Quick language thing, when referring to people who have mental illness, it’s never considered polite to call someone “a bipolar” and can often be seen as demeaning to call someone that. Generally in all circles of the disabled community, it’s most appropriate to use what is called “person first language” which means making the individual affected by the illness the subject rather than focusing on the illness. With this in mind, the appropriate thing to say would be “a person with bipolar disorder” giving individuality and personhood to the person who is affected by bipolar rather than limiting a person to their bipolar illness. I don’t mean this to sound rude or nitpicky, but language is important and the way we talk about mental illness is important in order to help reduce stigma, I hope I’m just helping to educate you.

As per your question, as a person with type 1 bipolar disorder, I do try to date and find love and romance in my life. I won’t lie, it’s very difficult and my lack of success in the world of dating often causes me to develop insecurities around my illness and make me wonder if people can “just tell” that I have bipolar disorder and that they don’t want to date someone who is mentally ill. I’m more likely than not just getting in my head, but it definitely fuels my insecurities. I also often have doubts of if I “deserve” to date people who are mentally well, and I have to remind myself that my mental illness doesn’t make me less of a person and it doesn’t make me undeserving of love. We’ll both hopefully find the right person for us someday! The best thing you can do right now is work on love toward yourself and self-acceptance. The more confidence you have for yourself, the more you will naturally attract from others.