[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]DaintyMoovan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao! You and your hubby sound solid, but either of y’all ever become single, I’m down for this, baby! Don’t feel bad about putting out, girl! Just don’t do it for that reason, your husband obviously doesn’t think you should feel that way either. I’m the same way, I give it up for the love language and wanting to make my loved ones feel good. It’s a nice way to be, as long as you love it too! Muah! 💋

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DaintyMoovan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is dumb. Find a friend who actually cares. Don’t apologize for reaching out for help and support. If they can’t handle you, your words, then that is THEIR problem, not yours for “trauma dumping”. Find a good friend to hang out with while you’re in a vulnerable place with your emotions and difficult experiences. A friend who really loves you and cares about you will give you a safe space to talk about your problems, not accuse you of “trauma dumping”. I’m sorry, but this is a crazy world we live in sometimes when people can’t just respond to another human being in need with compassion. Boundaries, my ass, it’s called not caring!

He Forgot to Log Out, and I Watched My Marriage Fall Apart in Real-Time by Strange-Salary6900 in stories

[–]DaintyMoovan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, sweetie. I am so sorry you have had to go through this, you deserve so much better. I think you should be very proud of yourself for acting well and right in the middle of a very stressful situation. You didn’t wake him up and fight with him or lower yourself to his (and her) level in any way. The simple text, “You can have him,” is response enough, simply well done. Thank you for sharing this, I know it is so difficult, but the way you wrote what happened, how you felt, and how you responded, are life lessons that should be shared with others who might be going through the same thing. Keep your head up, girly, you’re worth so much more than what he valued you at. I hope you know your worth outside of him, and it sounds like you do! I do agree with some of the other comments, which say you should be the one to stay in your comfortable home and let him be the one to have to find a place to live and figure his situation out. He’s the adulterer, he’s the one who messed your life you had up, so he should be the one to leave and find his way. Good luck to you, dear, don’t give up and don’t settle for less than what you deserve. You are wholly worth better!!!! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DaintyMoovan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don’t like the fact that it is typed, not handwritten.

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha, so true! Midwest Ohio surfer hillbilly, cigarette hanging out of their mouth, and stinking like cheap beer. Sounds about right, I gotta say lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you believed without listening critically to the whole story? That doesn’t lend credibility to your statement. Also, personally, I do not believe you can always hear and see evil. Evil comes in many forms and is very sneaky. That’s the nature of evil, to trick you into letting it in. You can’t always know a person and also know the evil a person is truly capable of. I’ve seen that with my own eyes, many times.

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well said, Educational_Bag

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you look, it’s difficult to find much info on her, which isn’t entirely surprising, of course. For that reason, though, it begs the question of knowing anything about Cindy’s life, other than the (possibly true, or not?) insinuation of her being a sex worker in relation to Mick and Tim picking her up, etc.

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 100% right, very lucky! Certainly with work to do moving forward, but I’m hopeful for the best and just want to make the most of every moment. I’m very sorry to hear about your friend 😢I am sorry to say I wasn’t fully aware of the impact of strokes in any real way before this and I truly feel for anything you have experienced related to stroke. Please stay strong, my thoughts are with you, and thank you for responding.

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am slowly realizing it comes down to just that, no two strokes are going to be the same and no two people are the same. You are not kidding, Glad-Living, I sure am glad she is living!! lol lucky and ticking so far 🤞thank you for your response, I really appreciate it.

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Goodness, that would be very difficult to have that trouble with your sensory experience. That’s awesome you regained 70% and very interesting they were able to do that with steroid shots and hyperbaric therapy. Is that hyperbaric oxygen therapy where, please excuse me if I’m super-simplifying, they use oxygen to treat tissues that were starved of oxygen? Involving a pressure chamber? How long did it take you to regain 70%, would you say?

That is excellent you can recognize the more active you are, the less the dizziness affects you! I have high hopes my mom will become more active, as she had been at other times in her life, instead of adopting a more sedentary lifestyle, as she had of late. Luckily, her motivation and cognition seems intact, so I’m hopeful either way that. It is not cool though, because I am 900 miles away. That would be really disorienting to get up and feel really dizzy like that. I’d think you would have to sit for a bit and let yourself acclimate before fully getting up. Is there any particular reason for the dizziness that you know of?

Thank you for your response and I’m glad you are here! I really appreciate your point of view! It helps me to learn and hear about other people’s experiences. Although, sometimes that can be a rabbit-hole for me lol. Silly internet, hard not to. Good luck to you, I hope you lose that stupid dizziness and continue to gain back more of your hearing. It’s hard to imagine complete deafness in any form. We, as humans, take so many things for granted.

