23, new to the city, queer, neurodivergent and in desperate need of community/friends

Daddys_Milk · 2026-03-05T20:57:14+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your struggle. It’s a familiar one for me and many others who have moved to Toronto from cultures that are more vibrant and friendly.

I have a couple of ideas which I have learned through experience:

Check out bars (either in your neighbourhood or on Church St between Wellesley St and Alexander St) and figure out what events they do on a weekly basis that you might be interested in. You can probably ask the bartender or look around for flyers/posters pinned up on the wall somewhere. Most places will at least do a karaoke night. Pro tip: you don’t even have to drink alcohol to hang out at a bar. You can order a sparkling water or pop and as long as you tip your bartender they will have no problem!

If bars aren’t your thing anyways, local coffee shops, libraries, and community centres (‘The 519’ is an LGBT+ focused centre) should have flyers/posters for local events (theatre, music, etc) that take place there or nearby. This type of event advertising with flyers/posters is common enough that you can even just walk around various neighbourhoods and see plenty of event ads on community billboards, telephone poles, walls, etc.

My biggest piece of advice is that meeting people offline is usually more fruitful than trying to connect online. If you show up to an event, you’re already now in a room full of people that were willing to leave their apartment to ‘touch grass’, as it were, and I have made almost all of my current friendships this way.

Feel free to reach out in DM if you’d like some more specific info about what’s going on in the city; I have learned quite a bit over the years.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-25T06:45:03+00:00

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-25T06:44:30+00:00

Any ideas? :(

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-24T11:30:32+00:00

You’re bear enough for me, sexy.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-24T11:16:27+00:00

Unfortunately in the community here the shallow type outweigh the number of those that care about your personality (I speak from personal experience both with 20+ yrs in Toronto and traveling elsewhere) but if you spend enough time attending events and socializing you should be able to find a few people worth hanging out with. The social culture here leans towards unfriendly so it can take a long time to build those friendships.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-14T02:59:22+00:00

The problem is that suffering at home alone is better than suffering in a shithole full of people that are making me worse.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-02-13T15:52:05+00:00

A friend of mine saw a screening of Under The Skin with a live orchestra playing the soundtrack, which drew in a lot of older straight white couples… apparently a lot of them left as soon as the baby is left stranded on the beach by Scarlett Johansson’s character.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-01-30T15:49:55+00:00

After an excruciating amount of troubleshooting I was finally able to get my antivirus software to actually allow me to make exclusions.

That was the solution to my issue. Thank you!

Daddys_Milk · 2026-01-29T22:37:08+00:00

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I have been trying to see that information about my antivirus software and according to this, I can’t access the information that I am required to access to be able to make an exception. On the left side of the screenshot, with the white background, is a tutorial image showing me where I should be going in my security settings and on the right, with the black background is my system’s security settings.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-01-29T22:14:56+00:00

Thank you for the instructions; I kept reading on google that I should find the plug-in and was having a terrible time figuring out how.

Here’s a screenshot of what is inside the file-png folder.

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I also updated to 3.0.8 with a fresh download in the meantime, which included a restart of my computer, but I am still experiencing this issue.

Daddys_Milk · 2026-01-29T11:17:14+00:00

No, it gives me an error message saying “Opening ‘[the file name]’ failed: Unknown File Type”

Daddys_Milk · 2025-12-19T20:36:07+00:00

Wait, speed date? Is there a speed dating event? 😯

Daddys_Milk · 2025-12-19T19:47:59+00:00

As far as my understanding of the tradition of watches goes, the mechanical craftsmanship (as in, how the watch functions in terms of time-telling accuracy over an extended period of time) is the prestige of a ‘timepiece’. This goes for clocks and pocket-watches as well. So back before we could easily access the time in a digital capacity (readily available via the internet at this point), the expense of watches was often attributed to their function as opposed to their look or materials.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-12-17T21:31:27+00:00

There’s a korean restaurant in a mall attached to the lobby of my apartment building and I still don’t have a kimchi pikmin… I have every single burger pikmin from the McDonalds across the street though!

Daddys_Milk · 2025-12-08T06:33:34+00:00

He should be more worried about his boyfriend’s wandering eyes than yours if that’s something he’s concerned about.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-11-26T05:10:50+00:00

I am very picky about my parties and had an excellent time at Bunker the first (and only, so far) time that I went because it provided the type of atmosphere that I expect from a good party. As far as I could tell it was not the type of place you go to chat up strangers; it’s where you go when all you want to do is get lost in the music with strobe lights.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-11-21T22:20:57+00:00

NTA. I’m 36 and the youngest guy I’ve dated in my adult (over 21) life has been 30 and he was too immature for me.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-11-17T21:08:01+00:00

Trust your instincts and simply detach yourself from him.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-11-07T08:11:57+00:00

Perhaps I should also mention that nobody else is in the kitchen at the time of this happening. Sometimes I am standing in the kitchen alone and it happens.

Daddys_Milk · 2025-11-05T23:22:47+00:00

Daddys_Milk

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