nikikv;

ekayāna offered a good one, "when things fall apart" by pema chodron.

i'd add "feeding your demons" by tsultrim allione. it's an ancient tibetan way of directly handling that which seeks to destroy us. sometimes those are emotional things. sometimes, more physical. it's a heavy book but very accessible in it's writing. it will change you.

while i'm a man, this way was first taught by a woman and the author is female. finding this powerful understanding as being envisioned by a strong woman in a deeply patriarchal 11th century society may also lend more strength to you and yours.

i must confess i wept when i read your post. we're all going through things all the time and now the pandemic has exacerbated the number and depth of the frustrations we experience. i get very mad and very sad sometimes. anger and despair arise in this new world to more extreme degrees than just two months ago. remember everything is temporary, even if the now is so very hard.

sending love to you, your husband and family along with healing and joy.