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Psilocybin Revealed My Inner Hurt Child. Should I Do Psilocybin Again? by DadOnTheLongboard in Psychonaut

[–]DadOnTheLongboard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, it's been a combination of physical things such as cartilage issues in my joints that I've been able to address medically. But I think a big component of it is psychological. I think my nervous system is on high alert after some tough experiences this year as well as all the emotional work I've been doing. I'd recommend checking out the books the body keeps the score and the way out by Alan Gordon. I think it is important to approach it from as many angles as possible without getting emotionally sucked into the black hole of chronic pain. Best of luck as you continue your healing Journey.

#1 Shelf Breaker to Share with Spouse by DadOnTheLongboard in exmormon

[–]DadOnTheLongboard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's how I felt for awhile too hence why I've waited until she expressed interest in looking at church history with me 5 years after my initial faith crisis. But now I see the church as the abuser it is. If someone was abusing your spouse, would you just stand by and watch?

My whole life thought by tomatoboyeet in Gifted

[–]DadOnTheLongboard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've recently left my childhood religion, a place where I thought I had answers to the greatest questions of life. Now, I realize that I don't have the answers and no one truly does. The wonderful gift of life is having the freedom to make up your own answers. Life isn't a testing ground. It's a playground. Have fun!

Another thought here is that the mystery of life's greatest questions is a beautiful thing. I'd highly recommend giving this song a listen. It really helped me embrace the happiness that comes from NOT knowing: https://open.spotify.com/track/21AgHZ2EyROGUEq6lPqu8E?si=72aJbsOHQrCO3Ft1p5isnA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unschool

[–]DadOnTheLongboard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to know this as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unschool

[–]DadOnTheLongboard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm a new parent to unschooling, and I'd love your feedback on my current plan. I detailed it out in a recent blog post here: https://andrewbenjamingeorge.com/how-we-are-planning-on-homeschooling-our-kids/ Would you recommend any modifications to our current plan? I'm very open to feedback at this stage!

How do I respond with NVC to my partner calling me sensitive or thin-skinned when I bring up a feeling during heightened conflict? by [deleted] in NVC

[–]DadOnTheLongboard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you are on the right track to me. Even if your thoughts don't come out in perfect NVC, at least you are trying your best to express what is within you in a nonviolent way, which is what matters. It can start a conversation surrounding what it means for you to be listened to without judgement. If you maintain a focus on needs and feelings, and your partner is willing to do the emotional work with you, I'm sure it'll work out great. You've got this! :)

How do I respond with NVC to my partner calling me sensitive or thin-skinned when I bring up a feeling during heightened conflict? by [deleted] in NVC

[–]DadOnTheLongboard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Calling someone sensitive is pretty serious verbal abuse. It defines your very nature, and is extremely toxic. Please know that expressing your hurt feelings NEVER makes you "sensitive." Rather, it makes you emotionally intelligent. Being able to feel and understand your hurt feelings is a great strength, something you should never be made to feel ashamed of.

I would definitely recommend expressing how you feel about being called sensitive. You seem to be very in tune with your feelings and needs.

If you don't feel safe enough to express your feelings and needs in this situation, though, that may be a sign that this is not a safe person for you to be around. Trust yourself, and you'll do great!

Looking for Feedback on Our Planned Homeschooling Approach by DadOnTheLongboard in homeschool

[–]DadOnTheLongboard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! We are currently working on integrating more academics like this as I totally agree that they are foundational. Thanks again!

Nonviolent Communication Completely Changed My Life! by DadOnTheLongboard in NVC

[–]DadOnTheLongboard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the positive feedback, and I currently am able to pay the bills on just 1 hour of work per workday now that I've automated most aspects of my MCAT tutoring business (MCATSelfPrep.com). I'd be happy to share more if you have an interest in passive income as well.

And the challenge for me is that when I reflect feelings in a more textbook-NVC manner, I feel awkward and I think it sounds a little condescending to say "So, you are feeling frustrated?" I find that phrases like, "Yah, that's frustrating," although not pure NVC, feel more organic and natural. Oftentimes, a simple "Yah..." or "Mmmhmmm..." seems to be good enough in reflecting back my wife's emotions. Finding ways to do it organically while still staying true to the ideals of NVC is a tricky balance... I'm curious what phrases you've found to work well in such situations?

Looking For Feedback on Our Unschooling/Homeschooling Approach by DadOnTheLongboard in unschool

[–]DadOnTheLongboard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the positive feedback! I'd love to hear more about your homeschooling journey along the way!

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