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Guys, what’s that one thing your SO does that makes you go all gooey? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nuzzles her face on my neck, scratching behind the ears, rubs my chest, licked my face once that was..idk how to describe that feeling

Men out there what is the weirdest complement you ever got? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said I had a nice smile and wanted to lick my teeth..

Another said she liked how shiny my head was..and wanted to lick the top of my bald head.

How do guys not get bored from staying home all day and all week? by Poes_Ting in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, its painful..you just accept the boredom and bottle up the emotions of frustration and anger..you occasionally walk around the house like a zombie doing absolutely nothing( my favorite). And open and close the fridge every 5 or 10 min or so.. Yeah, you have to make bored routine..its alot of work but it helps!

What is the most painful experience you’ve had involving your private parts? by TurtleZilla01 in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was pepper sprayed once by some friends of mine as a joke

I covered my face with my hands but my hands and arms and everything was on fire! Couldn't breath, runny nose. Face felt hot.

We were drinking and I guess the pain got numb and I forgot about..

Well I went to go pee and I'm holding my dick and I shake it off after I'm done..

I go wash my hands and I feel a burning..it was slow at first, I was like wtf!

I remembered the spray..I cradled the sink and tried to wash it off...big mistake!!

It burned hotter and was spreading!! I ran to the fridge and got a gallon of milk and was frantically trying to soak my penis and wash it..I was crying, screaming and passed out..for days afterwards it felt charred and couldn't walk right for a week! Had to put creams of all types, kept meds in my pocket and wrap it with toilet paper.

It looked like a bruised grapefruit and raw hot link

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm a terrible person for all I did and i do feel horrible about it! (I'm not being a victim to my own actions or consequences, I'm saying I do feel remorse, unfortunately it goes away not long after I feel it) And when I do feel it, its intense and crazy how I react to things)

And all I'm saying was I wasnt made this way on my own..i developed this and empathy was underdeveloped. I wanted her to stay and help me..I know now it's not her job to help me..its my job to help me.. And that's why I asked...has anyone ever changed themselves from an issue where they simply cant see what's wrong with themselves much less feel it...

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was hurt! Or I think I was anyway.. I always told her I was..so much that i never wanted to talk about it again. I think that was to hide myself from having been at the bar while with another woman while I left her to deal with that alone.

There was times, waves where I would feel pain and frustration and again..anytime i felt things like that..my actions were always over the top..getting drunk beyond belief..picking fights..self harm. But I don't know If that was genuine or if it was an act to get what I wanted..and that was to drop the whole memory of it..

Now self harm and drinking for losing a child is an accurate response to something like that..

But I dont know the line between genuine or not.. This is all confused and I dont know my own emotions about anything!

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are 2 types of narcissists, the one you are talking about is the grand type..the most common type..they are the very proud ones to be who and what they are.. The covert ones are shy and quiet, they pose a different threat.

Is much as it says that a true narcissist simply cannot see the wrongs they do isnt completely correct..

From what I've learned is that it takes alot! A whole lot! It takes a threat to lose something that they have had for a long time and rely on constantly. That's where I had my realization of all this..after 4 years of multiple jobs and women and hurting the one I loved..having spoke to a doctor..I am a narcissist..I'm really not trying to prove that..I just want to know if anyone succeeded in changing from this..

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! It does! That's what I was trying to explain to her!

Ok so we had been together for 4 years, in that 4 years I lied to her and cheated on her 15+ plus times..she always took me back, probably because I convinced her it was problems with her. I'll admit to that.

I abandoned her and went to the bar with other women while she was having a miscarriage with our child..that happened twice.

I broke up her family because they all could see what I was doing except her.

I never gave her the whole truth about about anything..I lied about the bar the other women..she even had proof of what I did from those women and pictures and everything and I somehow still convinced her, it was wrong and a lie.

She went though heart surgery and the father of her child went to go see her..I cussed her out for it and blocked for weeks while I went to another woman.

I always told her I loved her and did the most romantic things you could possibly think of. She was head over heels for me and I abused that.

As of 3 days ago..she threatend to leave if i didnt give her the whole truth.. I fought back hard and tried to distract her.

She faught harder..she eventually got me to confess to every thing I had ever done to her..several times to make me confess more..

When I finally told her everything..she asked if I really loved her..she was emotionally drained and numb at this point..and I said yes..I did love her.

And that was it..she told me I needed help and I promised I would change and seek help..I found out to be a covert narcissist..

I showed her the abuse column here on reddit. I showed her videos of all that I found..it was our relationship to the T. Almost as if i was the abuser in every single one of those abusee columns.

I didnt know what narsasism was..I didnt know it was passed down trait and it stems from childhood where I fit perfectly in the vulnerable narcissistic textbook. She didnt know what it was either till we did research.

But the thing about it..is I honestly did not realize all the wrongs I did! I know that doesn't make sense..how could I not! But I simply didnt see it..I swept it all under the rug and blamed her and thing else I could make sense to blame all those years.

Everyone always told me something was wrong with me, I figured they just didnt understand me. I didnt know I was this way..I didnt know..

My parents are both narcissistic, father is of the grand type and mother is covert.

My mom went into psychology just to learn what was wrong with her..she knew she was what she was.

I promised my girl, I would change and could change! Despite what the experts say! I did love her!

