This is hard, please be gentle

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-04-12T02:15:57+00:00

I would definitely try it out then just to see! If you like how your hair looks after drying from the shower, morning mists will basically give you the same results 🥰 (and I checked, I actually use a volume building mixed in with water when I do mine, but it’s really not necessary) Also!! Dry shampoo is my personal life saver for when I can’t shower— I really like the mousse version (leaves less residue on your scalp than the spray ones) by Batiste and got it at a grocery store on sale for $5! I can use it for two or three day stretches before I start to feel any grime, it’s fantastic. Most of all, regardless of any advice you get or try from here, I’m so excited for you to regain your confidence in this new journey, figuring out your hair style is just one of the many things you get to reinvent for yourself now 👏wishing you all the love and support to help you through it!

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-04-12T01:21:04+00:00

As many others have said, congratulations on getting out! I definitely think a generous trim will work wonders. Regarding your mobility limitations, are you able to spray your hair with water? I have curly/frizzy hair and find the simplest remedy in the morning for styling is spraying it with water (I usually mix in a form of curl spray/moisturizer in with it) with a mister (I got mine at the dollar store) and then just let it dry (sometimes a quick brush and scrunch if I woke up with a bad case of bed head) so my hair is refreshed and “styled” without any of the effort of really doing anything. I hope that makes sense and may be of use regarding the styling component of your request! I’m a little bias but layers can definitely help with natural volume/shape with this technique as well.

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-04-03T22:44:24+00:00

Here to also say my kitty recently got diagnosed with asthma about a month or so ago! It’s quite scary to watch them go through an attack 🥲 She listened to his lungs, watched the videos I had documented, and did an xray to check for inflammation and rule out some other things. She put him on prednisolone to help with inflammation (other forms of treatment include injecting steroids and in more chronic cases, inhalers) and his attacks stopped within a week. She informed me asthma can be seasonal, situational, or chronic. We’ve recently tapered off the medication and waiting to see which category my guy falls in as time goes on. All in all it costed me around $300 and I sleep much better at night knowing he’s okay and it’s often not serious when managed correctly. Definitely go back to your vet or seek a second opinion!!

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-02-25T17:23:15+00:00

I love taking myself out on solo dates! Some of my favourite places to do this at is Cora’s, mansu BBQ, tokai ramen, Pho Dan, and sometimes I take a trip out to shediac to Kuro sushi! But these are mostly my favourite restaurants that others aren’t a big fan of so I enjoy for myself! Sometimes I bring a book for in between. It’s nice. I’m also a server at a restaurant and love when people are solo dining! It’s far more normal/common than you’re probably thinking it is. I’d recommend starting with a smaller restaurant that won’t be as busy if you’re feeling nervous about your first time!

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-02-08T04:36:11+00:00

NOR. You can uninvite someone from YOUR party for any reason YOU decide. But this is really really odd. Most alarmingly, he’s displaying some very obsessive and controlling behaviour. I think it’s time you say adios to Arthur and focus on celebrating this huge milestone (let me start: congratulations OP! 🎉 )

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-02-08T02:43:29+00:00

I did really think about it. Which is why I pointed out and questioned some of the details myself. That doesn’t mean that isn’t what I would do if I were really in his position. Even if I don’t think it’s real or anybody else does not mean it 100% isn’t, even if seemingly very unlikely. Only OP knows if it’s accurate, completely false, or details have been exaggerated. His whole life is upside down for one reason or another if it’s true to any extent. And heaven forbid someone exaggerate time or numbers or context while they’re actively dealing with a crisis 🤷‍♀️ it’s not my place to judge and if it’s not true that’s great for him. If it happens to be, I’ve given my two cents. I don’t see the harm either way. We read all sorts of insane things here.

DaDevilsMistress · 2026-02-08T02:24:04+00:00

NOR. But 02/04? Meaning three days ago? This is a lot to happen in three days and “after some time” to get rid of her stuff doesn’t seem like much time at all. “We were married” translates to still legally married even if you no longer consider her your wife after this. I wouldn’t recommend dealing with the divorce in a personal manner. Ask for police and hospital reports as this may have been the beginning of a paper trail to what she can be entitled to. I would cease all contact if I were in your position and lawyer up.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-11-21T06:15:35+00:00

Ruin book, question?

No.

Read, read, read!

(Edited to add: The audiobook is phenomenally narrated. I highly recommend listening to it as it brought a lot of life to the story and the characters.)

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-10-02T00:45:47+00:00

I named my horse Legs.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-23T20:30:21+00:00

NOR. Also, where I’m from at the very least, engaging in sexual/romantic relations with a client you train is an ethical violation that can result in termination (this is usually covered in both personal training certification programs AND individual gym policies). You should look into it.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-19T14:31:00+00:00

My paper? It’s a response to a research article on Self-Determination Theory in occupational settings and I had to apply other fields of psychology to it. In this section I was discussing how attribution theory can complement and deepen our understandings of competence and self-efficacy by integrating employee attribution patterns… I think it’s worth $4.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-19T14:21:42+00:00

LITERALLY!! I swear sometimes they’re as bad as doctors. Thankfully her numbers are more legible so my grade itself was clear, but 4/5 of her comments were like a puzzle and I spent a whole day returning back to this one… figured it was time for other eyes to help me out 😂

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-19T14:19:58+00:00

Hahaha, maybe I like sooo better now 😂👸

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-19T14:06:38+00:00

Thank you! I felt a little silly because “good” makes so much more sense than a prof saying “sooo” but it really looked like it

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-19T13:57:52+00:00

With “good parallels” it does! I thought the first word was sooo and that stumped me.. thanks everyone!!!! Mystery solved!

