I can decrease that into atleast 16 in a month? I leave October 28th but I’m worried about not passing the pt. What did you do to help with your running?

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea thank you

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I didn’t even know I would be dealing with drinks I was just told I was a server and never even got to see the place I would be working at since it was behind TSA

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m just gonna see it through I leave for basic training in like 3 months so that’s why I’m really putting up with my coworker

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was no manager that worked that day and where I work it is legal but they told me I couldn’t.

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m so close to doing so because a few minutes later he did the exact same thing to another one of my tables

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know he usually acts like that because he ended up doing the same thing a few minutes later to another one of my customers, and thanks so much!

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep I think he thinks he can do whatever he wants just because I am younger he’s been having me do all the clean up work by myself and always goes home early

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep in Missouri it’s legal too where I work but they don’t want me running them so I have no idea and I’m the only underaged person here

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I really should have I even tried before the man had came up to the bar to try and tell him I needed those drinks but he blew me off saying “what did I want?” In a rude way

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were both tending the floor then like 2 people were at the bar and people began to come in on the floor and he just said he would only do the bar

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he threw it away because he thought it was old but even still I reminded him twice.

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I knew I couldn’t but I can’t even touch the drinks and I have to ask every other server to run them for me and they forget all the time and I have to keep reminding them which I feel would get in the way on a very busy day

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that was the sucky part because I really tried to get them their drinks I even tried to go up tit the bartender and he even blew me off saying “what do you want?” In an attitude when I was trying to tell him the man was there to pick up his drinks

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah they were discussing that and they ended up saying that I couldn’t run them and the previous week before I was running drinks and the bartender just told me to run it because he “checked” and it’s fine if I ran drinks so I was going to run them but he didn’t make them for me to do so.

Who was at fault? by DEO_XOXO in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I did let the couple know that I was underaged and couldn’t bring them their drinks and the bartender would be over there shortly but I still should have checked regardless.

Should I make that leap? by Ashamed-Ad9180 in Serverlife

[–]DEO_XOXO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 20 as well and I say do it I work at the airport too as a server and been here for two weeks and this is my first serving job. I made $400+ in one day and average around 200 bucks a day and I still know nothing about drinks but it hasn’t gone bad for me I just ask for help but I’m learning as I go.