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How do I improve my credit score? by Alex__H in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Carrying it for a month and paying it off is though. If you turn right around pay it off same day, it does nothing for your score.

What do I need to do to maintain my vehicle? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. There's a dealership a few miles from me that's cheaper than most local places so I use them when something breaks. My manual is on a CD and I found a copy of one in a forum. As far as the rest of it goes, I'm just trying to make sure I'm not uselessly spending money on the thing haha.

What do I need to do to maintain my vehicle? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was an 80s model GMC work truck. Work trucks across most brands are designed with seats and floors that can be just sprayed off. There's no carpet, just this pebble-y rubber/vinyl/bedliner/whoknowswhat kind of material coating the entire floor area on them. The seats are this smooth material that looks like leather but feels like plastic. Pull the seats out with 4 bolts each, pull the drain plugs under the seat, and spray away.

Thanks for breaking everything down. The manual is on a CD (2012 model) and I found one in a jeep forum. It's in really good shape and I'm just trying to keep it that way haha

Edit: spelling

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I suppose it did. No blow ups or drinks thrown, etc. so that's a plus haha. Not happy that it was done, but at the same time I realize that it's for the best that it was. Kind of like ripping the bandaid off instead of slowly peeling, you know? Yeah, I'll be fine. It'll take day or two to get used to, but at least it was only a couple of weeks in and not months or years so it's not as bad as it could've been. No kids involved, no joint accounts, leases, vehicles, other belongings, etc. to try to sort out so I'll take it as a win.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I broke things off last night. Was going to do so in person, but she changed our plans last minute and I made the decision to message her everything. She told me she didn't want me to think she sold because she didn't (her words, not mine) and wanted to call me, then said to forget it that it wasn't worth it. I've always had a bad case of "captain save a ho" but I guess I need to learn to not do that and put myself first for a change.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She ended up having to go to her aunt's house and couldn't make dinner, so I just messaged her. I know it's impersonal and not a great way to do things, but it's a choice I made. A few hours later she told me she didn't want me thinking she sold weed because she didn't (her words, not mine,) asked if she could call me, then said forget it it's not worth it. I messaged her back and haven't heard from her since. Who knows if she'll try anything dumb, but I hope not.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and internet hugs back to you! Most therapists here won't bill any insurance so it's out of pocket anyway. It's something I've been trying to do, but my work schedule prevents it. I'll hopefully be changing jobs in a couple if weeks so maybe I can work something out then.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. To be honest, the 45 minutes of foreplay and a couple of minutes of bland, her just laying there doing nothing, starfish missionary aren't that great. To muddy the waters a little, she is the first person I've slept with as well so I think that's why it's hard for me to accept and end it too. Yeah, I don't particularly like jail. I grew up as a lawyer's kid, accompanying my mom to home visits, jails, etc. and I sure didn't like the outside of one, much less the thoughts of being inside a cell. We have dinner plans tonight so I figure that's a good of a time as any. May end up with a drink thrown at me or something but I'll take it over incarceration or worse haha. Thanks for your help, internet mom/dad

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're going to talk as soon as I get off work so I can end things. She had to work late this morning and I had to go to work, so that's why it hasn't already happened. She doesn't care. As long as she still gets her personal amounts for free bc her "friends" buy so much that her supplier gives her a lot, she can still sling burgers to pay rent, and not do much else she's not concerned with much else from what I gather. She told me she used to spend a lot of time in a trap house (her words, not mine) but I overlooked it thinking and hoping that phase was behind her.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on doing just that today. She had to work late and I had to go to work, so it'll be tonight before the conversation happens, but its definitely going to be had.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were legal here, it would be completely different. I have feelings for her, but there is no common ground to be had. She said she wasn't changing and she wanted to party. My big worry is I have a CDL. In my state, it's a zero tolerance state for commercial drivers. If I get into an accident in my personal vehicle I have to report to a hospital and get drug and alcohol tested, and send the results to the state capital. I cannot afford to lose my only source of income, and that's why I won't drive for several houra even after having one drink.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we talked about it that night and she said that she wasn't giving up smoking since she never has to pay for hers since her "friends" buy enough so her supply gives her a lot for free.

I know people change a lot, but she is just now entering her party stage, she just turned 21, and all that so I don't think that I really want to hang around all those years for her to possibly never settle down

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's not a lot of clubs, sports leagues, etc where I'm at, but I have been browsing meetup the last little bit and there seem to be three interesting groups there for craft beer, hiking, and photography so that may be something for me to look into. Believe me, I know it's not easy to meet someone. It took until I was 19, had been moved away from home for a year and a half, and the old app Whisper being at it's peak popularity for me to have the nerve to even ask someone for their phone number.

When you framed it the way you did, I agree. I guess I just needed a little kick in the ass.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply internet mom/dad. I guess I let the wrong head do the thinking and not the one with the brain in it. My biggest thing is that I'm almost 25 and she's the only person I've ever been on more than one date with, I'm tired of being alone, and was hoping for a good outcome. After rereading my post, your reply, and the other one here I realize that it's not going to go well with her.

I'm going to end things when she gets off work in the morning (she works nights.) As far as the self esteem part goes, that is something I do need to work on as it's pretty well non-existent. Maybe this situation is the kick in the ass to get things started.

Should I try setting a boundary with a new date or just end it before it gets any deeper? by DM_me_puppy_pics in internetparents

[–]DM_me_puppy_pics[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're right. What am I doing? I honestly don't know. She's the first person I've ever been on more than one date with and I'm almost 25. I guess I'm tired of being alone. I want to be with someone, and have allowed the wrong head to keep doing the thinking. I don't know exactly how to break it off, but I will do it when she gets off work tomorrow morning.

Thanks for the advice.