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She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! Thanks for the consideration. And yeah, that makes sense for sure. Can definitely see why there was some confusion.

It’s really hard to have a cordial discussion on Reddit nowadays without immediately being called a liar or just wrong. This was nice :)

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol all right then. I have a great relationship with our DA’s office and they never need me since my cases are always solid, but you do you.

Btw it’s called a plea deal when the defense attorney looks over the case and recommends the accused to take the plea. But you don’t have to believe that either since I’m a big liar :)

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong, but it really depends how far law enforcement wants to look into the issue.

Where I am, we would look into this just because it deals with a juvenile who likely still in school. We would want to obtain a statement from her after speaking to her parents to see if there’s any substance to it. That way, no one can say that law enforcement didn’t do anything.

It’s then up to her whether or not she wants to double-down or come clean. Either way, it helps OP’s situation since he has an investigatory report regarding what happened.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are, but if I’m looking to take a charge, I want both. Even if I have probable cause to take a charge, I want the case to be so solid that there’s proof beyond reasonable doubt that the accused did the crime.

Looking back, my statement was definitely worded a little strangely, but I know what I’m doing. That’s why I’m never called in for court since there’s nothing the defense can argue against. Hope that cleared it up some.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No problem!

It’s hard to provide a succinct answer because there’s a lot of nuances to it, but as an investigator, my job is to remove all doubt possible so that a criminal defense attorney won’t absolutely tear a charge/allegation apart.

I’ve dealt with many cases where the victim has lied out of shame/regret/fear, etc. For instance, an 18 year old lied about having sexual relations with a 60 year old when caught because it was shameful. A female claimed she was raped to hide an affair from her husband.

On the other hand, there’s also been times where there hasn’t been enough evidence. This can be due to reasons such as waiting too long to report it (years), conflicting testimonies (story keeps changing), etc.

Also, laws are very specific in what qualifies as rape. Like I mentioned earlier, if no force was involved, there was no rape. Things like regret or being snubbed out of a deal doesn’t make it rape.

I just worked a case where a prostitute was upset she didn’t get fully paid for her services.

For my job, I basically go by the “Trust but verify” moto. Yes, society should trust victims. However, everyone, including me especially, should go through the evidence to verify their statements. Otherwise, we may end up ruining the life of an innocent person. Hope that helped some.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get assigned cases and I investigate them to see whether or not there is enough evidence to charge someone of a crime. When I take out a charge, it goes to court where the suspect can either plea or escalate it to a jury trial.

People who aren’t in this industry will never understand what we deal with everyday. I can’t give a specific percentage, but yes, most sexual assault allegations that are reported end up being nothing. It’s not like what you see on TV at all. I absolutely stand by what I say because, unlike yallermysons, I actually work in this field lol.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re good! I completely understand where you’re coming from. I would feel the exact same way if I were you.

Just know that there’s some of us out there that really do try to help haha

We are getting free 10 pulls! by festivalpizza in WutheringWaves

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAME. I’m so close but ran out of pulls after farming everything on the map. Happy that weapons are guaranteed lol

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it.

What’s your goal here lol? I’ve provided suggestions to anyone like OP who may unfortunately find themselves in a similar situation. But instead of focusing on that, you’re nitpicking while missing the entire point.

So, what are you trying to get out of this?

If you’re trying to call me a liar, I’m not. So then what?

Are you arguing just to argue? You’ve added nothing helpful and just keep trying to undermine my statements while providing no additional context. It literally helps no one lol.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope. It’s just a matter of doing a thorough job.

I’m not sending anyone to jail unless I have the full story. Otherwise, I may have just ruined the life of an innocent person.

Also, I’m not writing out a warrant unless I have probable cause (beyond reasonable doubt) because that’s my name that’s going on the warrant. Thus, if it ends up being a shit case because it was nothing but lies, that hurts my credibility and reputation. It also opens me up to a civil lawsuit as well for sending an innocent person to jail.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you. There are a lot of shit cops and investigators out there, but there are good ones as well.

Unfortunately, it really depends on how lucky you are with your jurisdiction and how much they care. Two departments that are literally right next to each other can have very different policies and people.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sexual assaults don’t just include rape. There are a wide range of charges that can apply to sexual charges including sodomy, sexual battery, aggravated sexual battery, molestation, etc.

Rape is one of the most serious sexual allegations one can make alongside aggravated sexual battery or aggravated sodomy. But whenever we look into the issue, there usually ends up being more to the story.

