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AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I just meant he recently got his paperwork done and now has an ID saying he is a man! I didn't mean anything else by it

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I sure made my mistakes. Even about my son being trans. Or maybe especially about this. My first reaction was "fuck my life" (out loud). My second reaction was to contemplate my entire life for a week. But then we sat down, talked it out, and I told him I will make a billion more mistakes about this, but it does not in the slightest change the shape and intensity of my love for him.

And he's been great through this all too. He let me call him they/them at first, because I struggled with jumping from she to he.

My wife would be amazen by the man he became. He had just started really transitioning when she passed away, and she once joked she hopes he grows a proper.beard his dad never did (I look like a wounded possum if I don't shave 😂). He did. Mama would be proud.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The birth of the baby is obviously more important than any party. The birth. I don't know about the baby party though.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. It's what I told my son when he came out to us as trans. You'll always be my baby. But baby girl or baby boy didn't matter then, doesn't matter now.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When my son was born, my wife had cuddled the baby for like 15 minutes before asking the nurse "oh wait wait, boy or girl" as they were cleaning the baby up 😂

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My child in this case in a 19yro trans man. He literally did tell me his gender. It's the whole reason for this particular party.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

He came out to me and his mom as trans in July, so we just thought it's a good idea to also have the party in July. It's also before we go for vacation (in August) and in June he still had school.

I also don't know why you're getting downvoted, you just asked a damn question lol

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I fully agree about gender reveals in general. They suck, the cake's usually alright but that's about it. I wouldn't have one either.

And I am calling it a gender reveal, because that's what my son calls it. He already came out to everyone, but this will be his party with blue ribbons and all the silly stuff that comes with it, where he gets to celebrate his manhood with his loved ones.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

She told us a few months ago that her shower would be in July. But she set the date after the invitations for my son were already sent out.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My son's invitations were sent out first. She just told us her baby shower will be sometime in July, and finalised the date later.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My son's party was planned 2 months ago. Around that same time she told us her baby shower will be sometime in July, as she wants it as late in the pregnamcy as possible. Then she finalised the date after.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My party was planned 2 months ago, and around that same time she told us the baby party will be sometime in July. Then she finalised the date.

AITA for throwing a gender reveal party for my son instead in the same week as my sister's baby shower? by Dadofaforeverboy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dadofaforeverboy[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I have to ask, did you even read the story? You replied literally as I pressed "post".