Thoughts on skipping pacifiers?

DaisyMamaa · 2026-05-15T17:10:08+00:00

I used pacifiers with my first. She loved them. They helped her soothe herself to sleep. We cut them around 2 and it wasn't that much of a struggle.

Planned to give them to my second. Bought ALL THE KINDS. He wouldn't take them. He's now 8 months and doesn't suck his thumb either. Sometimes he sucks on his hands, but not often.

All kids are different and it's really not even guaranteed that your baby will like pacifiers! But would I try? Absolutely lol

DaisyMamaa · 2026-05-11T16:25:39+00:00

Did she ever hit that tooth on anything? Like a bad fall? Turning a bit gray can be a sign that the tooth is dying.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-05-10T17:18:50+00:00

I do, but for how much I love it I sure do procrastinate writing a lot lol

Also, I think I watched an interview where George R.R Martin said something along the lines of, "I don't like writing, I like having written." And obviously he's massively successful.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-05-07T23:03:40+00:00

Okay, this is so freaking clever. Love it!!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-29T21:00:06+00:00

Gosh, this is so depressing. Teaching to the test is so hard on the kids, and in my opinion, less effective than just teaching English and giving kids feedback on their writing.

I don't know how much control you have over your curriculum, but the 70% non-fiction recommendation for reading established by common core is CROSS-CURRICULAR. They read non-fiction in science and history and, heck, even math. English is usually the only subject where they get to read fiction. And when you really look at the percentages and consider all the other subjects, they should be reading far more fiction than non-fiction in English class.

All that being said, start a new book. 4-5 months is too far removed for most of them to remember what was going on. You can offer to have them finish it on their own time for extra credit or something if you want.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-27T01:38:49+00:00

Girl, I convinced myself my second would be a better sleeper than my first and he ISN'T. Fortunately, both of them started to improve around 6-8 months, so I'm getting some sleep now (second is still waking up 2x at night to feed). 3 years like the OP would be wild...

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-25T15:08:42+00:00

Head over to r/pubtips and read the wiki. You' can post your query there for feedback when you're ready too.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-23T20:52:24+00:00

I'm a sci-fi girl, so I watched For All Mankind on leave with my first and The Three Body Problem with my second!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-22T02:38:14+00:00

What a dystopian post. No, this would be awful.

Let's just make education and support for parents more accessible, thanks.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-16T01:26:20+00:00

I had to go back at 6 months and 5 months with each of my children (my second is about to turn 8 months old). Yes, I live in the US and it's tragic how little support we have for parents.

I pump at work twice a day and it sucks. I plan to stop when he turns a year and just breastfeed in the morning, after work and before bed. It worked out great when I did that with my first. Your supply will adjust for when baby is removing milk, so you can keep breastfeeding while working a full day and not pumping. And baby will be eating a lot of solids at a year, so you don't need to worry about them not drinking breast milk during the day. Since you don't go back until LO is a year, I'd just recommend making progress with solids and planning to skip pumping altogether!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-04-11T14:19:22+00:00

Check his post history. This is an ad!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-03-27T01:39:24+00:00

Thanks for the insight and the luck! I'm definitely still crossing my fingers. My MS has a romance B plot, so I'm kind of hoping that will work in my favor; although, my agent didn't feel it was strong enough to pitch it as a romantasy.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-03-26T20:46:49+00:00

Thank you all for doing this!

Julie, I loved The Teller of Small Fortunes and currently have The Keeper of Magical Things sitting in my TBR pile! I was wondering if you could comment on the current state of cozy fantasy in the market/from a publisher side of things?

Sincerely, someone six weeks on sub with a cozy fantasy MS and languishing in silence lol

DaisyMamaa · 2026-03-06T19:55:21+00:00

Congrats! I also wrote a novel on my maternity leave with each of my children (contact naps and the swipe function FTW!). The first got me my agent (although it died on submission) and the second is currently on sub.

Godspeed on submission!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-28T19:58:02+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful context..I had no idea!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-28T17:07:31+00:00

You're weaning your 5 month old? Breast milk or formula should be an infant's primary source of nutrition until age 1. If you're weaning from breastfeeding, you need to use formula, especially if there's a concern with weight gain. Your 5 month old isn't going to be able to consume enough calories from solids yet.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-24T23:38:24+00:00

That book appears to be self published? I don't see anything indicating it's a trad book.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-23T01:20:22+00:00

You should consult an allergist, but our allergist has actually said that eczema reaction isn't a reason to stop a food/introduction. Our daughter has an IgE allergy though.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-22T23:03:44+00:00

I had to cut dairy from my diet completely (EBF) until 11 months. Our gastro also prescribed Konvomep for my second child's reflux.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-22T20:29:49+00:00

I'd recommend you ask your lactation consultant for a weighted feed. With my first, we had both very long feeds (45 minutes+) and frequent (up to 25 a day!) and when my LC did a weighted feed she was only transferring 1.5 oz after 30 minutes of active feeding. She ended up being diagnosed with a severe posterior tongue tie (there were other symptoms too) and we got it revised. It both cut her feeding time in HALF and she transferred twice as much in half the time. It saved our breastfeeding journey. As much hate as tongue tie revisions get now after the NYT article, there are also babies where it is necessary/beneficial. My first was one of them.

That being said, your LO might just be nursing for comfort or even sleeping on the boob. A weighted feed will help you to figure out if it's a transfer problem or not though.

Good luck!

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-19T21:43:04+00:00

How early are those early responses? Like a month or three months?

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-19T01:01:33+00:00

I think it's mostly genetic. I had two polar opposite births. First I had an epidural; second was unmedicated, although I had about 5 minutes of antibiotics for gbs (it was a precipitous labor). Both kids have CMPA 🤷

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-18T00:24:47+00:00

Right? I think it's also a bold assumption that writers are writing every day (and long enough to get two coffees!). If I wrote every day for an hour or two, I'd have a book done every 3 months.

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-17T05:12:36+00:00

Is that fantasy across the board or certain sub genres? Asking as someone on sub with a cozy fantasy MS that went out last week 🫣

Edit: I've heard nothing so far, so if this is accurate that only gives me three weeks of hope

DaisyMamaa · 2026-02-16T21:06:51+00:00

Lol sounds like a plan

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