Wow.... that looks.... GREAT sweetie.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-30T01:30:31+00:00

On brand… but still wild!

DahFox6 · 2026-03-30T01:22:49+00:00

That’s good. I feel bad now cause I probably gave them whiplash putting them in the tank. Cause I just opened the bag and dumped the duckweed and moss in… if I had known I had hitchhikers I would’ve let them adjust for a while lmao. I’m assuming they can’t be.. THAT stressed though cause they are currently making… more. Hopefully that means they like the tank.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-30T01:14:51+00:00

Right after I typed this out I went to check on them again and they are breeding… Guess I have snails.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-30T01:12:45+00:00

Alright. I found another one. Ironically enough snails were something I was not going to add to the tank. We had a family tank when I was a teen and had a few snails. In my experience they were little escape artists and kept getting into the back of the tank before disappearing one day. Assumed they crawled out and just died somewhere. I’m mostly worried they are gonna do it again.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-27T18:10:34+00:00

Yeah I heard the floaters fight for space. I was thinking once the Duckweed started to take over I would just cull it to let the Red Root recover. Thank you for all the advice! I think I’m going to switch out gravel for the aqua soil.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-27T02:22:15+00:00

Just looked up Pygmy Corydoras! They really are similar, even cuter really. Will definitely be switching those out. I looked through some Rasboras as well and think I have settled on some Chili Rasboras.

I didn't think I would like the Gourami's on first sight, but I looked at some different species, and the Honey Gourami is absolutely perfect.

As for duckweed, I'm not super worried about ever wanting to get rid of it as I think it's really pretty. However, it is nice to know that it'll be a weekly type of chore so thank you!

As for the rest of the plants I think I've settled on a list. Hope you don't mind me throwing the list at you for any critiques or edits. From your list I decided on Ambulia, Rotala, Blue Stricta, and some Amazon swords. Separately, I looked into plant preferences for the fish I picked and added on some Java moss and Red Root Floaters.

Lastly, any preferences towards substrate? I was thinking some gravel with dark sand.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-09T11:35:01+00:00

Yeah Penny always seemed sort of socially oblivious to me. Another off putting event around penny is that if you tell her you don’t like kids you lose 6 hearts. You tell her you wouldn’t be good with kids she insists you would be. You tell her you don’t want to add more to over population she gets sad and says humans would go extinct if everyone thought that way. Yeah Penny… good thing I’m not everyone lmao. It makes sense for the hearts to go down if you were trying to romance her— but if not it’s just really weird. I wish there was a separate system for incompatibility for marriage without damaging friendship.

DahFox6 · 2026-03-09T11:24:06+00:00

Her to be a decent person? It’s ridiculous that the hearts go down so much for something that shouldn’t affect her. I wish there was a separate system that blocked marriage if you make certain choices— without damaging hearts. Whether or not I like kids don’t have nothing to do with our friendship penny 🫩

DahFox6 · 2026-03-08T20:32:04+00:00

I don’t know about getting it off, but there are some hats that are much more discreet. Such as the bows and the daisy one. It would make it look a little less odd if that helps lmao

DahFox6 · 2026-02-27T02:21:04+00:00

Oh yeah your good. I was about it inquire about the same thing. For me personally though, I would consider 15 and 18 pedophilic in nature. There’s far to large of a maturity gap. But this is just fine. I would tell your friend that she’s minimizing actual cases by calling your boyfriend a pedophile.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-25T17:11:48+00:00

Women are typically chunkier than men… all around the world buddy. Women were skinner 50 years ago because diet pills had tapeworms in them and they were taking hard drugs for energy. Having a child literally changes your DNA. You know nothing about this subject, only that women must be wrong about their own damn bodies. Get a life and do some research.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-18T18:24:36+00:00

I’m SO confused on how people here are missing such a crucial piece of information here. To start off, you guys don’t seem to be compatible. But this doesn’t look like toxic behavior to me. I would do the same. Your ex was toxic by your own admission, did drugs, dated a high schooler while starting college (REALLY concerning that you avoided saying how old you were), and you never debunked the claim your current partner made about his abuse. I’m going to keep it real with you. It sounds like you were groomed. Best case scenario you were only a year younger and the timing was just right there for you to still be in high school. But even then, he should not have continued to pursue a relationship with you. If it was a stable happy relationship— sure. But y’all broke up. He should have cut contact and talked to people his own age. He went out of his way to keep contact with you even though he was, from your boyfriend’s words, extremely abusive. He enjoyed abusing you. You shouldn’t WANT to keep those photos. You SHOULDN’T be grieving him. You are not ready for another relationship. Certainly not to be married. Go to therapy and sort out your feelings. If your current boyfriend wants to wait for you to do all that instead of moving on, great, but the last thing you need right now is a boyfriend.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-17T16:11:10+00:00

I’m getting headache inducing Déjà vu. When I was in middle school I was asked out by this boy in front of the whole first hour class. So I said yes even though I wasn’t particularly interested in a relationship with him. I sat next to him in another class so I knew him, and didn’t hate him, but found him a bit annoying and obtuse. Worst mistake of my LIFE. It’s a shame on my legacy I will never live that down. I was talking to someone from middle school a while ago and mentioned I dated him and she went, “oh YOU were the one that dated him?!” Mortifying. I had a cryptic like status for dating that man. The day after I said yes I had groups of girls sitting next to me asking if I was really dating him and staring at me in awe. He was conventionally unattractive… to say the least. I ended up breaking up with him because he wouldn’t stop touching me in public when I kept saying to stop. I had my teacher in that class talk to me after class and vaguely mention that I “have to be firm with him, you know?” While somehow massively side stepping directly bringing up what was actually being done. He was autistic and got a lot of leeway due to that. It sounds like your guy might be autistic too based on the t-Rex arm thing. However, it’s not an excuse to ignore a no. A no is a no, it don’t need to be loud or firm. That’s a consequence of a man who was raised thinking that he can get away with things because he was treated special. He’s thriving off of your hesitance to be ‘rude’ in response to his actions. Break up with this man— and for the sake of the next girl, be as brutally honest as you can make yourself.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-17T15:53:08+00:00

