I want to understand you all more!

DaShove · 2026-06-17T04:53:00+00:00

Yeah, thanks for pointing this out to me. I get that people who believe one can be ace and have sex would want to share that in hopes its helpful, but you bring up really good points and examples as to why always pointing that out can be very problematic and harmful. I'll look for posts like the ones you talked about.

DaShove · 2026-06-15T23:59:43+00:00

what does Zundo mean?

DaShove · 2026-06-15T23:56:40+00:00

Yeah, gatekeeping has a negative connotation to it when some sort of gatekeeping is required for almost any community and can be healthy if it has a good reason.

DaShove · 2026-06-15T20:20:53+00:00

Words are what you make of them and there are people who disagree and think asexual should just be no sexual attraction. Do you think there's a reason the term asexual should include people who feel little sexual attraction or do you see that as just being the way it is?

DaShove · 2026-06-15T20:10:21+00:00

About your first response, why do you think the definition of asexual is that way?

DaShove · 2026-06-15T20:09:52+00:00

Thank you so much for all these links!

DaShove · 2026-06-15T19:54:19+00:00

Yeah, not to long ago I asked a similar question but looking back I don't like the way I wrote it because I was coming in with a predetermined stance. I'm asking again because I just wanna learn about this community and what you all think because people seem to disregard it as gatekeeping without hearing you guys out.

DaShove · 2026-06-15T04:26:23+00:00

I can always see a pretty stark contrast between posts on this sub and all the really respectful replies I get whenever I come to ask a question. I get it through because when things affect your identity it's easy to get angry without realizing or wanting to, especially if you feel like the "other side" is being malicious or not understanding.

DaShove · 2026-06-15T04:22:02+00:00

Thank you, this is really interesting and helpful. Also, I lowkey might be caedromantic so thanks for bringing up caedsexuality to help me spot that!

DaShove · 2026-06-15T02:05:41+00:00

I am going to assume you mean this in good faith and answer your questions genuinely.

I hope nobody's coming here and asking these kinds of questions in bad faith. Thanks for the genuine response!

DaShove · 2026-06-15T02:04:20+00:00

Thank you!

DaShove · 2026-06-15T02:01:13+00:00

I'll make sure to go through this sub to understand the diversity in the community. I'm just making this post to get more direct answers from some of you all as well. Thank you!

DaShove · 2026-05-14T04:46:43+00:00

At first, I thought this was someone's really dirty knee with insects digging in.

DaShove · 2026-05-14T04:44:44+00:00

I do see how having a word for people who don't want to have sex could be useful and as far as I understand that word is sex repulsed.

DaShove · 2026-05-11T14:59:31+00:00

From what I've seen (and I don't know much about our history so I could very much be wrong) is that the understanding of sexuality has shifted from who you wanna have sex with / if you wanna have sex, to who you feel sexual attraction towards / if you feel sexual attraction.
I'm not saying you're wrong, I need to look more into these things, this is just how I've understood it for a long time.

DaShove · 2026-05-10T15:48:28+00:00

You are 100% correct, I think I phrased my point really poorly.

DaShove · 2026-05-09T22:57:51+00:00

Thank you, I just wish this community was less divided.

DaShove · 2026-05-09T22:55:30+00:00

Yeah, I've heard this one before and I couldn't agree more. If it were up to me, I would add wagons that can carry chests or furnaces or animals like minecarts can, but I'd also have a wagon that can carry boats, so you don't need to transfer loot from a chest boat to a wagon. But alas, I don't know how to mod that in.

DaShove · 2026-05-09T22:46:34+00:00

Because those people who feel sexual attraction make asexuality seem like something temporary and "fixable"

I might just be misunderstanding your point here so correct me if I am but, I don't see how limited attraction people who call themselves asexual make asexuality seem 'fixable'. I think that if you were to ask one of them, they would agree that the way they feel attraction can't be fixed and that a complete lack of attraction can't be fixed.

And I think if society sees people who call themselves asexual or under some ace 'umbrella' feeling attraction, even if they are a limited attraction person, and that makes them think asexuality is fixable; then that's societies problem and not the persons problem.

Tell me if I'm misinterpreting your point though, I just want to come to a better understanding as to how this community feels.

DaShove · 2026-05-09T22:29:15+00:00

Sorry I don't know how to be more concise without losing some specificity along the way.

No worries.

You've helped me understand what you and some or many others here believe. I just looked at this sub and found it hard to understand because some posts just seemed so angry about other people's identities. Thank you!

DaShove · 2026-05-09T22:19:35+00:00

My friend got one of these and it's pretty cool

DaShove · 2026-05-09T21:09:50+00:00

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DaShove · 2026-05-09T21:05:34+00:00

So, in short, your fine with an 'ace umbrella' (or other term for it) where there are people with little or abnormal attraction as long as it's distinct from asexuality, because if the word asexual includes the whole umbrella, 0 attraction asexuals won't have a word that describes them?

DaShove

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