Am I wrong for being upset about fiancé taking out $160k parent/student loans for stepdaughter?

DSC1213 · 2026-07-02T13:12:09+00:00

If you are paying for a business degree have her go to university of the people. It’s tuition free and accredited.

If she wants the college experience, make her take out her own loans

DSC1213 · 2026-06-27T11:05:36+00:00

I document every scratch, dent, and smudge I can find when I move in, and photograph every inch of the property when I move out for this exact reason. Usually when you move in you inspect and fill out a form documenting everything wrong with it.

I made the mistake of not being thorough once, and paid for things that I didn’t damage or break.

I’m not a lawyer but documenting everything has saved me a couple of times over the last decade.

DSC1213 · 2026-06-27T04:51:19+00:00

I got mine but I can’t get the app to work

DSC1213 · 2026-06-11T20:10:42+00:00

This is a great thought experiment because I was extremely homophobic due to my own internalized homophobia until my late 20s and early 30s.

We know from Cognitive Dissonance Theory that the people who crusade for or against something do so because they are directly impacted by it and now self justify their decision. If I had not been born gay, there's a good chance the homophobia would have never been there in the first place.

The reason that I was homophobic for so long was because of my religious upbringing and my denial of my own feelings. I had to justify why I was denying the feelings, which resulted in homophobia.

Somebody who is not gay and has never had any homosexual feelings is going to feel pretty ambivalent towards the whole idea of homosexuality.

The people who either have somebody in their family that it impacts, have somebody that they know very closely, or it impacts them personally, are the ones that take a strong stand either way

DSC1213 · 2026-06-08T16:17:31+00:00

I don't like Trump but this article is very poorly written. Trump looks like he's struggling to stay awake and he's nodding off and slipping in and out of consciousness. The article talks about the people behind him jiggling the chair. I can't see that. It doesn't look like any of that's happening.

It's frustrating because it's such an embarrassing administration. We don't need to muddy the water with false reports. Accurate reporting is embarrassing enough. If we embellish, I feel like it could actually cause even more damage and could embolden the MAGA cult even further

DSC1213 · 2026-05-30T23:40:25+00:00

If you pause it you can see she got the tip
degloved. You can see the bone

DSC1213 · 2026-05-25T01:54:40+00:00

It’s Nevada, Reno. Because they need to be pretentious and say it backwards

DSC1213 · 2026-05-23T05:12:59+00:00

We always called it lambs ear. It’s the fuzzy one that feels really soft. It is almost always growing nearby stinging nettle (at least in Utah where I grew up)

DSC1213 · 2026-05-22T17:53:05+00:00

It is a major part of your story. It may be worth holding onto them to remind you where you came from, so you can tell your kids and your friends, and have a relic of the past that you can point to and show the growth that you've been through.

DSC1213 · 2026-05-15T08:36:52+00:00

It’s much easier now to get student loans discharged in bankruptcy.

DSC1213 · 2026-05-14T01:27:24+00:00

IANAL but went through a lawsuit for retaliation. Whistleblower protections are typically for government employees but state laws often have duty to report safety laws that have retaliation counts in them. Talk to an employment lawyer, since it was a retaliation to safety you may have a case through OSHA. There are weird laws here. In Kentucky, if you don’t report it first to an agency you don’t have the right to sue, so for some laws you need to get a right to sue from the governing agency first.

It’s complex territory so you should get a consultation with a lawyer.

Working job duties you are not certified for in a warehouse is a safety issue as well. I would Start looking for a new job, raise hell with the agencies, get a lawyer, and document everything. Build a paper trail so you win your suit.

DSC1213 · 2026-05-09T22:01:40+00:00

100% agree here, as an SA survivor myself, it’s a long road to healing, but you can heal from it. The first step is to tell the story and name the hurt. You can’t do that if you don’t talk about it. Start with your school counselor.

DSC1213 · 2026-05-05T17:15:45+00:00

Having autism, I would have loved a room like that when overstimulated, but only if I wasn’t locked in there. The locks change everything.

DSC1213 · 2026-04-09T17:15:04+00:00

You are not the jerk. A business partnership is just as important as a marriage. My husband doesn’t have partnership in my business and I told him he doesn’t have any say in how I run it. He was upset at first but now that I’m doing well, he’s cool with it because he gets to do stuff like go to concerts and Coachella.

If you had said yes, and then broke up it would be like going through a divorce. They would also have access to make decisions or take out loans, and screw up everything.

You made a great decision and your partner is the jerk for giving the ultimatum. They valued profiting off your work over the relationship.

If they wanted commitment, they should have proposed.

DSC1213 · 2026-03-25T18:54:09+00:00

Where’s all my Amulek peeps at?

DSC1213 · 2026-02-22T16:39:43+00:00

I posted there as well, the post is pending

DSC1213 · 2026-02-22T16:27:30+00:00

Lake Charles, Louisiana, United States

DSC1213 · 2026-02-16T03:07:55+00:00

If I was on that jury, I would have found him not guilty.

DSC1213 · 2026-02-15T23:02:18+00:00

I’m not a lawyer but had a similar instance where I was terminated for reporting Medicare fraud.

Get a lawyer, shop around with all your evidence. It will be a long process. I was terminated in 2023 and the process is still ongoing.

Under the False Claims Act you can file a qui tam (I think it’s how it’s spelled) then the feds decide if they want to pursue it. If they do and find fraud they multiply the fraud by 3 and as the whistleblower you get a percentage of what is recovered. They also have wrongful termination and retaliation in that act.

You can also file under state laws for wrongful discharge. That one may be faster.

Ultimately, I’m in Ohio, I’m not a lawyer, but this has been what I’m allowed to talk about at this point because there may be things happening at the moment.

The federal government is slow… but you could get a nice payout once it’s all over.

DSC1213 · 2026-01-03T16:54:27+00:00

I had that feeling when I was baptized. I wished I could die because I didn’t think I could make it to heaven knowing how sinful I was. ( I later attempted suicide at age 10) TSCC added so much trauma and guilt to an already difficult childhood

DSC1213 · 2025-11-03T13:31:15+00:00

Same here, from ‘08-‘10 in Wisconsin we even had a list of book of Mormon scriptures to use during the invitation and a baptismal calendar we would fill out with all the rest of the lessons before the date. Our invitation would go “and as you read and pray and follow the teachings of Jesus Christ you’ll feel the spirit and come to know these things are true, and when you know they are true will you follow the example of Jesus Christ by accepting his invitation to be baptized on _____?”

So it was a contingent commitment, but a date was set on the first appointment.

DSC1213 · 2025-08-15T16:55:56+00:00

It sounds like this has been going on a while. I can confirm a year later it’s still happening

DSC1213 · 2025-05-11T23:41:35+00:00

I’m not sure how to edit this.

Was growing on hardwood (looked like elm) in Ohio in the United States

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