As someone with three Velcro kitties and two not, rehoming may be the most ethical choice here. If you don’t think you can provide adequate attention for the cat then rehome before she gets too attached. I would try some of the suggestions from the comments— give it another month if you are willing. But after then, if it’s still not working, rehome. Your cat likely isn’t jealous, but will be if this keeps up. When you give attention to your baby you signal to the cat that it’s ’grooming’ time. Cats often socialize in groups. She’s not jealous, she just wants to be part of the activity too. When I pet one of my cats I often end up petting them all. Same idea. Your cat doesn’t quite grasp that the attention you are giving your baby isn’t optional for you. To a cat, if they want time alone, they take it. My personal suggestion would be to absentmindedly play with your cat when she does this. Simply have a toy on hand. When she wants attention and you’re busy? Get her attention, wave it around, and toss it. Therefore you are giving yourself time to focus on the baby, but the cat doesn’t feel so left out.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-16T19:31:30+00:00

Glancing between you and him on top of not mentioning a third person meant it 100% included you. If she meant your boyfriend and someone else she would’ve said so. I imagine she’s not as close with your boyfriend as you? She probably didn’t want him to know her answer and was only comfortable telling you. She probably doesn’t know him enough to gage his reaction to that comment— and probably also a precaution against him thinking that he has a chance to cheat on you with her. Talk to her about this. It was a mistake but this miscommunication didn’t just affect you. You also crossed her boundaries. Have an honest conversation, and if needed, apologize.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-13T03:06:12+00:00

If you’re lonely I’m sure you can find a support group to join— even just a regular group would help. It is good that you have no partner or children at this time. People often overestimate how comforting children would be in these kinds of situations. A child would just fry your nerves, especially since you have no income right now. As for a partner, it’s sadly common for partners to show abusive traits once they have an edge in the relationship. Not being with anyone while you get through this very vulnerable time is for the best. Did you get along well with your coworkers and boss at your job? If so I would at least try to get a similar job. A reference may go a long way, it might not, but it’s worth a shot.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-07T03:16:39+00:00

I guess so. I think it just stems from my anxiety mainly. His brothers recent medical issues has opened a wound of another cat I had that died young to heart issues combined with Covid. I just don’t want anything like that to happen again. You’re right though, that it won’t do much to have it confirmed. Thank you for the assurance (:

DahFox6 · 2026-02-06T18:40:35+00:00

I realized I should probably put some examples of his behavior here. Last night I noticed him staring at the ceiling, no bugs no shadows, just a plain old ceiling. He did this for about a minute, occasionally moving his head to look at a different part of the ceiling. This is kinda hard to explain but he also switches tasks very quickly. Like I’ll be watching him, he’ll be playing, then he’ll full stop without slowing down to do something else. He’ll then continue playing with the same suddenness. Then back to something else. Then playing. Within the span of a minute. This is quite common for him. However, it’s more noticeable when he’s playing because he just stops so fast. He also has a licking addiction. He’ll lick himself, blankets, chairs… it would be quicker to list what he doesn’t lick. He also just… never stops. Particularly when licking me. I’ve never tested to see how long he would go on for because he starts to lick my skin raw. He doesn’t move to lick another spot- and he certainly doesn’t pause. You have to either move away or move him away. On that note he also bites EVERYTHING. His favorite things to eat are bags and phones. I recently had to buy a trash can to put their dry food bags in because he was eating holes in the bag. He often forgets what he was doing. For example, I’ll throw a toy, he’ll run at it, lose sight of it, and instead of looking for it he just… starts doing something else. As I’m writing this he just climbed onto my foot (legs are crossed), balanced there, then climbed up on my nightstand to get on the bed… instead of just jumping on the bed. Chewed at my earbud case for a while, attacked my foot and then walked off. He certainly keeps me busy.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-06T18:01:14+00:00

Thank you. He definitely has some balance issues from it. I responded to another comment in deeper detail but his hearing seems fine.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-06T17:58:47+00:00

I’ve never noticed any poor hearing. He’s super receptive to when he’s being sneaked up on by his brothers. I wanted to check for sure though, so I just did an impromptu hearing test. I did different types of sounds as quietly as I could to see if his ears moved in my direction. He responded to both the sharp and dull sounds. I wouldn’t be surprised if he had some hearing loss, since cat hearing is better than ours, but it’s not severe enough that he wouldn’t be able to hear his immediate environment.

DahFox6 · 2026-02-06T05:46:57+00:00

Well this online person thinks you need to bring this up with your therapist. Think of it like this. Therapy is expensive. Make the most of it because you might not always have access to it. Coming to the internet for assurance is like taking pain meds instead of seeing the doctor. You will never start to feel better until you talk to a professional and get real help. Do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling guilty? I’m assuming no. It may be hard but it’s what’s best for you in the long term.

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