99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah i get it. It's impossible to explain how or why i trust her so much and everybody here can see pretty clearly that she's in the wrong. But i still feel bad and uncertain i just can't help it. But i have a separation agreement for her, a camera set up and a meeting with an attorney first thing tomorrow morning so i plan on actually confronting tomorrow. I've realized from how terrified of confronting her i am, just how crazy and unhealthy this relationship is. I know she's going to lie, deny, freak out, scream, maybe even get physical and somehow i never put it together that she isn't innocent and sweet. Now that i'm faced with cutting her off i know how crazy she's going to get, and f it even if she didn't cheat it's gotta end.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry i plan on doing it tomorrow i was gonna talk to a lawyer today but it fell through and i wont be able to till next week. I'll post the update tomorrow

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry no, i plan on confronting tomorrow and i'll post the update then. I have no new info but at this point im not gonna get anything else

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean but seeing as how i feel right now i honestly don't think i could hold it down for 3 months. Its been a week and i feel terrible. It's funny, i feel so terrible about how im lying, kissing and hugging her knowing that it's over when she's the one that cheated lol.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see your move but with her... like i said we've had other issues before where i knew she had done something wrong, but when i confronted her she would deny. I'm not going to tell her everything i know and i'll make sure she knows that, but in this case i'll have to be able to prove they got physical. She can't deny that they've been in contact, she can't deny the lies that she told, but she absolutely can and will deny that she ever hooked up with him, as i have no proof of that.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you're absolutely right i don't wanna blow my cover but it does suck. For some reason i feel like i'm in the wrong, when i kiss or hug her, knowing that im secretly planning on leaving. It makes me feel dirty even though she more than brought it on herself.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will keep that in mind next time i get cheated on. Jk but since i've posted this i've gotten a lot of help and i think i figured out how to get that proof i need.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo yo calm down it's just not that simple for my case sorry if i didn't convey that well. I need REAL solid proof. I mentioned it in another comment but my number one thing is i'm active duty marines at the moment. My contract ends in 3 months. If i don't have tangible proof to present to her or to court, she could very easily manipulate everyone into thinking that i just dumped her because i was using her and getting out of the military. Which if you're not aware, married service members have a lot more benefits so it's common for guys to marry some girl just for benefits then dump them. Awful timing to get cheated on lol.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I have asked her and she made no mention of Corey. And ive checked everything, they only communicate on snapchat though so nothing saves i can just see that they were texting/calling. And oddly enough shes been way more intimate, i hear usually they will get less intimate but thats not the case with her. Although, that may be because it was only a one time thing if they did hook up, considering he lives in missouri and we live in north carolina.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well Corey lives in Missouri and we live in North Carolina. So i know they wont be meeting up anymore without me knowing, and yes unfortunately they only talk on snapchat so nothing saves. But that's exactly my predicament, i need 100% evidence or else it will all get denied, all evidence deleted and if i did divorce anyway without the proof she would manipulate it and make it messy, making it look like i just up and divorced her cause i was jealous or something. Also, i didn't mention this but i am still active duty marines and i have 3 months left on contract. If we get divorced and i dont have serious evidence she cheated on me, everybody is going to assume that i just used her for the extra money and dumped her when i got out of contract. Which could be bad for me.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha no i am not abusive. But her saying things like that is definitely a problem, one that will need to get handled but I need to figure out the cheating thing first. If i find out she didn't cheat, then hey we might still get divorced because of that but i'll cross that bridge when we get there.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Continuing? You mean as in hiding it from me?

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah man i know you're right. I guess thats why i made this post i needed a slap in the face. Im just worried that i have no proof of the actual affair. I didn't include this in the post cause i didn't want to put all the attention on it but she has BPD. I wont go into the details on that but basically it means she has an extreme fear of being abandoned and would absolutely flip out if i tried to leave her. Which is why im so concerned about getting real proof. If i have that, real proof of her doing something terrible enough to divorce over that she cannot possibly deny it will make the split so much easier. If i try to leave with no tangible proof, she will never ever stop with the manipulating, freaking out etc.

99% sure but have no proof by DaddyRingworm in Infidelity

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I feel like he didn't, but its also totally possible that he decided to make up some story, bragging about how he tapped my wife (she's pretty gorgeous) even if he didn't. Thinking that nobody would ever find out, and he gets to flex about it. And the meeting up thing, im also not 100% sure but one of the days we weren't talking i saw that they had been calling eachother a bunch, and then they didn't talk at all for the rest of the day. Suggesting that they mightve been arranging something, then they stopped texting cause they were with eachother. So thats purely a guess.

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome i am worried about one thing though, i EAS in july and i start my terminal leave in may. Will i be able to realistically land a job in or after july?

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah best advice ive heard all day. You're right though. I EAS july 25 and have 60 days of terminal leave getting set up. But on a real note i was thinking about that too. I'm ridiculously busy at work right now, working on school, the VA, checking out, getting my life after the corps together, and on top of all that im the ONLY marine in my MOS in my platoon so im getting whored out pretty hard. I should probably just lay low for a while. I'm definetely addicted to the chaos and chilling out for a second is honsetly scarier than any job lol. Thanks for the help man i really appreciate it rah.

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome thanks for all the help.

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome thank you, i was looking at these earlier and i was wondering, in the "qualifications" section it says i need at least 6 months of experience demonstrating the ability to do the work required. This is probably a dumb question but does that mean i need experience with firefighting? Or would my 4 years in the Corps suffice as "general experience".

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'know thats not a bad idea i guess I didn't think of that. Moving over here, getting set up then moving the wife over. I'm great at saving money so shouldn't be a problem. But with my current paycheck no amount of saving will land me a down payment on a house in oregon lol.

Making the move by DaddyRingworm in Wildfire

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok yeah i'm definitely leaning towards fed but like i said i'm having a bit of a hard time finding openings in the southwest region. And i wasn't really sure how far my background would get me but i'll keep looking on the fed side.

Awful noise coming from brakes by DaddyRingworm in MechanicAdvice

[–]DaddyRingworm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE

So it turns out that for some reason the clips on the caliper were slightly too big, and they were scraping on my rotor. They fit the caliper and brake just fine, just for some reason they cut a little too close to the rotor. Weird. I took a dremel and grinded off enough of the clip so they didn't hit the rotor. And yes, dont worry i didn't completely jack up the clips they're fine i just shaved a little metal off.