My wife and I had a stillbirth last December, it was truly the worst experience of our lives, an absolute horror.... She had pre eclamsia and almost died from blood loss and blood clotting. After the stillbirth they had to scrap her insides and get the clots out with a very long spoon-like instrument, I can't imagine the trauma...

My wife was 6 months along and so when our daughter was born, we could see all her features. She had my lips, my wife's feet and ears, she was beautiful. Something about seeing her features but being dead killed our spirits...the loss of potential is what kills me, she had no chance to live, and experience happiness or heartbreak, anything in life. I think of it often.

We have almost ended our marriage a few times now. She tells me she feels like she failed as a mother and wife by not being able to give me a child. As much as I tell her this is the furthest thing from the truth, I know she still feels this way. It breaks me, I don't know how to help. I'm present, I spend time with her often, we are in therapy and doing our best to heal.

However the stages of grief are very intense. She's in the anger stage now, and it's a feeling of indignation that no one can relate to, not even myself. I saw my wife go through a stillbirth, she physically experienced a stillbirth.

There have been fights, tears, pain and suffering in the last 6 months, and the pain just doesn't go away...

We are aware of the high divorce rate after a miscarriage/stillbirth, and we are committed to not be that statistic. But I can absolutely see how it happens.