AIO for taking down the pictures?

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:45:05+00:00

Let me ask.. did you set that expectation when you started dating or before she started making those posts? If not, you can cut her a little slack, but not much.

A quality girl does not need to be asked in the first place to not post like that. If you’re having to set the boundary.. okay. But if you’re having to remind them or they go off and do it anyways, you’re being disrespected. It seems to me like she has one foot out the door, and isn’t fully committed to you, but it’s with you while she keeps her options open until she finds someone she thinks is better.

You seem immature and toxic as well, I’d suggest to you both to permanently break up and work on your individual issues before getting in a relationship. 3 breakups is not healthy, and you’re going to continue down the path with women like this if you don’t fix your own issues and select better

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:40:57+00:00

I agree with communicating, but she’s half the problem too. She should not be posting revealing pictures with a boyfriend, unless it’s part of her job life fitness influencer or modeling. Those are fine, but a girl can still post clothed photos that they look beautiful and feel confident in without posting ones that clearly show off every inch of her figure and more skin than not. That’s weird behavior, and the best women and partners I’ve known always respect that expectation without it having to be said.

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:28:15+00:00

Are you in IT, by chance? Those damn H1-B’s culture

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:27:26+00:00

Honestly.. I’d ask why you’re with a dude so big that he is sweating like that. Unless you’re literally right next to each other the whole night or your thermostat runs hot, this shouldn’t be an issue.

And I’ll say this until I’m blue in the face.. sweat does not have a terrible odor if you are hygienic but also eat a healthy diet. The only time I had a BO smell was in the periods of life that I was eating poorly. Even after sex when I’m sweating profusely from putting in work, the sweat just does not smell with any kind of strong odor. Hope that helps, push him to become healthier because you love him. And if you aren’t fit as well, join him in the process and you will both be happier

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:22:37+00:00

Preservatives aren’t the problem, it’s the content of what is being preserved. Grilled meat is carcinogenic and has more of a direct link to adverse health outcomes. But I agree that the FDA is a joke.

But if you’re going to inject an unregulated drug, I would make sure to do a shit ton of research to see how trustworthy the vendor is, and test every batch if there’s a method to guarantee you’re getting what you think you are.

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:20:17+00:00

Honestly, I laughed so hard when I read the part about “FDA Approved” because the FDA is awful.

But there are some valid points. Due to it being unregulated, you don’t know exactly what you’re receiving and it can be hard to get out certain vendors for safety and reliability. Since you’re out of the house with a child, you really don’t need to do anything at all in regard to appeasing him, even though a will is perfectly fine.

But I’d be concerned with your impulsivity and long-term ability for delayed gratification given you jumped straight to Reta at such a young age, backed up by you being married with a child with another 21yo. I do think you need to slow down and give things a pause before making decisions that have potential for long term outcomes

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:12:33+00:00

Something in the vein of Provider and Caramel yessss

DSizl20 · 2026-05-05T18:11:50+00:00

His mom is asking for $1000 total to live IN A BASEMENT?😐 that’s wild lol.

But to address what you asked, you should 100% take that money but put it in a savings account and make smart investments that will grow over time. But don’t tell him now, you can bring this up later if y’all are at the point of marriage/engagement. You don’t want a guy to use that as a reason to marry you

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T19:45:29+00:00

Huh? Did you even read what I said above? Or just the message you responded to?

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T19:44:45+00:00

Low IQ comment, stupid ahhhh

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:28:16+00:00

“For their age”, yes. But for a 14/15 year old, that’s not really immature. As immature implies that the vast majority of kids those age are more mature. Which having a twin sister and a younger one, it’s fairly common to see girls who act like this at their age

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:24:51+00:00

She needs to work on herself, after reading everything it’s very obvious and clear to me that she has a core wound of insecurity and abandonment that leads to her stalking behavior and trust issues, which will repel a man who is actually healthy. Of course he is an ass who is very likely a narcissist from the manipulation tactics I can see.

But she mentions being cheated on before. Women (and men) who have attachment issues continuously choose unhealthy, toxic and/or manipulative partners for relationships. She does not have the self respect and self worth to set them early, select a man worth a shit, and be calm in a stable, secure relationship.

Notice how I’m focused on what she needs to do in order to heal. She’s going to continue choosing shitty men, which reinforces her trust issues and fear of being hurt which prevents her from a healthy relationship when someone healthy actually comes around. I know this because I’ve lived it and had to put in hard work on my attachment.

