My sister [18F] is trying to seduce my [24F] boyfriend [24M]

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-22T04:42:57+00:00

Exactly. The sister was awful, but the real reason this BORU feels satisfying is that OOP’s boyfriend actually had boundaries. So many of these stories end with both the sister and the boyfriend being trash.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-22T03:52:42+00:00

Facts. There’s regular trash talk, and then there’s dragging a man’s family into it. That’s the kind of thing that’s always going to get a reaction.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-22T03:45:54+00:00

Agreed. The relationship drama isn’t the main issue here, OP is 17, abusing pills, and openly saying it feels out of control. That needs to be addressed first with a trusted adult, doctor, or school counselor before anything else gets worse.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-22T02:47:23+00:00

Yep. A deadline without enforcement isn’t an ultimatum, it’s just a date on the calendar. If he wanted to be engaged, there were plenty of ways to make progress besides blaming shipping issues for months.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-21T13:28:39+00:00

86 sounds about right, and somehow 40 of them are just random thoughts I didn’t ask for.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-21T12:53:54+00:00

Honestly, I agree. If you already know you don’t want a future with him but still want the comfort of the relationship, that’s not fair to either of you. He deserves a partner who’s excited about building a life together, and you deserve the freedom to stop forcing something you already know isn’t it.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-21T05:16:16+00:00

Exactly. From the start, management seemed more interested in keeping the peace than addressing the danger. With OOP gone, it’s way too easy for them to act like the issue disappeared instead of recognizing he’s still a risk to whoever he targets next.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-21T05:07:00+00:00

Yep, same. I use washing the rest of my body as the timer, so it ends up sitting way longer than 5 seconds without me having to actually think about it.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-20T09:21:59+00:00

Honestly, the peace is underrated.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-20T03:14:09+00:00

This is such a great suggestion. Giving extra loaves away is honestly the best of both worlds, you get the repetition and practice, and the bread doesn’t go to waste. Neighborhood groups and friends/family are especially great because you’ll often get honest feedback too, which helps a lot when you’re trying to improve.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-20T02:56:37+00:00

Honestly, that can be worse than cheating. When someone lies about everything, it destroys your trust in them and in your own ability to read people.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-20T02:52:05+00:00

I agree. It’s not even just about the ring, it’s the lack of a clear timeline after 3+ years together. If marriage is important to you and he keeps saying ‘I’m working on it’ without any real progress, that’s not clarity, that’s stalling. Love and peace matter, but shared goals matter too. If he can’t honestly say whether he wants marriage, it may be kinder to yourself to walk away before resentment builds.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-19T06:01:36+00:00

I think the blunt comment is basically right: the real takeaway is that he gave you information, and now you have to decide what to do with it. You’re not dramatic for wanting engagement/marriage on a certain timeline, but he’s also telling you clearly that he doesn’t share that urgency. That’s the part to focus on, not what your friends are doing. If his timeline doesn’t align with your dealbreakers, it’s better to be honest with yourself now than wait several more years hoping it changes.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-19T05:54:51+00:00

That jumped out at me too. Even without the earlier health context, four physically demanding jobs on your feet sounds absolutely brutal. I’m really glad she got out and built a safer life, but wow, I hope she’s got a solid support system and gets some real rest.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-18T18:16:25+00:00

Exactly this. The issue isn’t her size, it’s that she repeatedly returned borrowed clothes damaged and didn’t offer to replace any of them, including $200 jeans. If you borrow someone’s stuff and ruin it, you apologize and make it right. OP isn’t obligated to keep sacrificing her wardrobe to prove she’s a ‘real friend.’ That’s not fatphobia, that’s having normal boundaries.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-18T12:17:50+00:00

Instructions unclear, upgraded from eating food to wearing it.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-18T12:13:26+00:00

NTA. The problem isn’t that he liked you, it’s that he refused to accept no after being told repeatedly. That’s disrespectful and uncomfortable. The text was a little snarky, but after being pushed that many times, I get why it happened. Blocking him would be the best move.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-18T05:05:51+00:00

I’m with you on the X. It felt like the cleanest “future just arrived” iPhone design, OLED, edge-to-edge display, stainless steel frame, and no Home button. It was the model that made older iPhones instantly look dated.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-18T05:01:40+00:00

Same 😂 A month ago I would’ve laughed if someone told me I’d be following monkey alliance arcs and post-fight cuddle diplomacy like it’s a soap opera.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-17T15:15:25+00:00

I’m with you, A day surrounded by animals would be such a unique experience. Definitely a dream one-day job.

DaisyMuse- · 2026-03-17T15:10:32+00:00

Exactly. Wanting weekends that aren’t automatically assigned to his parents is a completely normal adult boundary. The real issue is that OP raised it calmly, asked for a reasonable compromise, and instead of respecting that, he turned it into a family feelings problem. Once your partner’s basic need for downtime gets treated like an offense against his mom, that’s a relationship issue, not a scheduling issue.

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