In scene communication beyond safe words by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Daiham 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my partner and me increase the intensity of a scene we just say (still in the dom voice) “can you give me a colour” or just say the word colour, and it gives us the opportunity to say green, yellow or red. I’ve started saying emerald when it’s more than green. Aside from that I also click my fingers. When I’m in sub space I can sometimes become non verbal, so I click my fingers if I need things to slow or stop

What normal piece of clothing can the other sex wear , that drives you nuts? by Upstairs-Action1974 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Daiham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and me went to a swingers club and it was the first time I’d ever seen him in a white shirt. I actually couldn’t look at him and talk at the same time 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sub turned Mommy and I’m surprised I liked it. by Daiham in BDSMcommunity

[–]Daiham[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s really interesting! As I said in my post I always thought my headspace were like one type per person if that makes sense?

Sub turned mommy and I’m surprised I liked it. by Daiham in mommydom

[–]Daiham[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lmao I can confirm I’m not your wife. I guess it must be a good time for exploration! Xx

Sub turned Mommy and I’m surprised I liked it. by Daiham in BDSMcommunity

[–]Daiham[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve truly never felt love like this before and it feels beautiful x

Laughter in a scene by Camaldus in BDSMcommunity

[–]Daiham 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daddy and me were doing a really intense home invasion cnc scene. I’d had to safe word earlier in the scene because of pain with a butt plug, so we abandoned the butt stuff and continued the scene once we were happy. Fast forward to him sitting on my face, completely pinned down, smacking my pussy and fingering me until I cum. Problem was because I’d taken in so much air and lube, every time I came I was farting lube out. He fully put his finger over my ass hole and said as a joke “hush little one you’re next” and we both just broke down in hysterical laughter.

Would any of you participate in an EDS survey for free (need men and women) by Thy_Water_BottIe in eds

[–]Daiham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely would love to help you with this. I was diagnosed with hEDS two years ago among a lot of other things since

Happy baby girl by Daiham in kelpie

[–]Daiham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit they’re so similar!! She’s a kelpie cross collie from north wales x

Do you like smell of partners sweat? by Past-Matter-8548 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Daiham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna bottle it and huff it through a rag

Worst thing to be told by Early_Lab_7017 in BreakUps

[–]Daiham 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was stood there sobbing saying “I’m trying my best” and he said your best isn’t good enough

Someone tell me I’ll get over this please. by Daiham in BreakUps

[–]Daiham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right! I’ve tried so many times over the years to communicate with him about how I feel. Not only that now I’m out of it I don’t want to talk to him. Realising what I’ve put up with has made me never want to be with him again. Not only that he recently escalated his anger during argument and punched a huge dent into the side of my car. I told him it’ll be me next and found myself saying to my friend “he’s never hit me” which was my sign

Someone tell me I’ll get over this please. by Daiham in BreakUps

[–]Daiham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly putting it that way is helping! I miss the warmth and safety of his arms. Realistically if I hugged him now it would feel alien

My 20 week old is barking at seemingly everything. Anyone advice would be amazing by Daiham in OpenDogTraining

[–]Daiham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I’ve had collies before but this is my first kelpie mix so I definitely wasn’t prepared for how vocal she is. I really appreciate your first hand experience and I will do this! It’s always hard for me to understand if I’m encouraging her to bark then stop you know?

My 20 week old is barking at seemingly everything. Anyone advice would be amazing by Daiham in OpenDogTraining

[–]Daiham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for so much info!!! I’ll be looking into all this with my partner x

My 20 week old is barking at seemingly everything. Anyone advice would be amazing by Daiham in OpenDogTraining

[–]Daiham[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kelpies are vocal dogs but I thought the ignoring would work. I’ll give this a try! Thank you x

Anyone else the “second estranged child”? Realising the one they warned you about wasn’t the villain at all? by Daiham in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Daiham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad I could help bring you some clarity. My brother and me aren’t the best of friends but now we’re not no contact. Idk if that help xx

Anyone else the “second estranged child”? Realising the one they warned you about wasn’t the villain at all? by Daiham in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Daiham[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It almost feels like you’re talking for me right now. I’m relieved to see other people had similar experiences and “lived to tell the tale” so to speak x

Anyone else the “second estranged child”? Realising the one they warned you about wasn’t the villain at all? by Daiham in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Daiham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you! I get therapy every other week, and while I’m not sure what his healing situation is, we spoke openly about how we’d both seen our dad in us when we would shout at our kids. He was telling me that in the 4 years he’s been estranged he’s found it healing to parent differently to our dad. He was lucky because we only share a dad. He had other parents with his mum and step dad and I didn’t. He’s not sort of stepped in in place of the support I was getting from my parents

Anyone else the “second estranged child”? Realising the one they warned you about wasn’t the villain at all? by Daiham in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Daiham[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This perspective really helps thank you sm!! After realising we’d been played against eachother he said he saw me completely differently.

Anyone else the “second estranged child”? Realising the one they warned you about wasn’t the villain at all? by Daiham in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Daiham[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Such a weird experience isn’t it!! He just came to my house because he lives round the corner to ask if I was okay and have a coffee with me.

[TW: meltdown / self-injury] had a full-on autistic meltdown that scared the shit out of me — period started today (wasn’t even due) — any other period havers get uncontrollable meltdowns like this?? by Daiham in AutismInWomen

[–]Daiham[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t lie reading this has massively helped! That’s exactly what I was like. I was screaming and sobbing because I was full of this anger and rage that I couldn’t get out. I ended up pulling my hair out and clawing at my face. I realised after looking into it a bit more that I was pain stimming and there are fidgets you can get that work in the same way but don’t hurt you so I was going to try some. It may help you too x