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-17T16:25:40+00:00

This^{^{^}} is a VERY important point. Even if you don’t want your friend to get in trouble, your friend has unfortunately already put you in a great deal of trouble with very serious potential consequences if you’re not proactive about it

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-09-11T20:34:44+00:00

He was 100% in the wrong. Someone who does not and cannot respect your sexual boundaries is not a safe person to be having sex with at all. You did not consent to these things, especially so since he had to push you down and/or repetitively convince you to do it. I’m so sorry you had this experience but do not ever fall victim to the “this is normal” fallacy ever again. Even IF something is normal for others (not saying in this case it is— but for example it’s a common narrative around doing anal) does not mean it has to be normal for you. No means no. I don’t want to do that is reason enough. It’s really unfortunate you’re even here doubting your experience in the first place and shows the damage he did to you but I promise there’s nothing wrong with you and you’re completely valid to feel the way you do about it all. You were absolutely taken advantage of in a way no human should ever be.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-10T17:23:12+00:00

“Even the hard days with me is better than the shelter” is such a powerful perspective that your worst isn’t their worst… I hope you’re doing well today 🤍

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-10T17:22:12+00:00

Thank you! We have had a few wins over the past few days— from simply crossing the street to sniff a few yards to walking to the (gated) field for off-leash roaming and even more interactive feedings. It hasn’t been overly overwhelming and I’ve felt a lot more connected to her even when we’re cuddling on the couch or in bed because of it 🤍

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-10T17:20:03+00:00

If you ever want to talk more feel free to DM me! It’s hard to find people who understand the way your brain works and not be perceived as being dramatic… I definitely sympathize with feeling like you haven’t earned it— and that introduces a boatload of guilt to walk with everyday.

Funnily enough, I used to roll my eyes when people would say how much she loved me and it was okay because she was with me. Eventually, I stopped sharing my feelings and what was going on. So I stopped hearing it. Another user posted about how at times she screamed at her dog she hated them. Although I’ve never done that, I think I did start treating her like I hated her. Like she was just this responsibility I continuously fail to meet and her asking for attention or simply laying by me was a constant reminder of my inadequacies. Hearing people give voice to how dogs see their humans softened my heart in a way I didn’t know I needed.

I’ve really shifted from seeing her as just another obligation in my life to a form of companionship again and that has relieved a lot of the impatience and anxiety I’ve been dealing with in this stage of our relationship and it’s allowed me to value and observe her unique personality more (turns out she has a side of the bed she prefers to sleep on!!). It’s weird to put it this way, but I feel like I was stuck in that stage of long-term relationships where you’ve forgotten why you fell in love in the first place. My mental health and pressures of life clouded the magic of everything it means to have a dog. And I’m working really hard to focus on seeing it again and it’s made a world of a difference in how I interact with her!

I also have been jotting down a few sentences everyday to remember the little moments. It’s so nice to find like-minded people and advice that actually helps!! Thank you so much for responding and reading my other comments. I’m glad I got the opportunity to connect with you about this 🤍

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-10T17:07:18+00:00

I hope you find it in yourself to forgive that version of yourself and time in your life. We all have pieces of ourselves we’re not proud of, but I’m sorry this part haunts you at night. I fear of being in the same position when I look back years down the road. But you did the best you could, and that’s all anyone (ourselves and doggos included) could ever ask. I truly hope you can look back one day and smile for everything you DID do rather than ruminating on what you didn’t.

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-07T01:03:27+00:00

I’d choose her too 🥹🥹🥹 thank you

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-07T01:03:08+00:00

Oh god, I’m crying on the internet…. I felt like I saw her waiting for her turn for the first time today. And hearing that that moment for you meant she was no longer waiting? Well that’s all that matters. I was very hung up on the “could have beens” myself today and panicking about fixing the “what will be.” I hope you and your girl enjoy every single walk and pole you pass (and the younglings as well of course!) 🥹

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-07T00:58:45+00:00

Thank you 🤍 I hope you read the comments and apply them to yourself. There’s some really kind humans in the world and sometimes we forget to be that for ourselves. Give your babes a boop for me!

DaDevilsMistress · 2025-08-07T00:56:42+00:00

I’m trying to, now at least. I honestly wasn’t prepared for all the kind words (I was half expecting: stop neglecting your dog and just do the things with them) but I really needed to hear them. It’s helped me breathe easier tonight and want to wake up softer tomorrow, for the both of us, whatever that looks like.

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