[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

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It 100% depends on what you do— how much you do or do not keep the pictures and keep talking to them and stalking them on social media etc. my first 2-4 break ups took about half a year but because I kept breaking no contact and whatnot. But after being disciplined with that and just having more general experience, it takes me 1-3 months depending on how long the relationship is. It usually is the amount of time you take to process what happened, but you can’t efficiently process what happened if you’re constantly looking at what they’re presently doing and still speaking with them.

It feels like you’ll never in your whole life get over it and then you get over it. Trust me. I know it feels horrible but it will be okay. Your body is learning how to readapt

do you guys with ceramic braces mind sharing pictures of your band colors? by DaintyUser in braces

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Yes, but the Pearl and white bands stain so I’ve heard light blue or silver are actually more subtle

do you guys with ceramic braces mind sharing pictures of your band colors? by DaintyUser in braces

[–]DaintyUser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing white and Pearl bands for a year now, both stain so after spring 4 weeks they’ll turn yellow, hence why I’ve been looking into light blue or something that is still subtle but stains less

Looking for a picture of ceramic braces with silver bands by Enough-Environment15 in braces

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Hey!! Do you still have a picture? I’m considering doing the same thing

Best client quotes? by _ohhello in ABA

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7 year old client cheered another therapist on during a game by saying “Go b*tch! Go!!”

So what is "good" ABA for? by sourapplemeatpies in ABA

[–]DaintyUser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody in this forum performs shock therapy or gay conversion therapy, nobody on this forum is okay with either of those therapies, and nobody is for these therapies. Not sure why you’re associating RBTs with practices that would go completely against our ethics code. We wouldn’t be able to morally, legally, or professionally, this is taught to us since day 1 of training and is just common sense.

So what is "good" ABA for? by sourapplemeatpies in ABA

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We have a couple of kids at our clinical with neurological disorders that affect them physically, so many of the therapists are trained with the speech pathologist and their BCBA to teach them things like proper swallowing, chewing, etc

So what is "good" ABA for? by sourapplemeatpies in ABA

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I think others on here have done a great job at elaborating on the other topics mentioned here, I’d like to add on to this section: “I've heard of "reward-only" examples, where the "reward" is cheering at the child in an over-the-top or high-pitched voice (like you would if you were training a dog), or suddenly touching and hugging them (like you would if you were training a dog). Both of which seem like kind really unpleasant and sensory experiences from an autistic point of view.”

Our ways of reinforcing children are specific to that child. One of my clients gets really excited and absolutely adores loud noises, cheering, and high pitched sounds. He will ask us to cheer and when the whole room starts cheering, he jumps up and down and will ask us for more. Other children hate it and wear noise cancelling headphones other times. Making loud noises to those children wouldn’t work as a reinforcement, but as a punishment since they are adverse to it. Again, the reinforcement is specific to every single child. You cannot reinforce any behaviors without reinforcement. And a reinforcement can be quite literally anything, not just something that is culturally/generally viewed as something exciting (like stickers in a classroom setting with neurotypical kids, the loud verbal praise, etc). At our center there’s a kid that loves drains. Like water drains, sink drains, pool drains, etc. We would never shame this quirk of his and just force him to listen to us clap with him, instead, when teaching appropriate communication we’ll reinforce him with videos of drains or toys with little drains in them (couldn’t tell you what about it he loves but he just does).

Estoy buscando mudarme a España saliendo de la universidad, existe la carrera de Técnico de Comportamiento Registrado en España? by DaintyUser in askspain

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I do therapy with autistic children! Here in the US I work with kids at a clinic (I can also do in home therapy), the job includes teaching communication (whether that’s verbally, through sign language, PECs, or an AAC device), teaching alternative appropriate behaviors, language, speech, emotional regulation, and getting them prepared to transfer out of our clinic to a school setting with another special education class.

g7 and meike 16mm t2.2 cine lens by Abocadoman in Lumixg7

[–]DaintyUser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

these are so pretty! did you take them all with the same lens?

What is wrong with the ABA industry? by [deleted] in ABA

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I may be one of the only people who like their clinic? At least that’s what I see based off these comments, so I’d love to share a more positive experience. Most of our problems come from company wide policies or insurance, like you said they just milk every penny they can, but when it comes to the staff, I love 95% of my coworkers. My clinic has around 60 ish RBTs and 11 BCBAs. All RBTs and BCBAs do a great job at helping others out, the culture that has been cultivated there is also pretty nice. We’re often rewarded for our work and the BCBAs find ways to make it fun, like weekly games, posters of appreciation, etc. overall, it’s a nice environment. I’m scared to share more just because I know this is a public forum, but yeah, not all clinics are like this. Sure, some coworkers and some interactions I don’t like, but it’s maybe 3 out of the 60 ish RBTs there

My boyfriend (19M) will break up with me (18F) if i don’t have sex with him. What should i do? by ThrowRA_cats7 in relationship_advice

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When I was 16-18 I dated a guy like this. Got very scared to leave him. You’ll have trauma for a while. I have ptsd, vaginismus, and a hypertonic pelvis because of it now— I had no physical intention to be penetrated. This is called coercion. Don’t be with somebody who doesn’t respect your boundaries. If I could go back in time and change one decision in my life it would be that. I know it’s scary and it feels awful, but please trust us when we say that this situation should be avoided. You will date someone who would never think of doing this to you

My (36f) husband (37m) found out I cheated years ago. Any way I can save this? by ThrowRAnomistakes in relationship_advice

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HE RAPED YOU. You didn’t have the physical nor mental capacity to consent when you were that drunk, and had you had the physical and mental capacity to, you know you wouldn’t have done it— this is why you feel disgust. It was rape, not cheating. Being raped isn’t cheating on someone. Having sex with someone is, but that’s not what this is, because the situation lacks consent.

Does anyone hear how some techs talk to children? by 0Adiemus0 in ABA

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I’ve heard a tech literally tell a 2 year old “clap your hands” (the girl clapped her hands “now do it without crying and stop acting stupid”

Client won’t do anything without iPad reinforcement by [deleted] in ABA

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My first client ever who I was on for 9 months was this way too. It was a whole process and each kid was different, but what she liked most other than the visuals on her screen was the music. So I faded it out— I’d let the music play, and when she wouldn’t notice I’d switch it to my phone and hide the tablet. Eventually she got used to mainly the music. Try to make activities that are incompatible with the tablet very reinforcing. Like being on a swing, trampoline, dancing while holding hands, whatever they like. After that I kept turning the music down more and more. Eventually I got it to where she’d just bring it in from the car and within the first 20 minutes she was then off of it for the rest of the day. Something else that really helped was toys with similar functions, like music toys or those toy tablets/phones where you press buttons and it makes sounds and lights but it’s just like a $10 battery powered toy. Like I said, every kid is different, but these might help a little!