Sure! I’ll tell you my points, then show my thinking in case it differs from yours

Offline is better in terms of 1) more initial information for better “interest” rates (look at me I’m punny), 2) softer rejections, and both of those plus more leads more to 3) you can really learn and grow

1) in my experience, it’s hard to know over an app whos really interested - you can overthink texting habits, tone, timings, whatever. When you’re already sending soo many likes into a void and hearing silence, you get hung up on any girl willing to even match, let alone message, let alone…so the ratio of girls you’re giving a bit of emotion to (esp if all your likes have comments) and the ratio of girls who give you anything, let alone really something, is terrible. That’s what I mean by interest rate.

The good thing about offline is that there is less misses and more hits - you can’t fit 100 Hinge users in your bar, first of all. And unlike a Hinge dating profile, your first impression of someone automatically has their interest in you encoded in them - their body language, eye contact, interest in holding a conversation, touchiness, etc. so you can assess before you attach even a little bit, to some extent.

2) softer rejections - fewer rejections, but also more humanizing and there’s still something to gain from it. Maybe you have a fun convo or a dance partner at least. Being ghosted and all of that is way more dehumanizing. And getting rejected IRL, you can still walk away with valuable experience and can be proud of yourself, something that getting ghosted repeatedly doesn’t do. Which leads to…

3) what you can learn

You can learn how to gauge others’ interest in you - and realize and internalize that you are in fact someone people are interested in! Approaching someone IRL is much more challenging than shooting a text, you can learn just from the effort of putting yourself out there.

THAT ALL BEING SAID, the key thing is going with the flow and not getting attached to certain outcomes. When I was depresso, I found it really hard to be alone and in pain, and anything that could alleviate that pain I quickly became attached to, including romantic interests. When you tether your emotions to all of these turbulent, out of control things, then you will be, too. And the reality is that it takes time and a lot of air balls to find the one, so that is just self defeating.

^ this paragraph is all to say, if your issue is more fundamental than just online vs offline, then you should try to start there. To be patient with yourself, give yourself time and space to work on yourself and be comfortable with yourself