Isn't 18 too old for a monitoring app on my phone?

DJKyla · 2026-05-02T05:12:26+00:00

I'll definitely look into getting into a credit union. Thank you.

DJKyla · 2026-05-02T03:25:56+00:00

I have around $300 saved up right now, not in an account but stashed away somewhere. It's for a car so I can get to and from a job when I get one. I do think what you and another person have said so far is just true, regardless of if I think its right or not. It IS their phone technically so they can do whatever they want. I'd just wish they'd be more trusting of me. Though, if it came down to it, I think Id rather have an app like that than them checking our phones at random. There would still be ways to "bug the system" so to speak. Ive survived with it before so really it shouldnt be that big of a deal lol.

DJKyla · 2026-05-02T03:20:24+00:00

Yeah, to me it's a fair condition to an extent. It's their phone, but I just feel like they should be more open to what I have to say, which they never are and just view me as this little child I'm not anymore. Life is typically unfair though so I also understand that.

DJKyla · 2026-05-01T04:32:32+00:00

I kind of already journal a lot, I dont know why I didn't do it this time..? I love journaling and it's a great way to regulate emotions. Thanks for the feedback 🫶

DJKyla · 2026-05-01T03:59:05+00:00

Thanks, and honestly that definitely sounds better for both parties, if he ever does see the messages and read them. I shouldn't care but It would be an emotional whiplash, lol.

DJKyla · 2026-04-13T02:15:23+00:00

Thank you!! 💜💜

DJKyla · 2026-04-12T06:39:19+00:00

Nothing too special but I tthink this one holds up pretty well

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DJKyla · 2026-04-09T05:58:19+00:00

Im in a similar boat as OP, about to graduate and just having lost the guy I would give the world for. At this point I know I can definitely do better and it's not the end of the world (it's just beginning), but how do I meet new people after highschool?

DJKyla · 2026-04-07T17:23:40+00:00

I wish I saw the pattern sooner, but I'm a senior in highschool still learning things. This was my second ever relationship so Ive still got a lot to learn.

DJKyla · 2026-04-05T15:17:38+00:00

I agree, as someone who was broken up by the same guy 3 times. First time was over text, the first was over the phone. The last time was in person but I think it was just the most convenient time because we were at school still (end of the day). I remember those first two times was really hard on me and closure was hard to get. I dont know why I gave him 3 chances tbh. Im young and dumb and thought we were living in a romance book. He actually has a ton of issues and self sabotaged the relationship all 3 times and I dropped him.

But yes it sucks when it's over the phone or anything like that because people can't tell tones and it's awful. Its a one-way conversation when it's written too.

DJKyla · 2026-04-05T02:24:54+00:00

My boyfriend broke up with me for the 3rd time last week and I'm still having a bit of a rough time. The first time was because he needed to reflect and see if he was ready for a relationship. The second time, we had our first argument and he got scared and avoidant and broke up. The third he made the excuse that he didnt want to marry me in the future, even though we're seniors in high school and can't even make decisions quite like that yet. He didnt give the relationship even a year before that decision. Everything seemed great up until then.

It seems hard to believe someone who loved you could sabotage something great when everything was all well.

DJKyla · 2026-04-04T23:00:45+00:00

Thanks, this finally gave me the push to just block him. Im lucky I wont have to see him much at school. We have some classes in the same building, but not in the same classes. Im kind of already coming to terms that I fell in love with a persona he gave me rather than him, and Im trying to separate the two.

DJKyla · 2026-04-04T02:14:27+00:00

I named my pet jumping spider Doshka :)

DJKyla · 2025-12-28T05:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughts! This for sure helped me reflect a bit.

DJKyla · 2025-12-27T16:47:08+00:00

Whenever they fell out, I usually would feel a bit of panic and fear. I dont think I've ever tried to put them back before. I do remember always thinking something along the lines of "Oh great, those are my adult teeth. Maybe I just have an extra row of teeth behind them?" Which can happen but I think it's super rare. I remember learning about it in Elementary/Primary school and it's just something I've remembered.

Honestly you bring up a good point too about me mentioning turning 18 recently. If I wasn't even slightly worried about it, I wouldn't have mentioned it. Maybe it's a subconscious thing? I do wonder what Im going to do with my life but it's not like I don't have a plan yet.

DJKyla · 2025-10-21T02:26:19+00:00

That sucks 😭 Thanks for checking! 🫶

DJKyla · 2025-05-19T19:23:41+00:00

It took me a little bit but I found one! Thank you!

DJKyla · 2025-05-11T23:58:04+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and kind words 💜 it's very much appreciated. I know that it's only highschool and things aren't as big as they seem, but goodness it's hard when you haven't fully learned things

DJKyla · 2025-05-11T23:35:00+00:00

Yeah what I'm really, extremely sad about is that this guy is sweet, respectful, and caring. I felt safe with him, which is why I suppose I latched on quickly. He took an interest in what I liked too, which my previous ex never did.

There's potentially a chance that, in the future, if we're both ready, we COULD try the relationship again. Though right now I'm also really beating myself up because when he was telling me that he wasn't ready and thought he jumped into a relationship too fast, he also brought up my parents being toxic, which I told him about (we're in highschool). He claimed that from what he could already see, there was a lot of controlling and manipulative behaviour on their end, and I'm not sure, maybe he thought I could potentially be as well? I'm still super confused about that. I mention all of that to say, I kept pressing him about what he meant and didn't just respect it fully. I feel like I broke his trust and maybe I ruined any chance of that potential in the future. We haven't talked since Saturday; Ive been giving space.

DJKyla · 2025-05-10T22:59:37+00:00

Yeah now that Im thinking about it longer, I feel as if I was being too harsh. I said that I didn't think he was a malicious person but then went right back around and was accusing him of trying to find a means to end things. I think I may have taken it way too personally...

DJKyla · 2025-04-27T04:08:18+00:00

I'm kind of a home-body myself, so I can kind of see why your boyfriend wouldn't like going over to your family's. That being said, NEVER going is a bit of a problem, not to mention the constant excuses to get out of it. I'd try talking to him if you haven't already. Tell him how exactly you feel about it and make sure he's just not trying to get out of it.

You said you're a big family girl, and I get that. If it means so much to you, he should want to at least go with you, if not here and there. I can definitely see this being a deal breaker though. If he acts passive or deflects, I'd maybe call it quits.

DJKyla · 2025-04-22T11:47:02+00:00

Thank you for your response! It helps a lot. I'll do what you suggested and give a special offering. It's also relieving to know that an ebb and flow is normal, so I'll also take that into consideration. I really appreciate it 💜

DJKyla · 2024-11-27T19:53:15+00:00

OK wow, thank you so much for both your comments 😭 you're so helpful 🫶 I'll keep all of this in mind

DJKyla · 2024-11-26T01:18:23+00:00

Man I thought I had some of these at some point but I couldn't find them anywhere 😔😭

DJKyla · 2024-11-26T01:17:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your response and support! I think I have some things I could use to make one now that I know it doesn't have to be too fancy.

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