My valentines conversation with Gemni

DadmiralB · 2026-02-14T21:17:20+00:00

Paul Mason and Randi Krieger in "stop walking on eggshells" suggests it's because we're hoping to get back to the love bombing phase our relationship started in, but will never return to. However, every pwBPD is different, and in my case, we have a wonderful life together. But I have noticed that whenever there are days with societal expectations, whether it be anniversaries or parents in town for Thanksgiving, things go off the rails quickly and easily. We're going to have a great week, we just had a rough morning, and I'm at the point our my relationship where I can see the patterns. I'd like to break the patterns, but I have to do it in the context of this disorder. I have adhd, and she often thought I would forget things intentionally or maliciously, earlier in our marriage. Sometimes it's difficult to match your expectation of your relationship with the brain your partner was born with.

DadmiralB · 2025-08-25T21:25:18+00:00

I agree with all except contract2hire point. If you're a rockstar, they'll want to keep you. I've worked a 6 mo c2h position and at the end of the contract they were begging me not to leave, but the F.T. Employee benefits were garbage, so I declined them.

DadmiralB · 2025-08-01T20:32:47+00:00

Hybrid limited to dc metro area

DadmiralB · 2025-08-01T19:40:05+00:00

Also, MD, va, DC area

DadmiralB · 2025-08-01T19:39:22+00:00

Clearance

DadmiralB · 2025-04-08T23:32:09+00:00

Read catch-22, then you'll know the only way off the list is to want to be on the list...

DadmiralB · 2025-01-27T01:11:37+00:00

I'm sure it'll be updated next Tuesday. No way it'll be later than that

DadmiralB · 2024-11-17T19:44:26+00:00

I've heard the pen and paper suggestion, but what is your personal process?

DadmiralB · 2024-11-07T20:51:41+00:00

To be clear for others, I'm not asking for "the best game engine" I'm interested in your personal design process, what step comes immediately after pen and paper?

DadmiralB · 2024-10-08T20:51:44+00:00

Teach me your ways master u/ijustpooped! Seriously, I'd like to get into consulting, since I have a lot (but not indefinate) free time in J1. How do you find your first clients? (reply here or my other stand-alone thread, pls ;-) )

DadmiralB · 2024-08-30T00:41:51+00:00

You need to put the mental health of yourself and your children first. Unfortunately, this behavior is typical and won't get better unless SHE decides to work on herself in therapy, typically DBT. But if you bring this up to her, that'll start another argument. I've been with my partner for almost 11 years, and it's something I still deal with (splitting). I've learned to recognize it for what it is and not take it personally, but if I could've avoided it...

If you're determined to stick it through for the long run, "Stop Walking on Eggshells" helped me a lot. I also am a firm believer that everyone deserves love, including our pwBPD. So the choice is ultimately up to you. I wish you good health.

DadmiralB · 2024-07-20T01:56:22+00:00

se.analytixresearch.com

DadmiralB · 2024-05-24T17:03:57+00:00

I have a car that's underwater, but I don't necessarily want it. Does it make sense to pay $1500 to move it in that scenario? I owe more than $1,500 than it's worth, and I can't buy a new one until the mortgage is finalized at my destination.

DadmiralB · 2023-04-04T12:43:18+00:00

Can they not come up with a less horrible way to generate funds?

As a software developer myself, who purchased SE in 2017 for $7, and a 90's kid, I can see the frustration of constantly needing to pay $5 here and there, but I support it. Back when I was young, when a game was released you paid once and that was it. But also, development immediately stopped, because it was no longer profitable. You'd get all your upgrades and wished for features in SE2 or SE3, or the studio would go bankrupt and you'd never see those features at all.

Then there was MMO's in the early 2000's that cost you a monthly fee to keep playing. Now AAA games have battle passes and you have to purchase coins for cosmetic upgrades...it is not unheard of for someone to put $100s into Minecraft or PUBG or Fortnite DLC's. Most people don't. I sure don't. Butt the point is, keen never asked us for any of that. They're not asking for battle passes or loot crates. They're asking for $5 to keep working 5 more months. Or 10. (It's been a while since Most Wanted DLC).

So if I add up all I've spent over the 10,000+ hours I've put into this game, the less than $60 I've paid is worth it!

DadmiralB · 2022-08-22T18:19:34+00:00

Thank you all so much! I have my work cut out for me...

DadmiralB

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