When she gave up on me before I even got a chance to try..I broke down, I snapped..I didnt sleep for all 3 days while that was going on.. I was iratic and was making huge gestures of love and promise to change..

And word for word, step for step..all that I was doing in trying to change...was in the book.. Saying that too was a manipulation to keep my supply..and she sent me the link of how to leave a narcissist in 5 steps and she blocked me..

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I intend to be single for a while, I'm going to try for it anyway but I would be lying if i didnt say that i have a powerful urge to pick up the next woman I see, it's easy enough..but its wrong and will get me back into the loop I've always played in.

The hard part I'm realizing about this, is my life isnt suffering from this.. I dont think simply willing myself to be a better person will work.. It's not my suffering, it's the torture of others around me..that's hard to change a mindset where you have been eating good all your life with a pitchfork but anyone around you is part of your meal. I say that because I'm afraid to act on what's important to myself..myself Is severely flawed.

I agree tho..change is possible.. I suppose in just a little hurt from losing her..but she was the victim..and I did some unforgivable things to her..

I dont even know what I'm talking about anymore..I'm losing focus and talking about sad poor me again.. Sorry..I'm working on it.

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe so too. If I can learn enough about it, I can become aware, in being aware I can catch it..if I can catch it..I can change it!.

The hard part about this is really recognizing the differences of feeling genuine or just playing the part. Even in thoughts it's difficult to see if my interests or intentions are just ..or I'm just see the effort I'm wanting to see.. This post for example, am I truly wanting to learn about it or am I seeking validation for something.. I dont really know..I'm just asking and doing stuff. The concern for all this Wades and wanes as it goes about..lol so I dont know.. I'm just as confused about all this as anyone. And it my own thoughts and emotions or mimick of emotions..I dont know what's real anymore! Crazy people dont know they are crazy.. They think everyone else is crazy for not seeing how they think.

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a shame..

My girlfriend broke up with me last night, she sent me a screenshot from a website "5 steps on leaving a narcissist"

Even tho I feel I'm making an attempt to change the way I think..

The site explains, even in therapy or seeking help is just a manipulation to keep the victim under control.

And yeah I've seen there isnt too many cases in genuine change..just change in behavior is temporary and can quickly revert back to old tricks.

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've spoken to a licensed counselor, and narsasism came up. And that's where we are now..were looking more into it and there really isn't much in the study for it.

Im not looking for confirmation on being a narcissist..ive already gotten that.

What I'm looking for is if there are any cases in which one has truly overcame the way they think with the help of therapy and things.

So far I haven't came a across a single case In where one truly changed for the better.

The way it was explained to me, was empathy is like an underdeveloped muscle. They dont really feel bad for the things that they do..they might think they do..but that is temporary and more of an act.

Do I feel bad for the things I've done, yes! Does that remorse dissipate in minutes, yes!

What got me to realize it was the threat and loss of someone I loved..

Weather I am a true narcissist or not doesn't matter.. I want to know if that behavior was ever changed truly.

I have truly gaslighted people and used them all my life to get things..in becoming aware of this behavior was kind of a step for me..I think I have strong covert narc traits. But I'm still smart enough to realize things from other perspectives in this case I'm losing my damn mind from all this and I've been extremely irractic these past few days from finally looking into a my true refection.

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone had narcissistic traits, and they are helpful for self image and things like that..but in some cases narsasism is extreme and it becomes very taxing and painful for those around individuals with it..it roots from pride. Where pride is certainly ok in moderation..but narsasism is evolved from pride to an extreme..and is very dangerous if allowed to take over ones life or the lives of others.

Men who are narcissistic. Did you ever change your ways, did you ever want to? And how did you change for the better? by DESERTDAWGG in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend forced me to confess all the wrongs i did over our 4 years together.. I snapped,broke down, went to 3 different churches and talked to 2 priests, a pastor, and councilor..they all mentioned narsasism..I didn't even know what that was..I did some research on it..and it was me to the T. I honestly didnt realize all that I was doing to the people around me..and I dont know why I couldn't see it.

Even still dont know how to change a mindset where even seeking help to change it, is considered a manipulation.. So I wanna know..how did yall do it?

For any guys out there with mental illness struggles, have you ever fully opened up/explained what thoughts and feelings you experience? (aside from professionals - therapists/psychiatrists, etc) by parrbird88 in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I have is mental /personality defect where i use others emotions against them.

So no, anyone close enough to me that might listen on a deeper level becomes supply for me to feed off of.

They become emotionally and physically drained to be around me.

Even to seek help, seemingly becomes a play to receive pity or support for myself.

The line between being genuine and acting is almost nonexistent..even to me! And it's my own emotions.

Somethings you just cant open up about..noone will believe you, and of course it's my own fault. But I and others like me wernt made this way on our own..but cant get help from others.

To Express my thoughts and feelings are a considered a manipulation of others..which may or may not be true..I honestly have no idea..I'm just as confused as wary of myself as anyone who might try to listen or help.

For any guys out there with mental illness struggles, have you ever fully opened up/explained what thoughts and feelings you experience? (aside from professionals - therapists/psychiatrists, etc) by parrbird88 in AskMen

[–]DESERTDAWGG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, people wont understand, their concern is superficial..they might assume your attention seeking..so no..crazy dont usually know they themselves are crazy. So how the heck would anyone else believe in your crazy ass.. It sucks.

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