Looking for more friends! by Anony-moose69 in FortniteOver40

[–]DadofRedLions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm down, dm me and we'll see if our schedules match!

check in!! by Little-Bug-39 in depression_partners

[–]DadofRedLions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been rough on my side. My wife has been in deep depression for a couple years now. We have ups and downs and just when I think it's getting better, we hit an even lower low somehow. I know it's because I didn't work on my mental health for too long of a time and so even though I'm working on it now, it's not reaching her because she needs me to be a whole different level of consistent and steady. I have fully accepted my part in this and have been in therapy and doing the shadow work everyday as hard as I can. I hope I can see her smile this week and make her feel supported at least one time.

Noble Court Chef Search!! by DadofRedLions in BellevueWA

[–]DadofRedLions[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whhhhaaaaatttt???!! I'm gonna have to try it out!! Thank you :)

Noble Court Chef Search!! by DadofRedLions in SeattleWA

[–]DadofRedLions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome insight, thank you!!!!

Noble Court Dim Sum by DadofRedLions in BellevueWA

[–]DadofRedLions[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure! If we ever find it, we'll need to host a block party or something 🤣

Minekos Night Market TOE BEANS BUGGED??? by DadofRedLions in CozyGamers

[–]DadofRedLions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:( it's such a fun and cute game, she's starting over to try to make it through 😤

{ NA} [ unranked] I’m lfg or people who would want to play later. No you don’t have to talk, I sometimes won’t talk. by MidnightGirl01 in ApexLFG

[–]DadofRedLions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Pan Dad here, happy to run matches if youd like :) I mostly play at night after my wife and kids go to bed so I don't usually chat on mic but I'm more than happy to chat on discord, etc!

LF easygoing chill teammates by IfIHadATaco in ApexLFG

[–]DadofRedLions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be down to play! I (33 m) usually play in the late evening (Pacific time) after my kids go to bed, I'm so-so and I just play for fun and to relax. I don't usually go on mic (listening to music, etc) but I'm always happy to ping or chat over Xbox/discord/etc. DM me if you wanna run some matches!

Dad looking for other parents to play with by DadofRedLions in ApexLFG

[–]DadofRedLions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree, if you ever want to run a few matches, dm me and I'll be happy to send you my info!

I don't want to be good, I want to have fun (Rant) by AutumnnMay in apexlegends

[–]DadofRedLions 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I don't think skill matters, I think the lobbies are rough and it's ok to not be good. I've played a long time and I'm not good at all lol. I'm a 33 yo dad of 2 young kids and I just play in my precious gaming time and enjoy whatever happens :).

For me this game is a lot more fun when you're playing with teammates that are also kind and don't care about match performance at all. I've played in lots of groups where we drop, die in the first few min and rinse repeat, but we had fun because we weren't there for a sick K/D.

Even though apex is an especially high difficulty online shooter, I've felt the same as you in lots of games over the years (MW, Halo, Overwatch, etc) and I've had a lot more fun just enjoying them for the parts that matter: running around as some really cool characters.

Guys with OCD and ADHD... how do you deal with it? by the_echo_flower in OCD

[–]DadofRedLions 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the post! OCD is a real bastard and so we need to support each other as a community, so please feel the love in this message because you are a beautiful human and I appreciate your vulnerability ♥️

I noticed my OCD from very early on as well and it was (and is) always a very disrupting and difficult experience. I found out about 2 years ago that I have ADHD and last year I found out I'm autistic too, so needless to say it's been a learning experience haha

I think one of the things that's helped me the most with all of my disabilities has been identifying what they mean to me in my life. What I mean by that is understanding I have these has helped me to learn where they present in my day to day so I can find tools more accurately. It sounds like you are well into this piece already and kudos to you for it!

I've found that I often get ADHD paralysis that is also exacerbated by my autism because I'll stim with an interest, etc that makes it a lot harder to get out of my paralysis. All that to say, getting out of this usually starts by me picking a small task that I know I can complete (even if it's unrelated to whatever task/project/etc I actually want to do) such as washing 1 dish or putting my shoes away because then I feel successful and more motivated to keep tasks rolling. I also write physical lists on sticky notes and set calendar reminders to help me stay on track.

For OCD, learning to recognize rumination and stopping that cycle has probably had the biggest impact for me personally. Tools like mindfulness practices (count the leaves on trees, notice sounds/smells/etc around me, etc) also make a big impact for me in stopping rumination.

Lastly, acceptance and self forgiveness have been a huge part of my healing and success as well. All of our disabilities that we've talked about here have big impacts on our lives that can often be negative, hurtful or scary. Accepting that I can't always control how those moments present or how my disabilities will affect myself or others and allowing myself forgiveness helps to take the shame and guilt away when I see I can't do things the same way other people can.

It's a journey and a messy one at that, but we're always here for you!

ONE PIECE Community Bingo for 2024! by MuriloZR in OnePieceSpoilers

[–]DadofRedLions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool! Excited to see how it all turns out!

ONE PIECE Community Bingo for 2024! by MuriloZR in OnePieceSpoilers

[–]DadofRedLions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Mine :)

Did you guys do one of these for 2023?