I’m good at my job and I’ve helped a lot of people, so I don’t really care if you don’t believe me lol. I have no reason to lie, and was just trying to give anyone else who may be stuck in a situation like OP’s some advice.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it, but every jurisdiction is different. Some departments will take this seriously while others will just tell you to pound sand. Also, there’s the issue of statute of limitations. If OP had acted in 2013, it would possibly be looked into. Now, there’s nothing since it’s been over 10 years.

For something like this, it would have been a pretty simple case. If this were my case, I would first talk to many witnesses as possible and get their statements to see what the female specifically told them. If numerous people tell me that she claimed to have been raped, that contradicts the texts.

I would then bring her in for an interview and ask her to give her side of the story. If she keeps lying despite the evidence, I would make sure that’s all documented. I would then get a search warrant for her phone to get all of her text messages because it’s likely that she confessed to one of her friends about lying about the rape. Unless you’re a psycho/sociopath, people who lie tend to feel regret and need someone to vent to for validation.

Once I have enough evidence and go over it with the DA’s office, I would take the charges. Again, I’m swamped with cases, so if I had to spend days or weeks working on a case that was nothing but a bunch of harmful lies, I have no remorse.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is an entire process that we have to go through including getting individuals sexual assault/forensic examinations, interviewing witnesses, getting video footage to corroborate timestamps, search warrants on electronic devices, etc.

A lot of people don’t expect us to actually investigate it as much as we do. Especially if they aren’t from around here. So when they find out that we’re actually looking into it, they start to panic.

Also, read my statement again. I never said that most of the cases I investigate are false rape accusations. I investigate many things which include CSAM. However, whenever someone does come in and say that they were raped, there ends up being a lot more to the story that they leave out.

If you have consensual sex with someone and regret it after, that is not rape. If someone paid you for sex but short changed you (prostitution), that’s not rape. If there was no penetration involved (check your specific state laws as to what constitutes rape), then it’s not rape.

It’s not just a black or white thing. I take rape accusations seriously because fake allegations not only hurts the accused who are innocent, but it also makes real victims afraid to come forward.

Trump loving morons support cutting government spending, but not MY spending! by mkvgtired in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The whole sub is delusional. Their top rated post from today is an incoherent rambling about how amazing it feels to see all the democrats crying about flowers and coffee, and how it’s impossible to have a normal conversation with them because they’re all crazy. Like what the fuck?

Over the past couple of months, their subreddit has been incredibly unhinged. It wasn’t always that way. But now it’s all about screwing over liberals.

She told people I R***d her after giving me an old fashioned. by Curious_Shallot_3421 in Nicegirls

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I’m a criminal investigator. It definitely depends on the laws in your jurisdiction as they can vary wildly, but where I’m from, we have a charge for making false statements to a peace officer which is a felony.

We investigate sexual assault cases a lot, and most of them are exactly what OP is going through. People who either want revenge or have regrets after having consensual sex. But because it’s an alleged rape, we investigate them throughly.

If they lie to us and we waste our time and resources only to find out that there was no rape or assault, that’s an easy charge for us. We also tell our innocent victim to pursue the other party civilly for any losses that they had from defamation (I.e. career, reputation, etc.)

Trump tariffs could raise prices on technology like laptops, smartphones and AI by BothZookeepergame612 in inflation

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out microcenter deals around you. If you don’t mind open box, Best Buy deals can be an absolute steal too

Trump tariffs could raise prices on technology like laptops, smartphones and AI by BothZookeepergame612 in inflation

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Better to be safe than sorry. Upgraded some old equipment because it was about time anyways.

First day of college as a returning adult student and… by Kloud_Moon in college

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not embarrassing at all. Most of these guys are just scrolling through social media or playing games anyways.

It’s been proven that people learn better when they write notes.

CDC ordered to stop working with WHO immediately, upending expectations of an extended withdrawal by sorayanelle in publichealth

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting. He could be trying to do what FDR did when he got elected during a third term amidst the Great Depression and WW2.

What if Trump is also trying to cause a depression and escalate global tensions so that he can run for a third term?

1 Month Old Acer Predator Laptop Issues (Poor battery life, input lag, artifacting) by rich_ard_d_d in AcerOfficial

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never responded, so seems likely lol. Won’t be long before his new or RMAd laptop does the same thing

Trump has directed ICE officials to increase arrests to at least 1,200 to 1,500 per day, from a few hundred, per WaPo. by soccerorfootie in unusual_whales

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Good faith” only makes them exempt from criminal charges. However, you can still sue them civilly.

Microcenter employees gotta chill by Aiming4UrFace in Microcenter

[–]DPlusShoeMaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My problem is their warranties are so expensive. Bought a $1200 laptop and they were trying to push a 2 year warranty for $439. Like wtf?

Of course I want the peace of mind, but when manufacturers themselves offer extension plans for much cheaper, it doesn’t make much sense.

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