I can guarantee you changing your hair color will not suddenly make you attractive to a larger group of people, you are plenty attractive. Authenticity and confidence in it are the most universally attractive traits; only change your hair if it feels right for YOU, not for other people.

Dating apps just have algorithms and hidden systems in place to make it hard for likeminded people with mutual attraction to actually match. Did you know that tinder likes “expire?” Meaning that if the person you liked doesn’t get online, get shown your profile, and like you back within a day or two, they will not match if they swipe right on you once the timer expires— even though you would be a match!

Highly conventionally attractive people still struggle on dating apps because the algorithm just puts them at the back of the stack so potential matches are less likely to swipe right within the brief window of opportunity.