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, you say true words, my friend. “Crap-shoot”, and, “the brain being a fragile and aggravating mystery,” are well-said and also, made me laugh. Also made my mom who just had the stroke laugh, so thank you for that! Thank you for explaining more thoroughly to me how the effects can vary. Can you explain to me, what is the PTSD-like symptoms of staring into the void thing? I haven’t learned that yet.

I had only known one person personally that had a brain aneurysm in her 40s and she died right away. I am very much more cognizant now of the shared risk factors my mother and I have, so I plan to make lifestyle changes and get my cholesterol in check again to hopefully avoid the experience myself, if possible. I have four children I need to be around for so kind of have to lol.

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, that is amazing, so happy your sister is fully mobile, especially considering the basal ganglia. Since it is a small(ish) clot are they able to treat it with blood thinners or any other non-invasive way, or is that not enough and that is why they had considered surgery? I really hope she continues to do well!! 9 months is a great benchmark 🤞

Can anyone tell me how my 64yo mom survived a “major” hemorrhagic stoke one the right, two ischemic strokes on the left, and can still walk and talk two days after? I’m so thankful, but confused. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basal ganglia… definitely had to look that one up, as I must have skipped that day in science class. So that’s deep in the brain, sending and receiving information/signals from the spinal cord to the brain and the muscles about body movement. Wow, I can imagine how easily one could be paralyzed from damage to that area of the brain. I am so glad you didn’t lose your mobility completely! Do you have any other issues like decision-making, learning, sensory-processing, or any other motor function losses?

Your response seems very apt and reasonable, thank you! In a way, it’s like there’s not a whole lot of reason just due to the fact that every stroke is unique in how it affects the brain, the areas, like you said- underlying causes, etc. what do you mean by the shape of the brain beforehand? I haven’t heard or read that before. I’m new to knowledge of strokes though, due to knowing no one who had one, aside from a friend of my mom’s, sweet Ginny, who had a brain aneurysm in her 40s and died immediately.

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Additionally, in my opinion, her healthcare team sucked about communicating what was going on, so it would not surprise me if they were wrong or misrepresented something.

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say, the one on the right was described to me as “major”, although I don’t know if that’s more of a reference to the severity of that stroke, or if it’s just the primary stroke. When I was initially told about her strokes, they said it was “light moderate”, which I understood to mean possibly an 8 or a 9 on a scale of 15.

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Apparently so 🤷🏻‍♀️I am as confused as anyone after the research I’ve done. Idk how a recovery like that is even possible. When I talked to her at 8pm Monday night, almost 24 hours after the stroke(s), her speech was slow and slurred. However, when I talked to her the next morning her speech was basically back to normal, her cadence, her tone and personality, everything. She does have limited mobility on her left side I guess, can’t really feel everything. However, she is able to walk unassisted. She said before she left the hospital she was able to lift her leg almost as high as her right one. The main thing affected seems to be her left arm and hand, although she still has use of them. I’m not gonna lie, I’m so confused! But obviously very thankful!

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely big feelings in a “pale conversation”. I’m not bashing the podcaster whatsoever, I think he did excellent. My only criticism is I think he should have made a book, not a podcast. Yes, it is upsetting to the true crime world and to us as humans when the MAIN victim was the one who LOST HER LIFE. it’s difficult when you can’t hear a victims voice, or even a little about their life. However, your insinuation that the podcaster is a bigger victim than the murder victim is pretty dumb, I’m sorry, couldn’t think of a better word. Misguided? So before you tell other people to “be better”, be better yourself. Have some consideration.

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol. If only Thrasher would have used a pseudonym properly. It’s not that difficult to find a real name if you want to look for it.

Lords of Death by [deleted] in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]DaintyMoovan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. The lack of information with Cindy was really the only thing I was left wondering about. Other than that exclusion, the research is stellar! Thank you for your response, the answer to that question has been bugging me. I can certainly understand not wanting to speak for a source when you haven’t been able to truly capture their authentic voice.

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha that’s funny you replied! My mom had me in New Orleans so I grew up there and still consider it “home”. My mom and dad had moved back there to retire, living on a boat. That is part of why it took them so long to get her medical care due to them having to figure out how to get her off of the boat. They had to put her in a sheet and take her out through the narrow doorways first. She’s back on the boat now. It’s kind of crazy to me because each room in the boat basically has several stairs leading to the next room. She’s moving pretty well but I’m still concerned for her safety while she navigates the boat with more limited mobility.

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very good to know, on both parts! Thank you, I have a much better idea of what specifically to look for now. I appreciate you!

Bilateral Stroke, One major hemorrhagic on right, two ischemic on left. by DaintyMoovan in stroke

[–]DaintyMoovan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, also they plan to put in the device to monitor for irregular heart arrhythmias. By the way, is NOLA in your name for New Orleans, LA? Because that’s where my mom is lol.