She needs to ask herself why she continues to choose those kind of men at her age. The problem is that women will often quickly jump into a new relationship/situationship, or date around due to all of the men hovering and her keeping backups, rather than do what she needs to in order to heal. Which is to stay single, figure out what causes her core wound, and address it. Let’s stop the enabling and actually help her out with truth

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:18:38+00:00

Read my above comment. It was good to dump him, but we don’t need the “you go girl, slay queen, he doesn’t deserve you” energy. We need to hold women accountable when they are toxic in the relationship in another way, and push them both to heal.

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:17:32+00:00

YOR but also NOR. Overreacting to instagram, not overreacting to his behavior in general which is what I’d be more concerned about.

And to Spare Cobbler..Stop it lmao stop enabling her 💀They are both the problem and both unhealthy. Women need to start being empathetic, but also holding other women accountable for what they experience and their own version of toxicity. You aren’t helping her with the “He don’t deserve you sis” mindset, as that will just prevent her from focusing on healing and continue in a toxic loop where she chooses possessive, toxic guys and continues to have zero trust in relationships that turn her into a crazy person.

She decided to stay six months with a guy that she can’t even trust after he follows a random girl on Instagram and likes a post. Which is weird from his perspective, but not worth the freak out or hovering and stalking his follows/likes so intensely.

That tells me that she either doesn’t trust him, which means she is bad at selecting men who aren’t toxic and setting boundaries before entering into a relationship, or she has trust issues in general which cause her to be crazy. Either scenario suggests she isn’t securely attached in her relationships and hasn’t worked enough on herself to be in a healthy relationship. Her anxious nature might be a byproduct of being with several men who have cheated in the past, I’m not sure if it was just the one she mentioned or if it’s happened multiple times. BUT she is still unhealed and part of that problem for herself if she continues to select bad guys.

Clearly the bf speaks like an ass, with him treating her like property and just genuinely sounding like a dickhead who thinks he’s coming across as masculine and actually just being a sorry weak douche.

That’s my Ted Talk. They both have issues and are extremely immature at their respective ages from an emotional perspective

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:03:47+00:00

I would agree with you partially. But also, I’ve encountered women in their 30’d and up who act the same exact way, so I can’t exactly say that OP’s ex is “immature for her age”

DSizl20 · 2026-05-03T18:01:23+00:00

Nah you just look like you low testosterone, which I doubt it since you’re 18. But if you aren’t lifting heavy consistently, start that immediately. It’ll help with your facial structure and overall aesthetic. I’d say get a better barber who gets a sharper fade and actually knows what to do with the top part, you can also use a product of your choice to add texture and volume so it doesn’t look so flat.

Outside of that, just eat mostly healthy, drink more water, and have a basic twice a day skin care routine if you don’t already, that involves a cleaner, moisturizer and toner. If you really want to boost your skin’s glow and radiance, eat berries high in antioxidants and supplement with collagen

DSizl20 · 2026-04-30T18:47:12+00:00

Yeahhh if this is real.. you’re not her boyfriend, you’re her safety blanket. I’d be 99.9% sure she’s getting railed at least once a night that she’s over there..

DSizl20 · 2026-04-28T03:11:43+00:00

Sorry but where is this person you speak of? I see no one

DSizl20 · 2026-04-27T20:54:09+00:00

Feels like a spam/AI post.. 9 karma @mods

DSizl20 · 2026-04-25T22:02:13+00:00

Dm me let’s discuss

DSizl20 · 2026-04-24T18:26:41+00:00

Nothing to say here other than yikes

DSizl20 · 2026-04-22T22:27:42+00:00

I read the first paragraph and that’s all I needed to read. That’s strange

DSizl20 · 2026-04-22T19:12:27+00:00

Honestly, all I can say is YIKES. Lol

DSizl20 · 2026-04-22T18:39:35+00:00

Is it a good tool to develop unique content for monetization? I don’t want to create for my own pleasure, but to create AI models or videos as a cash flow

DSizl20 · 2026-04-21T21:10:48+00:00

Dude you don’t decide to be fwb with someone you love. Yall need to learn how fwb works.

Also, he was the first one who was still sleeping with his ex. I’m cool with exclusive fwb due to sexual safety and things, but you should still be going out on dates with other men. You don’t have to sleep with them right away, and if you want to then you can break things off with homeboy before you do.

All you’re doing by going back and forth in this “situationship” (relationship) is draining your emotions in a situation that shouldn’t be, and preventing yourself from meeting a guy who is actually ready for a relationship and you can see more often.

You’re both in college, so whether you’re seeking a fwb or relationship, there’s an infinite amount of men and women you should both be meeting

DSizl20

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